Expert: Pastor Don Carpenter - 7/12/2011

Question
I am a catholic (20 now). i was 16 when i had my first boy friend, who was 19 and catholic too (but not a firm believer). We went on for 2 years without anything physical except holding hands which did not arouse us both but was just comforting. After 2 years we broke up because he almost lost his mother in an accident. He then took life seriously and started working and building his life. We were on and off for sometime. I thought he wouldn't get serious with me again. At the same time i had a very good guy friend (my age, few months younger) who is a Hindu. He was my comfort when i was sad. I wasn't very close to God then. He started developing feelings for me. I said no to him since he was not a catholic. But eventually i gave in cause he kept me happy and understood me and i in turn wanted him to be happy. But a few weeks since i said yes to him my ex came back to me completely. He explained why he did the things he did and asked forgiveness. I did forgive him. But now  don't know whom to be with. It breaks my heart to be with one and hurt the other.
Also i started reading many answers here and started knowing God better. Also all experts have different views. I dunno whose view is pleasing to God. And i don't want to displease God.
i wanted to know on what basis do i choose? i know i'm a li'l young but still. Please help me in what ever way you can. Thanks.
I just thought its better to ask help then choose without guidance.
I have been praying but getting different answers. Maybe it is my short coming in not knowing or understanding the right answer :(
I don wanna drift away.
(just in case: i held the 2nd guys hand without feeling anything. but when he kissed my hand m not sure but i think it turned me on)

Both wont pressurize me for anything i don't want..n sex before marriage is not a issue... (being an Indian things are not like U.S.A. and other places, no offense)

Answer
Hi Nisha,


Thank you for this great question.  I am sorry for my late response.  I am glad for your commitment to purity.  I know that you can get different oppinions from different experts.  Let's take a few munitues and see what the Bible says.  If you have trusted Jesus Christ alone to save you from your sins, you are a believer.  If He has not, even though he is religious, the Hindu would biblically be considered an unbeliever.  Let us take a few moments to see what the Bible says.

2 Corinthians 6:14–17 (AV)
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,


God's Word says you should not date an unbeliever.  If you go with anyone, it should be the one who is committed to Jesus and leads you in that direction too.  I hope that this helps you.

In Christ
Pastor Don