Expert: Dr Tim Gladu - 10/26/2011

Question
I have a question me and my boyfriend we love each other very much we believe in God but my question is ..... I'm not shy to show or let God come in my life about having sexy with my boyfriend is it wrong I prayed to God but I didn't get a answer I'm still waiting but is it wrong if u know yur gona marry this guy u love each other very much and not shy to show God what you doing is it wrong ?

Answer
Leandre,

The Bible tells us that the only time we should be having sex is within the binds of marriage. If we have sex outside of marriage then that is fornication and it is a sin. You have to remember that God designed sex to be wonderful and an expression of love between a husband and wife. What the world has done with sex is turn it into something casual and not intimate as it should be. I would also want you to remember that you have a gift to give your husband on your wedding night and that is your virginity. You have to make this decision as we all have free will. I just want you to understand what God has to say about sex. Nobody is perfect and we all sin. You do have the ability to resist having sex but Christ is the one who can give you that strength. If you truly are going to marry this guy then he will understand and be willing to wait until you are married. He should have enough respect for your decision and wait. If you have already had sex then that does not mean you can't make a commitment to not have sex until you are married. God will honor your commitment and restore you if you truly repent and ask forgiveness. Just think how great the sex will be on the wedding night if you have waited and honored each other and stayed pure in the eyes of God. Please fill free to ask any questions you might have no matter what the subject. I truly make an effort to answer questions as soon as possible.