Expert: Brenda Martin - 7/8/2010

Question
i have been a Christian since i could choose. i was raised that way. i believe in God. and i want to live like God. but recently i found this girl that i really like. i love her. i trust her. and i just feel really comfortable with her. i know the Bible says homosexuality is wrong. and i am aware that dating this girl isn't right. but she treats me better than any guy has ever treated me. and i guess i just don't know how to look upon this. my mom accepts more than my dad. but its just an issue. i cant help who i am. and they think it could be a phase. but for now i cant help but love her and know how i feel about her. how should i feel about this? i know everything in life happens for a reason. and i know that in the future i will never regret anything i have done in the past. but i am almost 16 and i just want to know what to think of this. thank you for your time.

Answer
"i know the Bible says homosexuality is wrong"

Do you know just how serious it is though?--

Rom. 1:24-27: “God, in keeping with the desires of their hearts, gave them up to uncleanness, that their bodies might be dishonored among them . . . God gave them up to disgraceful sexual appetites, for both their females changed the natural use of themselves into one contrary to nature; and likewise even the males left the natural use of the female and became violently inflamed in their lust toward one another, males with males, working what is obscene and receiving in themselves the full recompense, which was due for their error.”

1 Cor. 6:9-11: “Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men . . . will inherit God’s kingdom..."

True Christians know that even deeply rooted wrong desires, including those that may have a genetic basis or that involve physical causes or environmental factors, are not insurmountable for persons who truly want to please God. Some people are by nature highly emotional. Perhaps in the past they gave free rein to fits of anger; but knowledge of God’s will, the desire to please him, and the help of his spirit enable them to develop self-control. A person may be an alcoholic, but, with proper motivation, he can refrain from drinking and thus avoid becoming a drunkard.

Likewise, a person may feel strongly attracted to others of the same sex, but by heeding the counsel of God’s Word he can remain clean from homosexual practices. (See Ephesians 4:17-24.) God does not allow us to go on thinking that wrong conduct really makes no difference; he kindly but firmly warns us of the consequences and provides abundant help for those who want to “strip off the old personality with its practices, and clothe [themselves] with the new personality.”—Col. 3:9, 10.

Jesus said people are on 2 roads; the broad road, that allows anything & everything, or the narrow road that only allows what God states, we cannot be on both roads, we chose either to live God's way, or our own way.

for more advice on this subject go to www.watchtower.org & look for the "Young People ask book" here are some of its chapter headings--

Chapter 23
What About Sex Before Marriage?

Chapter 24
How Can I Say No to Premarital Sex?

Chapter 26
Masturbation—How Can I Fight the Urge?

Chapter 31
How Do I Know If It’s Real Love?

Chapter 34
Why Say No to Drugs?

Chapter 38
What Does the Future Hold for Me?


Im sure you would love this book Its free of charge just ask them to send you one, you can even ask someone to call on you to chat about the bible.

all the best
Brenda