Expert: Pastor Don Carpenter - 2/9/2009

Question
i am a guy who loves serving God but i cant help thinking about sex, though am a virgin, and i want to remain so till am married because i fear God but every time i see a sex scene on movies or any where i cant help but want it i know this is bad becuase i am under this bondage, i try to masurbate but i dont know if is wright or wrong. and i also love doiung things like singing worldly music and and talking abouyt sex, please i need help on all this issue, i want to stop but i dony know how

Answer
Hello,

Thanks for this great question.  You are facing the battle all guys do.  You are right to fight it.  One thng that I can suggest is that you change the food you feed your brain.  Garbage in.... garbage out.  If you are watching movies with sex scenes, then it will be hard to keep your thoughts clean.  If you are listening to worldly music with bad lyrics, it will be hard not to think about them.

Force the bad stuff out by consuming the right things with your mind.

Philippians 4:8
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.  
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

Renew your mind every day through reading the Bible and prayer.

Romans 12:2
2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

Use Prayer, the Bible, and Christian fellowship to take control of your thoughts.  Replace the bad stuff with good stuff.

2 Corinthians 10:4-5
4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)  5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;  
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

Do not allow yourself access to things that will cause you to stumble.  

Romans 13:14
14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

Yes, Masturbation is a sin... do not start that, you will open the door to a dark enslavement.

Matthew 5:27-30
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.  30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

I hope that this helps you.

In Christ
Pastor Don