Expert: Pastor Don Carpenter - 10/1/2009

Question
If you are called to serve God as a Pastor and you know the work on your desk that is your all is needed,how can you handle your marriage and the work without neglecting the other?

Answer
Thank you for this great question.  I have a few tips that will help you juggle both a ministry and a family.

1.  Set a defininate schedule.  Just like any other jobs, it is not unreasonable to say, that this is my scheduled work time, therefore I am unavailable.  Pastors sometimes seem like they are available because they do not have to punch a clock, therefore some do not see a problem with you being flexible with family needs, but this can create a tremendous struggle.

2.  Work in the office not at home!  Again, if you are at home, it seems like you are available to conversation, deal with children, or even run errands.

3.  When you are scheduled to be at home, be at home!  Do not take work with you.  Be 100% wherever you are, do not try to be both pastor and family man at the same time.  Comartmentalize your dime and energy.

4.  Have a date night.  Set a time that you take your wife out.  Make it a regular time, and block it as solid as you would a deacon's meeting or visitation.

These are some things I have found to be helpful through out the years.  I am sorry for my late response, but I hope that this helps you.

In Christ
Pastor Don