Expert: Brenda Martin - 10/20/2009

Question
I'm 19 and I'm a born again Christian...but lately i have been finding myself distance from God. I find myself questioning some stuff. Even sex, I had premarital sex numerous time with my first and only boyfriend and i liked it, i don't feel guilty about it either. My Boyfriend doesn't believe in anything. I have tried to talk to him but finding myself asking some of the same questions he is asking me. Sometime i feel like I'm going to church because my mom tells me to go. I had so much disappointment in my life which lead to me lacking of faith. As to my boyfriend, we want to get marry someday but he doesn't want a religious ceremony which is what i want. I guess in general i don't know what to do. I have so any questions that i can't get answer to. So i was wondering can you give me some advice with some of these questions?
Thank you so much in advance

Answer
HI Lovely, you said--"I have so many questions that i can't get answer to, can you give me some advice with some of these questions?

Be happy to :¬)

"born again Christian"

did you know that the bible says this is a limited number?

"I had premarital sex & i don't feel guilty"

when our conscience doesnt work it shows it hasnt be trained properly, good bible knowledge & appreciation for what we learn makes our counscience sharp & alert to wrongdoing.

"finding myself asking some of the same questions he is asking me"

Again this shows you are missing out on bible education, when I attended church I had loads of questions that were never answered & I only went to church because my mother took me, but after I studied the bible for myself my questions were answered.

"we want to get marry someday but he doesn't want a religious ceremony which is what i want"

Just breifly; the bible advises to "marry only in the Lord" in other words another believer,but why not discuss the bible here with me before you decide :¬)

If you have any questions at all, I will be happy to discuss them here with you ok.

all the best
brenda