Christianity --Youth Issues/Lust for future wife

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Hallo.
I am a 17 year old guy. I know that the Bible say that you may not have sex before marriage and that it is a sin to lust for a woman. Lust is basically adultery in Jesus' eyes. But you may have sex with your wife. Is it then wrong to lust for your future wife? I am a normal teenager that thinks a lot about sex, but recently I have had a lot of guilt feelings about these thoughts. Is it a sin if I think about having sex with my future wife?

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Tony-

I would say no, it's not a sin.  It's sort of a catch-22 - lusting is a sin, but sex with your wife is not, but how do you know if the woman is right for you unless you lust for her?  Just don't get carried away and let the lust consume your every thought, and if accompanied by frequent masturbation, then you may develop a problem.

Hope I answered your question.  If not, write again.

Blessings,
Carl

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Carl Fuglein

Expertise

I can answer questions from teens & young adults concerning their faith walk and on social issues which affect their lives. I can answer questions on sex, homosexuality, and drugs and anything else that might be troubling you. After 30 years in youth ministry, nothing shocks me, and I promise to give straight answers to any and all questions. I can also answer questions from youth workers on problems they`re having with programming or with their groups.

Experience

I have been involved in youth and young adult ministries as a volunteer for over 30 years. I am currently a volunteer youth minister in a suburban UM church - I have a small group of 7th and 8th graders.

Organizations
United Methodist Church, Chrysalis, Walk to Emmaus, Cursillo

Education/Credentials
Several training seminars, 8 years at National Youth Workers Convention, 1 year at Princeton Forum on Youth Ministry

Awards and Honors
Certified lay speaker for UM Church

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