Expert: Carl Fuglein - 12/18/2009

Question
I'm 14 years old and there is this kid "Logan" who I do not get along with and I really have tried to but can't seem to like him. So there are these other kids, honor students who I talk to sometimes and I like them but one of them put a wallpaper of a little boy giving the middle finger and the words f-ck off! on 3 of the computer lab computers and then a girl and a boy put the same photo on another computer. Logan is not the best student and he gets in trouble a lot and so these kids are planning on blaming Logan. They probably already called each other to get their stories straight. Who ever gets in trouble for this could get suspended. Bryan says that it's OK because Logan does not like the school anyway and wants to get suspended or expelled. I have heard Logan say this before a few weeks ago.

I don't know what to do. I don't like Logan but I don't think it's fair that he should get blamed for something he had no part of. Then at the same time what if he really does still want to get suspended if I let this happen he would have his wish and I could keep my friends. What should I do?

I hope you respond quick because I need to act fast.

Answer
Not so sure I'd call your friends, friends.  Doing something wrong and blaming someone else?  What kind of friends are those?  Maybe next time they'd blame you.

I think the best thing you can do is give Logan a heads up and tell him what's going down, and then I think you need to man up and tell your friends that what they're doing is wrong, ever if it is well intentioned (although I hardly think that getting someone suspended because they wanted it was "well intentioned".

Seriously dude, you know what the right thing is, so do it.  Tell your friends to own up to the prank.  If you don't stop them now, who knows what they'll do next.  

Finally, I think you need to find some friends who don't think pranking and bullying is fun.


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Treyvon - I'm proud of you for doing the right thing.  You may someday regain the trust of your friends, but I think you're better off without them.  Good for you, telling the truth is not always easy, but it is always right.