Expert: Pastor Don Carpenter - 5/4/2009

Question
what are the actual opitons?

Answer
Hi Velma,

Thank you for this great question.  Sex is a beautiful and open thing within marriage.  The basic rule is that sex needs to be only between the husband and wife( no pornography or anyone else involved in any way).  Sex needs to be others centered.  The wife is focused upon meeting the needs of the husband and the husband is focused upon meeting the needs of the wife.  As far as technique, positions, or types of sex, the Bible is pretty open about those types of things.  Basically, enjoy and meet the needs of each other.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

Yes... oral sex is in the Bible...  written in a poetic language and described in a book about sex.

Song of Solomon 2:3
3 As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.   
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.

I hope that this helps you.

In Christ
Pastor Don