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| Subject | Date Asked |
| are hand jobs and fingering okay? | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: I'm 19 and Catholic. My boyfriend is 21 and technically is not any religion although he has tried a ... A: Yours is a very subjective question, and almost impossible to answer. The answer that you need to ... | |
| Having "masturbation" and being a catholic :) | 1/16/2012 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old girl who is a catholic. I am very itching to ask this question but can't seem to ... A: Patricia- First of all, if you believe in Jesus and that He died for your sin, you are NOT going ... | |
| Holy Spirit | 1/16/2012 |
| Q: i am a born again believer that experienced quite a traumatic coming to christ and yielding to the ... A: If you're worried about committing the unpardonable sin, you can't commit it. Why? Because if you ... | |
| Hypnosis Fetish | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: Hey Carl, I am currently a senior in high school, and I've had a hypnosis fetish since freshman ... A: The danger comes two ways, I think. First, what if you hypnotize someone and they don't come out of ... | |
| Hypnosis Fetish | 1/7/2012 |
| Q: Hey Carl, I am currently a senior in high school, and I've had a hypnosis fetish since freshman ... A: I appreciate your trusting me with your questions. I can honestly say that I've never had a ... | |
| Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: I could go on forever on this question, so I'll try to make it short. I'm deeply scared that I have ... A: Alice- It's difficult to believe in the inerrancy of the Bible because it contradicts itself so ... | |
| Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: I could go on forever on this question, so I'll try to make it short. I'm deeply scared that I have ... A: Alice- I cannot imagine a God so small that He would not forgive someone like you who comes to Him ... | |
| An Eternity Issue | 12/2/2011 |
| Q: Fuglein, Please forgive the length of the long "question" below, but it is a serious issue that I ... A: Tressa- First off, please call me Carl or Mr. Carl. Mr. Fuglein is my father, and he's deceased. ... | |
| Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit | 12/1/2011 |
| Q: I could go on forever on this question, so I'll try to make it short. I'm deeply scared that I have ... A: Alice- I agree that if you're worried about it, you can't really be doing it. Although this is a ... | |
| Apostasy | 11/29/2011 |
| Q: Good evening, Hope all is well. My name is Dan. I wanted to first thank you for your helpful ... A: The argument of "once saved, always saved" is one that has been argued for centuries. My belief? I ... | |
| Lust for future wife | 11/21/2011 |
| Q: Hallo. I am a 17 year old guy. I know that the Bible say that you may not have sex before marriage ... A: Tony- I would say no, it's not a sin. It's sort of a catch-22 - lusting is a sin, but sex with ... | |
| Questions | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: Ive been reading a lot of your answers to people concerning sex and masturbation, and I think you're ... A: You said: I don't have a lot of people in my circle who are married much less who I trust. I guess ... | |
| Questions | 11/5/2011 |
| Q: Ive been reading a lot of your answers to people concerning sex and masturbation, and I think you're ... A: Quick answwer to the last question. I will answer others probably Monday - I've got a full day of ... | |
| Questions about wikkens.... (idk if that's how you say it....) | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm becca. I really like this guy that goes to my school. I was raised in the typical christian hone ... A: It's called Wicca, and he is called a Wiccan. It's essentially the religion of witches, and is ... | |
| BDSM | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm 14 an a girl. Anyways, I saw the other post about BDSM, though that person was older, so I ... A: I'm proud of you - it was very brave of you to do. You say you're shy, yet you wrote to me. I'm ... | |
| troubled | 10/1/2011 |
| Q: I was raised in Christian home. I've always been a good kid, I always tried to do the right thing. ... A: The fact that you are feeling guilty is a good indication that God is convicting your heart, i.e., ... | |
| Bdsm | 9/24/2011 |
| Q: I am sixteen and I find myself being drawn to bdsm. I am a masochist, an I enjoy being tied up and ... A: Kat- I would consider seeing a therapist, talking to your youth leader, talking to your parents, or ... | |
| Guilt from sexual experiences | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I am 16 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. Recently, we've been getting more and ... A: Maggie- Thanks for writing to me. It took courage for you to do that and admit what you've done, ... | |
| homosexuality | 8/28/2011 |
| Q: I am 14 years old and very involved in musical theatre. From that, I know many gay people. I am very ... A: Amber- Thanks for writing. I, too, have a few gay friends, and am probably about as confused as ... | |
| sex | 8/21/2011 |
| Q: my first question -did God make sex 4 pleasure? 2ndly-why does God allow sex only in marriage but ... A: Leja- I beleive God created sex both for pleasure and for reproduction, perhaps equally. God's ... | |
| Baptism, marriage advice | 8/20/2011 |
| Q: I am stuck and need help, I have been dating my first serious boyfriend for a number of years, we ... A: I think that probably both of you need to answer thisDo you truly want to be married to each other? ... | |
| A significant picture, or a cousin of porn? | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: Fuglein, This is a question that I really wonder about. I'm 13 by the way. So, since I've gotten a ... A: Danielle- Okay, here's the deal. At 13, I'd be very surprised if you DIDN'T feel "fluttery" at ... | |
| saftey of my soul | 8/6/2011 |
| Q: Fuglien, I have been a Christian all my life and I have tried to live a life pleasing to God ... A: Alex- First, I have to ask, why would you trust me when your pastor, your family, and your ... | |
| Questions about Faith | 7/28/2011 |
| Q: Umm... Hi Pastor , I'm Haley.I I have a few questions, but they aren't really related to each other. ... A: No, I don't think you need a psychiatrist, you just need someone to talk to. You're definitely not ... | |
| confused :( | 7/13/2011 |
| Q: I am a catholic (20 now). i was 16 when i had my first boy friend, who was 19 and catholic too (but ... A: Nisha- I'm just telling you that your Hindu friend may be a friend, but I don't think you'll be ... | |
| confused :( | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: I am a catholic (20 now). i was 16 when i had my first boy friend, who was 19 and catholic too (but ... A: Nisha- Thanks for writing and trusting this old man to give you wise counsel. Only because I'm old ... | |
| relaishonships | 6/25/2011 |
| Q: im in desperate need of help i can tell that you say the truth, though love lol and i think thats ... A: Evelin- Thanks for writing. It's a mature thing to do, asking for help. At the age of 14, you ... | |
| Sexual Temptations | 6/23/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so before i get into my questions, I feel like I need to really explain the situation. My ... A: Amber- Thanks for writing. You've made a very mature decision in understanding that you do have ... | |
| Church problems resolving conflict | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: The question I am asking how do I put this all behind me? Cuz I do miss some of them members there ... A: Selina- First of all, I am NOT a pastor, just a lay person. I'm sorry for all the trouble you've ... | |
| boundaries in a chaste relationship | 5/28/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 16, and were good friends before we started dating. We have really, ... A: Christina- I think you're cheking out your boundaries, and walking very much on the edge of ... | |
| Tattoos | 5/28/2011 |
| Q: I've always liked the idea of having a small tattoo on my wrist, but I never seriously considered it ... A: Carmen- I don't have any problem with tattoos, unless they're anti-God or devil insired. I ... | |
| Writing... immoral? | 5/27/2011 |
| Q: and thanks in advance for your time. Moving right along, I'm a hetereosexual Christian girl, and I ... A: Alora- Well, I have to admit, that's the first time I've ever gotten this question, but I don't ... | |
| Issues | 5/23/2011 |
| Q: Hey Carl, I'm Wyatt and I'm 16. My girlfriend and I have been dating almost for a year now, and in ... A: Wyatt- I actually answered this a couple days ago, but apparently didn't hit the right sequence of ... | |
| I Might be a Lesbian | 5/22/2011 |
| Q: I am 27 years old, and as a child (age 7) I was sexually abused by a much older man. I never ... A: Ann- First of all, I'm not a pastor, I'm a youth minister. I'm not ordained. Just call me Carl ... | |
| I want to be nearer to God | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: I have always longed to be closer to god because although i come from christian background, i really ... A: Yvonne- Thanks for your candor. Being 23 is that kind of middle ground where many people tend to ... | |
| Struggling(long story, bt i really need help) | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: im michelle and im 15 years old. Ok so, actually, my dad is a pastor, so ive grown up in a very ... A: Michelle- Congratulations! You've just come to the realization that you're human! Michelle, we're ... | |
| I want to be nearer to God | 5/15/2011 |
| Q: I have always longed to be closer to god because although i come from christian background, i really ... A: Yvonne- I'd love to answer your question, but I need more information which I think is critical to ... | |
| Relationships | 5/3/2011 |
| Q: Well here it goes. I started dating my incredible boyfriend 8 months ago. He is honestly perfect ... A: Alisha- Unfortunately, I don't have a good answer for you, but I will tell you this - unless you ... | |
| baptist and catholic | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: are baptist are now allowed to get into relationship with other religion like catholic? A: There are many, many, different variations of baptist church - there is no one central baptist ... | |
| Is it ok for a Christian to go clubbing? | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: Is it wrong for a Christian to go dancing at a club? I know God judges the motive of our hearts so, ... A: Jonathon- Thanks for your kind words about my essay. I actually first wrote that over 15 years ... | |
| How far is too far while still keeping it interesting | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old and so is my boyfriend of about a year. I have already read your article "How far ... A: Anna- Nobody said it was going to be easy resisting temptation, did they? The point is that God ... | |
| my dad | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: Is this weird? The other day we have a special service for our church. We come home, me (I'm 17) ... A: Cassy- Thanks for getting back to me. I'm sorry your dad is mad at you. I'm proud of you for ... | |
| sex outside of marrige | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I am 35 and had sexual encounters with a girl that I was head over heals for. We are both very ... A: Alan- I think your girlfriend is wise. And I think that there is plenty of hope for you. Back off ... | |
| Sexual stuff | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: So my girl friend and I are both Christian. We have been together for about a year. But just ... A: John- I wanted to give you a copy of my essay about "how Far is Too Far" which I think you and your ... | |
| struggling with bisexual feelings | 3/1/2011 |
| Q: I attend a women's college and have never given a second glance at any of the students here, because ... A: Josie- If you're a sophomore, and have never had any feelings towards women before, I would think ... | |
| my boyfriend...it's confusing... | 2/26/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm 15 and a Christian who's gone to church all my life. I've been going out with my ... A: Joanna- It's hard for me to say what's too far. Why? Because too many people are looking for an ... | |
| my boyfriend...it's confusing... | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm 15 and a Christian who's gone to church all my life. I've been going out with my ... A: Joanna- You are NOT going to like my answer, so be prepared: 1) you have made some very bad ... | |
| Christian dating | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both Chrisitians, and are wanting to take our faith seriously. We want to ... A: Jen- It's hard to do, but it can be done. Many museums are free. Walks in the park are free. Get ... | |
| marriage | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: It may take years for you to develop the kind of relationship that's satisfying to both of you-cud u ... A: People change over the years. My wife and I have been married 42 years - we're both different ... | |
| QUESTION ON MARRIAGE | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: Is age a matter when it comes to marriage. I am 23 and my friend is 11 month older. People say God ... A: Marriage age is more a cultural than Biblical matter - it depends on the culture you live in. It's ... | |
| tattoos | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: My daughter is 11 and attends a youth group through our church. Her youth pastor is 23. He was ... A: Tammy- Society is changing, that's for sure. When I was growing up, only sailors had tattoos. Now ... | |
| tattoos | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: My daughter is 11 and attends a youth group through our church. Her youth pastor is 23. He was ... A: Tammy- It sounds very difficult for you to accept tattoos. What, exactly, do you think is wrong ... | |
| tattoos | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: My daughter is 11 and attends a youth group through our church. Her youth pastor is 23. He was ... A: I don't think it is appropriate for a youth pastor to be asking an 11 year old ideas for a tattoo, ... | |
| its getting confusing | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: Ok, this is a bit of a long story. I've been with my bf for 6 months. I'm 17 and he's 21, but that's ... A: Not exactly sure what your question is. Keep praying, and don't put that much stock in your ... | |
| Is dating my pastor's daughter a sin? | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: i am 17 years old, there is this girl i have been having feelings for, i think she has feelings for ... A: If dating is permissible in your church and community, dating your pastor's daughter is no different ... | |
| erotic/porn | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: whats yhe difference between erotic and porn pics?is seeing erotic things wrong thnks A: From the dictionary: erot·ic definition Pronunciation: /i-ˈrät-ik/ also erot·i·cal ... | |
| Wrong to have gay friends? | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 58 year old mom to 2 daughters, 20 and 22.All of us have gay friends on Facebook and we also ... A: Debbie- You sound like a pretty cool mom to me, and have a handle on things. Try these on your ... | |
| What can I do? | 1/9/2011 |
| Q: I'm a junior in high school and i just turned 17.My life is so hard right now. I know we have ... A: Rachel- You are in a really tough position, and I'm not sure I'm in a position to counsel you ... | |
| how to go about a relationship | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: I am nineteen years old an in college. I don't really have a boyfriend yet but there is a guy in my ... A: You are absolutely taking the right steps. I applaud your resolve to not have sexual relations ... | |
| Confused. | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: All of my family is atheist so I feel I should too. I'm too young to take myself to church, so I ... A: Ayren- Unless you're 18, there's not a whole lot that you can do except for pray, and try to find ... | |
| Relationship | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I am 20 yrs. old and my boyfriend is 21. (We barely started going out a week ago) I have ... A: Gracie- Congratulations for making the decision to remain pure to God. You will not regret it. If ... | |
| baptism | 10/26/2010 |
| Q: im a 21yr old man and I will like to know that in order for me to get Saved and be Born Again, do i ... A: Nhlakanipho The short answer is no, you don't have to be baptized first. You don't have to be ... | |
| I think I want to become a Christian? | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16 and I wasn't raised in a Christian family, but my parents are pretty strict so I never did ... A: Sasha-lee- You are in a very difficult place, I know. You have to honor your mother and father, ... | |
| Dating... | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: Just a few days ago, I got a message that a girl from church likes me. I like her too, but there is ... A: You said: upon becoming a Christian last week, asked God to forgive her for it. She is deeply ... | |
| relationship | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: I am Christian... I really like this guy but he drinks,smokes,parties a lot... and I know that he ... A: The legal age to drink and smoke is 21. You cannot legally buy cigarettes or alcohol until you're ... | |
| relationship | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I am Christian... I really like this guy but he drinks,smokes,parties a lot... and I know that he ... A: You didn't tell me how old you are, or how old he is. If he is under 21, his partying, smoking, and ... | |
| Leaving home because my parents do not approve of my being a Christian | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: First of all, I'm really thankful God led me to this website. I really need someone to talk to and I ... A: Marie- Theoretically, your parents can't stop you from going to church because you're an adult (at ... | |
| Homosexuality | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: This is a question that perplexes me constantly, I just don’t see how it can make sense that God ... A: Raekwon I hear biterness in your letter. I'm assuming that you don't like being a homosexual. But ... | |
| Autisim Masterbation | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: Can you help me with my son, I need to know how to teach him the right thinking on masterbation he ... A: Janet- I'm sorry, but I don't think I'm qualified to answer your question in a way your son can ... | |
| revelations | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: is it true that some servants of God get direct revelation from God?If yes how to identify which ... A: Leja- Yes, that's true. There are two spiritual gifts dealing with two similar topics. (1 Cor ... | |
| 14 Year old watching porn | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: I'm concerned, last night I discovered that my 14 year old daughter is surfing porn sites. I am so ... A: Suazanne- I think the two most important things you can do right now (other than prayer) is to talk ... | |
| self-hatred | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: I am a bisexual. I fell in love with my best friend when I was eighteen (He wasn't gay, so it ... A: Alex- God, nor I, hate you. God loves you more than you know. You can be bi and be a Christian, ... | |
| Findinf the special person | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: Hey I'm 20 and a sophomore/Junior in college, and lately I've been trouble with somethings. First ... A: It's difficult sometimes to bare you soul to a complete stranger. First of all, God answers all ... | |
| Promises to God | 8/22/2010 |
| Q: When I was 14 or 15 I made A LOT of silly promises to God. I wasnt a true christian as I am now, and ... A: Jill- God will forgive you of your sin, no matterwhat. He will forgive you of your prmises, too. ... | |
| Sex before marriage with true love | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been going very steady for a while, we're quite young 18/17 and we have ... A: Dave- My advice is for you to discontinue the mutal masturbation. I think you're only fooling ... | |
| Tattoo's | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: Fluglien, we have spoken before. My question was about my battle with purity and finding the right ... A: Javine- I'm proud of you for doing what YOU wanted and needed to do to honor God. It will also be ... | |
| Promises to God | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: When I was 14 or 15 I made A LOT of silly promises to God. I wasnt a true christian as I am now, and ... A: Jill- Thanks for writing. I don't have time for a complete answer, but I did want you to know that ... | |
| God hates gay people? | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: My daughter is a 22 yr. old Christian,I'm her mom and she is really upset because her friend,a ... A: Debbie First of all, God doesn't hate anyone. What He hates is sin. BEING homosexual is not a ... | |
| Relationship | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: When I was 22 I started going to church and I split up with my boyfriend of 2 years because I ... A: I really have only one thing to say - run away from him as soon as you can. Being a single mom ... | |
| Tattoo's | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: Fluglien, we have spoken before. My question was about my battle with purity and finding the right ... A: Well, if you don't hide the tattoo, they will see it. I suggest you come home immediately and say ... | |
| Tattoo's | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: Fluglien, we have spoken before. My question was about my battle with purity and finding the right ... A: nice to hear from you. I LOVE your idea, but unfortunately, if you're under 18, you have to respect ... | |
| sin | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: if a person commits a sin and asks God to forgive ,will he still have to face the consequences of ... A: The Bible states that we all will stand in judgement before God, but if we have already accepted ... | |
| Problems.. | 8/6/2010 |
| Q: I've been having some belief problems lately. I'm 13, and I know that these kinds of things always ... A: Well, when people tell me that God should show Himself, I tell them that he does - every day at ... | |
| salvation | 7/22/2010 |
| Q: what makes a person born again/saved/child of God? according to Romans 10:9 a person is saved,does ... A: Leja= Thanks for writing. The concept you are talking about is called, "Once saved, allways ... | |
| Waiting untill marriage | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: I am 18 years old and currently about to start college. I grew up in the church and was blessed to ... A: Javine- Blessings to you for making that choice. When is the right time? Well, I don't want you ... | |
| How come? | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: I go to church every so often, and have just got back from 2 meetings at a christian youth ... A: Jasmine- Some people can tell you the year, month, day, hour, minute, and second that they became a ... | |
| I think I want to become a Christian? | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16 and I wasn't raised in a Christian family, but my parents are pretty strict so I never did ... A: Sasha- Your father has apparently been hurt by the church sometime in the past. It happens - we're ... | |
| Totally Confused!!! | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: Okay, so I really need some help right now. So I am a 15 year old sophomore. I have a friend, and ... A: It is a wise thought that you are questioning whether or not to date him. Many church leaders and ... | |
| Sexual Tension | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two years now, and have remained celibate, only ... A: Jay- I'm in the hospital right now, and not on my regular computer. I have a couple of essays that ... | |
| What should I do about teachers with odd ideas? | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I go to a private, interdenominational Christian high school. It's great - except for three teachers ... A: I don't mind the ranting, that's what I'm here for. Unfortunately, the only advice I have for you ... | |
| confession | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: few years back i had a bad sexual experience from a man.as i was younger, i was much more innocent ... A: Leja- I just realized that you are in India, which changes my advice. I don't think you should ... | |
| confession | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: few years back i had a bad sexual experience from a man.as i was younger, i was much more innocent ... A: Leja- What you are talking about, I think, is sexual battery and at least, statutory rape. My ... | |
| friends | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: My question is about friends. Often times I find myself isolated in my Christian faith because of my ... A: Matt- Sounds like God got a hold of you and convicted you of immoral behavior. Not that that's ... | |
| Religion | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I read a response to a girl's question where you said that you didn't know whether the Bible ... A: Isaiah 44 says in verse 5 Some will proudly claim, 'I belong to the LORD.' Others will say, 'I am a ... | |
| Tatooes | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 15 years old and i play the drums for my church worship and i was wondering if having tattooers ... A: I say go for it. You'll find out soon enough if she's right for you. As for your youth minister - ... | |
| Tatooes | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm 15 years old and i play the drums for my church worship and i was wondering if having tattooers ... A: Some people think that tatooes are bad on the premise that your body is a temple of Christ and ... | |
| Questions from the Curious | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: :) Now...perhaps I should make this clear in the beginning. I'm not actually a Christian. There ... A: 8. No. I'm sure that once you reach heaven, you won't have to exercise your free will. The ... | |
| Questions from the Curious | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: :) Now...perhaps I should make this clear in the beginning. I'm not actually a Christian. There ... A: You obviously have done some studying. I'm sorry that Christians have been unwilling or unable to ... | |
| spiritually dead | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: almost a year back i had a terrible loss in my life,shattering many of my dreams.the minute i came ... A: Leja- I think you're confusing these two things: God CAUSING something to happen, and God ALLOWING ... | |
| spiritually dead | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: almost a year back i had a terrible loss in my life,shattering many of my dreams.the minute i came ... A: Leja- all of us grieve differently. It sounds like you're still grieving. I think what you should ... | |
| baptism | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: i am a reader of your answers,it has helped me a lot.thanks for this ministry.would you explain the ... A: I'm presuming that you're talking about 1 Samuel 16:14. 1) Can God send an evil spirit? Of ... | |
| baptism | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: i am a reader of your answers,it has helped me a lot.thanks for this ministry.would you explain the ... A: Leja- I don't understand your question. Is baptism necessary for what? Do I believe that you ... | |
| unforgiveable | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: i am a reader of your answers,it has helped me a lot.thanks for this ministry.would you explain the ... A: 1) Honoring your parents. It means different things in different countries, I suppose, because I ... | |
| baptism | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: i am a reader of your answers,it has helped me a lot.thanks for this ministry.would you explain the ... A: Baptism, which is right Infant or adult? 1)Well, they're both right, depends on your church. Most ... | |
| Bi Bestie | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: I will spare you all the extra stuff and just try to make this really short. I'm Linc, I am 15 and ... A: I don't think you should dump your best friend just because he's bi, but you have to understand that ... | |
| unforgiveable | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: i am a reader of your answers,it has helped me a lot.thanks for this ministry.would you explain the ... A: The unforgiveable sin is in Mark 3:28-29 28 "I assure you that any sin can be forgiven, including ... | |
| Youth chaperone | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: A father of a youth of our church had a new year's picture posted on Facebook showing him holding a ... A: I'd ask the Pastor to provide a church doctrine or scriptural reason why this father has been ... | |
| which form of Christianity? | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: Gettin' sick of me yet? Lol. Just kidding. But yeah, I've got another question. In order to be a ... A: Here's a chart that compares the main non Catholic Christian churches to the Catholic church: ... | |
| overall sex and fun | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: im gonna be straight forward....i know there is a god i believe in god and jesus and all the stuff ... A: finering yourself isn't any better and is not acceptable just like masturbation. And masturbation ... | |
| killing | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: I'm back again. So, basically my question is, if you kill someone in self-defense (as they were ... A: You have such interesting questions. Killing someone in self defense may or may not be a sin, I ... | |
| overall sex and fun | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: im gonna be straight forward....i know there is a god i believe in god and jesus and all the stuff ... A: Franklin Regardless of what you've heard, oral sex and anal sex are very much a sin, and pretty ... | |
| overall sex and fun | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: im gonna be straight forward....i know there is a god i believe in god and jesus and all the stuff ... A: I've written an essay which I think is a perfect answer to all your questions. I hope it helps, let ... | |
| can people who don't believe go to heaven?/ going from hell to heaven? | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Me again... this time a totally different subject though, and I actually have more that one ... A: good questions. Everyone sins, even those who have not heard of God. I believe that there is some ... | |
| view on definition of 'sex' | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: .. I was reading one of your essays you posted (the one that starts out with the roller coaster ... A: Jen- I wrote first wrote that essay over 15 years ago, and I don't recall that anyone ever has ... | |
| sexual sins | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: Hey Carl I am a 20 year old European girl I grew up surrounded by unbelievers and I became a ... A: Well, I don't really know what to tell you. It seems like intellectually you know that as a ... | |
| It's Derrick again | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if you will remember me but my name is Derrick. My step-brother was the one who always ... A: I remember you Derrick. Wow. From calling you a fag to jacking off with you. That's a stretch, ... | |
| Saved? | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm Justice. I'm a girl in seventh grade. I've asked you a question on here before and I thought you ... A: I remember you. I remember your name, although I can't remember your question. I hope I helped. ... | |
| Hand jobs or oral sex before or even when married | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: I am Christian, and I know that the Bible says no sex before marriage, but what exactly does that ... A: Sure they are - when you're married. Before marriage, not so much. Read my essay below and see if ... | |
| youth group leader relationships | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have grown up in my church since nearly birth and once in youth group I became a youth leader. My ... A: Rule # 1 of youth ministry: Thou Shalt NOT date thy students. This rule is in stone. You can't ... | |
| all knowing vs. choice | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: If God is all knowing and all powerful then He already knows what I will do tomorrow. That would ... A: Jim- Good question, and I'm not sure I have a good answer. This is just one of those things that ... | |
| Sexting | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: I started having a flirtatious relationship with a guy who attends the same church I do. Well, the ... A: Lols Thanks for writing and trusting me such a sensitive topic. You obviously know that what you ... | |
| masturbation | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: I am an assit. youth leader. I just had a girl ask me about masturbation. She told me that she does ... A: It doesn't have to be a sin to be wrong or bad for you. I think the use of a dildo probably crosses ... | |
| masturbation | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I am an assit. youth leader. I just had a girl ask me about masturbation. She told me that she does ... A: Masturbation is a tough call. Somehow it seems like it ought to be a sin, but it isn't in the ... | |
| 15 yr. old daughter cutting | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: Recently, I discovered that my 15 yr old daughter has been cutting herself. She tells me that she ... A: Linda- Thank you for trusting me and contacting me. I have not had any students that cut (that I ... | |
| spankings | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: Is spanking still allowed today? And if it is what about bare butt spanking? I ask because ... A: Carmen- Spanking an 11 year old at all is too much. I stopped spanking my daughter when she was ... | |
| getting someone in trouble | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 14 years old and there is this kid "Logan" who I do not get along with and I really have tried ... A: Not so sure I'd call your friends, friends. Doing something wrong and blaming someone else? What ... | |
| Spirit Baptisim | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: Have you, as Paul asked Johns' disciples, "received the Spirit since you believed?" ANSWER: Yes, ... A: I'm not sure where this conversation is leading to, but I feel no obligation to answer your ... | |
| Masturbation | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: I was just wondering is it right to masturbate if you're a christian? Is there anything wrong about ... A: Don't feel alone - this is a question that I am asked frequently. Here's the best answer that I've ... | |
| Question | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: why does God let there be such awful diseases that make people suffer so much...such as cancer and ... A: Miss Kitty- God doesn't want you or anyone to suffer. God Himself suffered when they killed His ... | |
| hello | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem...I am 20 yrs old a junior in college...I live at home (my college is like 25 miles ... A: Miss Kitty- Two suggestions. First, go live in the dorm! It's not too late. The college isn't ... | |
| Sexual temptations | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: Okay I am 16 and my boyfriend right now is almost 18 and I really like him. I have made it clear to ... A: Bradlee- The temptations show that you are human. The fact that you control the temptations are ... | |
| Sexual temptations | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Okay I am 16 and my boyfriend right now is almost 18 and I really like him. I have made it clear to ... A: Bradlee- My essay on How Far is Too Far is perfect for you. I've included it below. Bottom line ... | |
| Step Brother | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: My name is Derrick I'm 14 years old, I have a new step brother as of almost 4 months ago, from day ... A: D Roc- I thought I sent you a long answer to this, but it doesn't seem to be posted, so I'll try ... | |
| masturbation | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: Im 17 years old. Raised a catholic my whole life. I have just found a new obsession with ... A: Interesting question that I get asked a lot. Here's an answer. Is Masturbation a sin? ... | |
| Self habit | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I am trying to quit masturbation, it is very tough. A: See my essay below and see if that helps. Is Masturbation a sin? Masturbation is not mentioned ... | |
| Dating a Non-Christian | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: i'm in love with a boy who is a non-christian. u abuses me and treats me badly. but i forgive him as ... A: MInal- Yes, please do pray for him, but you have to leave him. He will turn to God when he decides ... | |
| Quick Question | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I read on the net the following and need to know if it is true. Especially the last portion. As you ... A: What is the reference? Is it from scripture? I'm not familiar with it. And, I'm not Mr. Stroud - ... | |
| Masturbating | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: Is masturbating with your girlfriend against god and if it is then is masturbating on yourself also ... A: Yes, maybe. Yes, doing it with your girlfriend is a sin. Masturbating by yourself may or may not ... | |
| forgiveness | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: I was dating this girl for almost 3 years and i really loved her. When me and her first started ... A: Edgar- i think the best thing you can do is forget about her and work on your relationship with God ... | |
| homosexuality | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm 26 and a new Christian. I've been saved for one year. Before that I've been openly gay since I ... A: Kenneth- It's going to take time to reconcile your Christianity with your sexuality. God calls you ... | |
| How to live in this modern day of age | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I have several questions to ask about how to live life and follow Jesus but I dont want to bombardge ... A: Questions 1, 3, and 6 are the same. Once you are saved, you are saved. You will continue sinning ... | |
| Christianity and Dating | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: alright, so here is my issue, i am 15. i have a really good friend and he is a few years older than ... A: It's a good question you ask, and it's good that you ask it when you're just making out and not ... | |
| Piercings, nail polish, and clothes. | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and a freshman in college. I'm Lutheran and I believe in my faith. My father is the ... A: Melanie- Good news and bad news. The Good news is that God doesn't really care what you wear, how ... | |
| Fetish question | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: to start this off my name is Greg and I am 20 years old. This is a tough question for me to ask, and ... A: I would try very hard to avoid the masturbation - it sounds like it is becoming an addiction which ... | |
| Sexual Fetish | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: Hey Carl. How ya doin'? I have a question about sexual fetishes. I know God says that homosexuality ... A: Sorry I'm late with answering this, but I've had an incredibly busy weekend, and I'm about to leave ... | |
| Fetish question | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: to start this off my name is Greg and I am 20 years old. This is a tough question for me to ask, and ... A: You're right and wrong about my hearing about sexual fetishes. I've had several questions about ... | |
| help please | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: i am 15 and i admit i have made i mistake.i want to repent and become pure again at least at heart.i ... A: Kourtney- Ask God for forgiveness, and He will forgive you. If you truly want to repent, then go ... | |
| Porn Money | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: My name is Taylor, I'm a 19 year old guy and I recently rededicated my life. I had a friend who let ... A: Taylor- Thank you God for Taylor's decision to come to you. It's a tough call, but if you ... | |
| Loving Heaven | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: First question- is it okay not to go to church but still believe in god? I mean...the thing is, in ... A: These are both very good questions. I'll do my best. Yes, it is okay to believe in God and not go ... | |
| dream | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: i had a dream there was like a gathering of sort at a sister of mine's house and an angel came and ... A: Bennie- Sorry, I don't interpret dreams. I have crazy dreams myself and I find myself wondering ... | |
| "Am I ok?" | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: I have very conservative parents, my Dad's a southern baptist preacher, and my mom teaches at a ... A: Rachel- A little bit of light, playful BDSM between a husband and wife is fine. But if you get ... | |
| Should I live with a homosexual? | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem and I wld rly like someone else's point of view on it! At the moment I am ... A: Sarah- I would think the appearance of a woman living with a man, even though they are not in a ... | |
| Jesus | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: Is jesus our only savior? If so what about Moses? A: I am the way, the truth and the life, no one can come to the Father but by me. John 14:6 Jesus is ... | |
| Can you lose your salvation | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I have Accepted Jesus as my lord and personal savior. Im just wondering can I lose my salvation A: Jonathan- Depends on the denomination you're in and your individual beliefs. Some say yes, others ... | |
| Lack of Faith | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My name is Justice and I'm a 12 year old girl. I've gone to a Christian school since I was 4. All my ... A: Justice- Masturbation is a really complicated question. I'm actually surprised that you actually ... | |
| Kissing in a church. | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: My name is Zach Harper, I'm 15 years old and a pretty strong Christian. I met my girlfriend about 8 ... A: Zach- Depends on your church - some would find it a real problem, others not so much. You'll have ... | |
| What does he mean? | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: What does it mean for a guy to say that he is spiritually attracted to you and you are pure in your ... A: Danielle- I haven't got a clue. Why don't you ask him? I've never heard of anyone "spiritually" ... | |
| Homosexuality | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: Sometimes I go to the sauna.From time to time it happens that another boy is touching my penis,and ... A: Andre- Touching and stroking your penis is sexual immorality. Kissing you probably is. A massage ... | |
| Youth issues | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: My question is about what did the Bible say about relationships? I am talking more about the limits ... A: Nina- From a Christian perspective, it is NOT okay to have sex prior to marriage. God gave us sex ... | |
| A few questions from a male teen. | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I am a christian and have a few questions. First of all is it a sin to masturbate? People say it ... A: Jim- I didn't think you were rude, it just sounded like you were looking for a loophole, sin wise. ... | |
| A few questions from a male teen. | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I am a christian and have a few questions. First of all is it a sin to masturbate? People say it ... A: Jim- Whether or not masturbation is a sin is an unanswered question. You are right in saying that ... | |
| Porn | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: My name is jake i just turned 16 and i have a severe addiction to porn and masturbation i know its ... A: Jake- sorry, no loopholes. If you think it's a sin, it probably is. Any addiction is definitely a ... | |
| premarital sex | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: I started having sex at a very young at. I was just 13. I'm almost 16 now and have found God within ... A: Amanda- You know the answer to your own question. Of course it's wrong to keep having sex. Just ... | |
| heaven | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 14 year old boy who goes to an Episcopal church, sometimes. My dad grew up in it but my mom ... A: It seems as though your parents would rather be in the Episcopal church. With that in mind, I think ... | |
| So, if I'm correct. | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jennifer, and I'm a young teen attempting to keep on the narrow path to heavan, as most ... A: Jennifer- Simple answer? Keep on keepin' on. You're not the only one with problems with sinning - ... | |
| Sex | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Fuglein. My name is Dee and I'm 19 years old. My boyfriend's the same age as me and we've been ... A: I get this question a lot - "How do I forget about all those people I had sex with before I met my ... | |
| I'm not a virgin, and I'm a little lost on my religion. | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: I've grown up with religion around me. Not as much as some people, but it has been there none the ... A: Here's some verses for you to ponder. There are several others, but this covers the idea: Proverbs ... | |
| sex before marriage | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: my name is Chenelle and I am 21 years old..You know for quite a long time I believed that people ... A: Chenelle- What you do with your body is your decision. Is it a sin to have sex before marriage? ... | |
| Other religions apart from Christians | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I am 12 years old and a proud Christian, but I have concerns. I have best friends who aren't ... A: Addie- This is a very difficult subject to understand, and it's taken me a lifetime to understand ... | |
| help would be nice... | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: :) okay, so i have had this nagging question floating in my head about whether my family (Dad, mom, ... A: Kelly- It's not your place to worry about your family as to their Christianity - all you can do is ... | |
| praying in the home | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: can women or girls take turns saying prayers in the home when a father is present also? please give ... A: Carol- There is no reason that I know of why women cannot pray, with or without the father around. ... | |
| Point of Contact | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: My name is Zen, I'm 15 and I have been a Christian since I was 10 and I have seen a lot of ... A: I'm not sure what she means by "point of contact" either. I guess it's just something physical, ... | |
| Lost .... | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: Heya! I don't really know where to start.. hmmm.. okay so, i finished my last year of sundayschool ... A: Charlize- What a WONDERFUL idea. If you don't have your own youth group, start one. You are truly ... | |
| Leaving Home and My Parents | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19 years old, And I am ready to leave my home. I am ready for reasons such as I want to have my ... A: Carroll- Your father addressing family issues from the pulpit is absolutely wrong. My opinion is ... | |
| Is dating a non-christian ok? | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been stuggling with this issue for the past couple of months, I do hope you could help me! I ... A: Jennifer- You have to ask yourself this: where do you see this relationship heading? Is it just a ... | |
| On and Off with God | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: So I'm not quite a preacher's kid but my parents have been heavily involved in the church since I ... A: Johan- The simple answer is: you're human. All of us fail occasionally, all of us have a crisis ... | |
| Highschool/church | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: Hey everyone, my name is Ryan Kissinger and I just finished highschool. I am going to tell you a ... A: Well, first off, I'm very sorry that you didn't get to walk with your class. Graduations are very ... | |
| I dont | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: Since the year started I have not gone to church And i don't know why; I would very much like to ... A: Ivans- The preacher is not the church. The PEOPLE are the church. You have to be happy at least a ... | |
| why should i not do it? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I am a 18 yr old Christian. I have engaged in some "heavy petting" only once with my 19 yr boyfriend ... A: Tessa I like your name, it's unusual, but has a certain ring. Good question. I don't have time at ... | |
| I am lutheran thinking of/dating a catholic | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 17 and I an thinking of/dating a catholic she's 15 but I don't know what to expect with this ... A: Good news: She's Christian. Bad News: She's Catholic. Actually, Catholic and Lutheran aren't ... | |
| I caught my son & daughter | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Carl, Thanks for the opportunity to ask you and you are the teen expert. I desperately need your ... A: Hala- I think you have the situation under control, and there's not much more that you can do. ... | |
| oral sex | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: I've received Christian-based education since my childhood and that's the best thing in life, and, ... A: First of all, when asked a question like that, I hope you didn't act shocked or surprised. Teens, ... | |
| Non christian friends | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: In my youth group the junior high girls have to lead one group. I wanted to teach them about how to ... A: Two really tough questions. 1. How to deal with friend's using God's name in vain, and joking ... | |
| I caught my son & daughter | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: Carl, Thanks for the opportunity to ask you and you are the teen expert. I desperately need your ... A: Dr. Hala- First of all, I am not a Dr., merely a youth minister with a heart for teens and a good ... | |
| how to get a boyfriend | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: his name is Matt.I really wish he would notice me or even like me.How do i get him to like me my ... A: First of all, I think a 5th grader is too young to be dating or have a boyfriend. If you want Matt ... | |
| ??? | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old girl who is going through some very big changes. I recently have had urges ... A: Charlie- You already know the answer, don't you? You yourself say the Bible is against ... | |
| spirit body and soul | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: explain in simple words what the different in the spirit body and soul and what are their function ... A: No simple answer. Theologians would differentiate between soul and spirit, I'm not sure I can. So ... | |
| Swine Flu? | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: So if GOD creates a person that way,then that would be the same way as saying that He creates ... A: Corrina- I have no clue whether you're gay or straight or bi. It's not something I would be able ... | |
| Swine Flu? | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: So if GOD creates a person that way,then that would be the same way as saying that He creates ... A: God creates us all good, and with free will to choose from good and evil. Because of Adam and Eve's ... | |
| Sexuality? | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: Well it says clearly in the Bible that being gay or a lesbian is wrong,an abomination which means ... A: Corrina- It's extremely difficult to understand, because it doesn't really make sense, but millions ... | |
| what do I say? | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: I am currently on staff at a mega church and am in a leadership role but I don't want to ask advice ... A: Alyce- I'm assuming that your friend is the girl's father? He would have to be, as you also talk ... | |
| Sexuality? | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: Well it says clearly in the Bible that being gay or a lesbian is wrong,an abomination which means ... A: If you look at all the texts that talka about being gay or Lesbian, they're actually talking about ... | |
| Fear of church? | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: All my life I have went to the same church, Fort Mill Church of God. I don't know where this came ... A: Briana- Thanks for writing me and trusting me with your feelings, but Briana, you didn't really ask ... | |
| masturbation | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm a Christian girl, and I was wondering is it wrong to masturbate??? Thanks! A: Neela- Tough question, and hard to talk about it. You've probably been told by everyone that it's ... | |
| Sexuality? | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: Okay well about my sexuality,if I pray to it about GOD,wouldn't He give me a clear answer of what I ... A: Corrina- God DID make you, no matter what you are. Most people believe that you are born with your ... | |
| Christian Music | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I have started listening to a lot of Christian music, most of it is Heavy Metal and really hardcore ... A: Sorry for the delay in answering, I just got a new computer and it's taking me forever to load ... | |
| relationships | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: im confused on the clarification of sexual immorality. as an unmarried couple is it ok to explore ... A: Terry- I agree that avoiding arousal is almost impossible, but if you stop when you first become ... | |
| relationships | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: im confused on the clarification of sexual immorality. as an unmarried couple is it ok to explore ... A: Terry- that's what I'M saying, but I think you missed the point. The point is, what do YOU think? ... | |
| relationships | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: im confused on the clarification of sexual immorality. as an unmarried couple is it ok to explore ... A: Terry- It's a difficult question, determining where a relationship crosses that line into "sex". ... | |
| Overweight | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm Devin, I'm 17 and about 40 pounds overweight, the youth pastor at my church lost 70 lbs and now ... A: I don't agree with your youth pastor - I think there is some validity in what he says, but to make a ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: So I shouldn't hurt myself because of this? ANSWER: You should never hurt yourself for ANY reason. ... A: Even if you don't listen to any other advice I've given you, LISTEN NOW VERY CAREFULLY. Do not ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: So I shouldn't hurt myself because of this? A: You should never hurt yourself for ANY reason. God loves you, and has a plan for you. No one ever ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: Well I haven't had sex with guys or girls but I plan on marrying a guy so does this mean that I am ... A: All troubling times sooner or later. When will yours pass? Hard to tell - you're just at the ... | |
| My Family Members make fun of me | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: When my parents were still married and I was pretty young, (I am 15 now) I was raised in a pretty ... A: Victoria- I'm so sorry you're having this difficulty. You cannot be responsible for making them ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I'm starting to feel attracted to my ... A: Bisexual is someone who is equally comfortable enjoying sex with both genders, no real preference ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I'm starting to feel attracted to my ... A: Probably. You have to understand something, at your age, your body is far more mature than your ... | |
| Sexuality? | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I'm starting to feel attracted to my ... A: After reading all that you wrote, I think mostly what you are is confused. For someone your age, ... | |
| My Step Brother | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: My name is "Tyson", I am 15 and my Mom got married recently and my step-dad is very nice, I have no ... A: Tyson- First of all, you should realize that you are probably not gay - sexual experimentation ... | |
| youth camping | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I would like a start a Christian youth camp organization(non profit). But i don't know what to do. I ... A: The fact that you're in Nigeria probably changes everything. Unless you have the backing of an ... | |
| youth camping | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: I would like a start a Christian youth camp organization(non profit). But i don't know what to do. I ... A: Peace- The first thing you need to do is build a business plan - there are several sites on the web ... | |
| youth camping | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I would like a start a Christian youth camp organization(non profit). But i don't know what to do. I ... A: How old are you? Do you have any capital to invest? Have you done a business plan? Are you ... | |
| Virginity? | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: I can't seem to forget about my boyfriend's sexual past. When I met him, we were both 17, and I was ... A: From a religious/spiritual point of view, I don't think that an act or two of sex would connect you. ... | |
| Boyfriend's past/present. | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: I can't seem to forget about my boyfriend's sexual past. When I met him, we were both 17, and I was ... A: I'm sorry for your problems. This is a perfect example of why we should wait until marriage for ... | |
| Social | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: Am a guy,who is 23 years old. I've been going dating this girl whom we agreed together that we will ... A: Desmond, Breaking up is not a good option. If you have sinned, ask God for forgiveness, and try ... | |
| Masturbation | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: I am 17 years old now, and I have really been sheltered from the outside world more than most of my ... A: Stacy- Your dad was not looking out for your best interest, he was molesting you. Parents are NOT ... | |
| Losing my Religion??? | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: I am Zach, and I am gay, except my friends at church don't know. I am a christian, but I'm afraid ... A: Zach- Making a decision to come out of the closet is huge. Before telling your friends at church, ... | |
| suicide | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm June from Far Eastern University in the Philippines. I was wondering if I could ask you some ... A: In japanese society, hari-kari is a matter of honor, not having anything to do with religion. Those ... | |
| Mom wants me to disown best friend | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: My name is Clinton, I am almost 15 and about 5 years ago my Mother married a man who was a Christian ... A: Absolutely. Too many Christians get a bad name because they have a tendency to shun those who are ... | |
| salvation | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I need help with the question of salvation? i think its like this.. were sinners, we have been ... A: Chris- Okay, that's a lot clearer, and what I thought you meant. Simple answer? There is no ... | |
| suicide | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I'm June from Far Eastern University in the Philippines. I was wondering if I could ask you some ... A: 1. Suicide is the same as murder (thou shalt not kill) and is indeed a sin. 2. I'm not sure what ... | |
| salvation | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I need help with the question of salvation? i think its like this.. were sinners, we have been ... A: Chris Salvation is always a difficult question. But it is really simple - if your faith has ... | |
| Mom wants me to disown best friend | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: My name is Clinton, I am almost 15 and about 5 years ago my Mother married a man who was a Christian ... A: Clinton- You're in a tough place, to be sure. It's good that you want to remain friends, but you ... | |
| pornography | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I would just like to know why do teens resort to pornography and what are the effects of pornography ... A: Chan- Pornography is "forbidden fruit". Why do teens drink? Drive irresponsibly? Stay out past ... | |
| confused and hopeless | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: Omg! I'm a 16 yr old female and there's so much stuff goin on in my life rite now. I feel like the ... A: First of all, know that God DOES love you and is crying right along with you about your stress. No ... | |
| Pregnant Teens | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: If a teen who is active in our youth group, 16 years old, becomes pregnant, she she stay in youth or ... A: Deanna- A lot of people would choose throwing her out as an example of poor decisions. I'm not in ... | |
| How to deal with love of a friend | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm writing this to ask the question about what to do? I'm a male and have a male best friend we ... A: Caleb- If you love each other as much as you say, I'm not sure that you can stop your intimacy. My ... | |
| Where to meet others. | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: Where can a new Christian meet other Christians? I know in church, but I would like to meet others ... A: Gabriela Hi. Thanks for writing. The obvious place is church, as you mentioned. If you live in a ... | |
| illegitimacy | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: i'm born to unmarried parents, i only live with my mom, i spose this makes me 'illegitimate'. in ... A: Jess- If the topic makes you uncomfortable, I think I would talk to your mum, and perhaps the two ... | |
| sleeping with my boyfriend | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i are very much in love. we are both in our late twenties. i do not believe in ... A: Kathy- I know of no Bible verses about cuddling. And cuddling can have a lot of leeway in its ... | |
| Life vs. God | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: I recently joined the Army, and most of my friends are non-Christians or have serious doubts about ... A: Go Army! I'm an Army veteran, and I, too, found it difficult to follow the right path when I was in ... | |
| Is masturbation really a sin? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: Okay,I know that this might be a little too personal too but can you answer this?Do you think that ... A: Many married people continue to masturbate after they get married. As far as sinful behavior is ... | |
| Is masturbation really a sin? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: Okay,I know that this might be a little too personal too but can you answer this?Do you think that ... A: Masturbation is not mentioned specifically in the Bible. Because of that, we don’t really know ... | |
| Am I straight or gay? | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: I think I asked you this.And if I did then respond back and tell me that I have told you this ... A: Of course you're forgiven. I just make it a practice to not answer personal questions because ... | |
| Muslim and Christian relationship | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: my name is Faith, I meet this guy who is Muslim, I have found myself drawn to this guy. I was raised ... A: I would go very, very, slowly. A muslim lifestyle and culture is WAY different than western, ... | |
| Was I molested as well? | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I learned about sex at a very eary age.When I was six,I had a crush on my gym teacher and I thought ... A: Corrina- I think you may have been molested when you were young. It's unusual for a 6 year old to ... | |
| homosexuality. | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: :) I just had a question about homosexuality and Christianity. My grandmother is a very devout ... A: Chelsea- Thanks for writing and trusting me with this sensitive issue. Homosexual sex, a man ... | |
| Sucking Dicks | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm Christian. Because of my religion, I don't plan to have sex before ... A: Kelly- I think you know the answer to the question already, and are merely seeking permission to ... | |
| different faiths | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I have a question concerning dating/marriage a girl of different faith. I am 14 and so there ... A: It IS against the Bible, but there is a wide interpretation of the verse in(2 Cor 6:14 KJV) Be ye ... | |
| Am I not saved anymore? | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: Someone just told me that if I had to ask if I am Saved then obviously I am not. I go to an ... A: Corrina- You have not blasphemed - if you truly did denounce God or sell your soul to the devil, ... | |
| Am I not saved anymore? | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: Someone just told me that if I had to ask if I am Saved then obviously I am not. I go to an ... A: Corrina- I think you are saved. All you have to do is accept that Jesus died for your sin, that ... | |
| I have lied | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I really need help. I have to admitt i have habit of lieng, i sometimes lie without even realizing ... A: The first thing we need to talk about is your lying. Compulsive lying generally starts with a ... | |
| masturbation | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: I am a christian and i want to quit masturbating, Biologically, is it possible to quit masturbating ... A: Zack- you will not go crazy from sexual tension. If you stop masturbating, your body will get rid ... | |
| Confused | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I always wondered if nudity is considered as porn. As of let's say people watch naked people etc on ... A: Josh- It all depends on your reaction to the naked body. Many people believe that the naked body ... | |
| mormonism | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: Carl, Will you please get your data straight on the Mormon church before responding to someone who ... A: and you certainly are forgiven for being irritated with me. We are obviously going to have to agree ... | |
| mormonism | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: Carl, Will you please get your data straight on the Mormon church before responding to someone who ... A: Will you please get your data straight on the Mormon church before responding to someone who knows ... | |
| sex | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: is sex a sin? is sex with whore a sin? is pornography sin? is masturbation sin? A: Aashu- Thanks for writing. Sex outside of marriage is a sin: (Exo 20:14 NLT) "Do not commit ... | |
| ALCOHOL DRINKING | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: Well am 19 yrear old college student,am a devorted christian but an issue disturbs me much,they say ... A: Denis- Well first of all, I've got to tell you to stop, because it's against the law at your age. ... | |
| fornication | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: I've always loved god and I have always defended him when needed, but I have to admit I do not ... A: Edgar- The question you're asking I normally get from girls, not guys. For example, "my boyfriend ... | |
| I am fat and depressed | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: I am a very overweight teenager and I am very depressed. I am very ugly too. I am 17, I am in a ... A: Lara- When God looks at you, He sees a beautiful young woman. Struggling with weight is a tough ... | |
| mormons/LDS church | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: i was wondering what your views were on the LDS church. I've heard some things that I don't know are ... A: It looks pretty obvious to me that you have read little of what I suggested you read, particularly ... | |
| mormons/LDS church | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: i was wondering what your views were on the LDS church. I've heard some things that I don't know are ... A: Lilly- You can read more about their underwear at this link: ... | |
| advice me | 7/15/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend is involved in pornographic movies and She actually does not see anything wrong with ... A: Pornography is a serious problem that can become addictive, and it sounds like your girlfriend may ... | |
| God's Preference for youths | 7/15/2008 |
| Q: Does god prefer youths? A: Sorry, but I don't understand your question. Does God prefer one youth over another? No. Does God ... | |
| mormons/LDS church | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: i was wondering what your views were on the LDS church. I've heard some things that I don't know are ... A: On the surface, the Mormon church appears to be a Christian, and somewhat normal. Indeed, the ... | |
| How do i break away my desires for women ? | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: I been gay since age 6 Ayers old. I remember running after friends in school, horseplay around & I ... A: Jenny- You have to make the decision every day to not go back to where you were. Physiologically, ... | |
| How much is too much? | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is not a christian which is extremely hard to deal with at times. He doesn't have the ... A: Rochelle- YOU are in charge of your own body. If dry humping is wrong in your mind, then it is ... | |
| Pre-Seminul Fluid | 6/18/2008 |
| Q: i want to know regarding my problem which i m facing now a days, i dont know why i m getting ... A: Zam- It's nothing to worry about - you're young, and healthy, and just talking with your fiance, ... | |
| Pornography Addiction. | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: For the last couple of years, I have been addicted to pornography. I am currently fifteen. I decided ... A: Gerald- You wouldn't have to worry about the different types of porn if you didn't look at ANY. ... | |
| Pornography Addiction. | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: For the last couple of years, I have been addicted to pornography. I am currently fifteen. I decided ... A: To answer this specific question, a teenage guy can get an erection just by looking at a pretty girl ... | |
| Pornography Addiction. | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: For the last couple of years, I have been addicted to pornography. I am currently fifteen. I decided ... A: Gerald- Well, first of all, if you're worried about being gay, chances are pretty good you're not. ... | |
| I need help. | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: Hey, my name's Samie and I have a problem. I just graduated high school. I attended a Baptist ... A: Samie- Bulimia is a serious issue, and I'm glad that you're getting help for that. I'm not trained ... | |
| Final Thought | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: My thought is that because I had seen some gay pornography, the chemicals caused me to become ... A: First of all, I'm not a priest, so there's no need to call me Father. You can call me Carl or Mr. ... | |
| bdsm | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: I am getting back into bdsm. bondage/discipline, sadism/masochism. It's not the sex I am after, it's ... A: I must admit that I've been doing this for many years, and this is the first question that I recall ... | |
| What is lesbian lust? Since lesbians don't have sex. | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: In the bible, it states sexual lust as sin. But what is considered lesbian sexual lust, since ... A: Gabriela- Lesbians don't have intercourse, but they do have sex - oral sex, mutual masturbation, ... | |
| Shiva | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 15 years old.I am a Christian. I volunteer at a zoo in an environment with lots of adults. The ... A: Shiva is a principal god in Hinduism. You can find out more at Wikipedia.com: ... | |
| brother - sister masturbation? | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: i am a 16 year old girl and my brother is 20 years old. i just wanted to know whether it was ... A: Sarah- You are treading on dangerous territory. Nudity in families is sometimes acceptable, but ... | |
| Trust | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a teen who has a big problem with trust. I can't seem to trust anybody anymore. I am 19 years ... A: Lindsey- I strongly recommend that you spend some time with a psychologist before you talk to your ... | |
| Trust | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a teen who has a big problem with trust. I can't seem to trust anybody anymore. I am 19 years ... A: Lindsey- I have a note in my file to contact you - did my advice help? Did you contact those ... | |
| masturbation | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I am a mother of 2 boys, 6 and 10. I am trying to get a handle on what they will deal with as they ... A: The bottom line is that they're going to masturbate. Statistics show that 95% of guys do (and it's ... | |
| Help I have a way too Overprotective mama | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: My mother has always been very overprotective of me. You would figure that as I got older she would ... A: Well, I'd highly recommend you NOT go the stripper route. Just be patient, graduate, get your car, ... | |
| Help I have a way too Overprotective mama | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: My mother has always been very overprotective of me. You would figure that as I got older she would ... A: Unfortunately, I don't think you're going to get your mother to change, ever. Use some of your ... | |
| sins | 3/21/2008 |
| Q: im 13 years old and i have stolen stuff how can i fix this so god will forgive me A: If you no longer have it (e.g., if you shoplifted food and ate it, or stole something and took it to ... | |
| Sexual immorality in general | 3/19/2008 |
| Q: Okay, so i'm a youth leader at my church, just trying to lead my youth down the right path. this ... A: Jade- Bottom line - they're going to do what they're going to do. Our approach has been to tell ... | |
| Trying to move on | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: at the end of last year. I just turned 19 and I am trying to get back on track. Religion has always ... A: Tanisha- Thanks for the update. I'm glad to see that things are a little better. Only time will ... | |
| terrified of going back... | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: I guess it all started when I was real little...just innocent touchy stuff...and it got way out of ... A: Jules, I answered this question before. Did you callthe hope line? I seriously think you need to ... | |
| How to work through finding out my 15 yr old just lost her Virginity | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I was having a sit down talk with my 15 yr old daughter about rules and feelings and she ended up ... A: I promised you a longer answer. After pondering this for a couple days, not having had this ... | |
| Trying to move on | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: at the end of last year. I just turned 19 and I am trying to get back on track. Religion has always ... A: Tanisha- Well, the news isn't all bad. The fact that your ex is taking any responsibility for your ... | |
| Homosexuality | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: For years I have been struggling with the issue of whether or not I can be saved since I'm bi. I ... A: Marissa- You're already saved, it's not a debatable issue. You believe that Jesus died for your ... | |
| Is it allright to be pleased sexually before marriage? | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: * I was very specific on mine. Thank you for having this service* Is it allright to be pleased ... A: Jasmine- It seems to me that you answered your question before you asked it. You make some very ... | |
| addicted, for good? | 2/3/2008 |
| Q: OK, this has to be about the hardest thing ever to admit... I've been addicted to porn and ... A: Julia- God still loves you, He never stopped. It's good that you have recognized that this is an ... | |
| How sould we handle this? | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both almost 18, and we've known each other since we were about 10. We weren't ... A: Kerri- I do understand your frustration, and I pray that after all the waiting that sex is not a ... | |
| How sould we handle this? | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both almost 18, and we've known each other since we were about 10. We weren't ... A: Kerri- Thanks for trusting me enough to write. You and your boyfriend are in a precarious ... | |
| confused and terrified | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: I have struggled with an addiction to porn and masturbation for about 3 years. I'm a girl, and ... A: espcially as a girl to a guy. I'll do my best to help. The first thing you should know is that you ... | |
| Does christianity find my relationship situation acceptable? | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 yr old born again Christian who quite recently rededicated my life to live for god.I think my ... A: I'll give you the best advice I can. 1)Can i enter into a serious relationship with this girl even ... | |
| French Kissing | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: CARL - Kissing is contextual- wildly sexual, wildly romantic, or deeply gratifying as it affirms ... A: Jane- I try to answer specific questions the best I can, but I generally tell the older teens a lot ... | |
| Denomic Posession | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: Mr. Fuglein, I have a bit of a peculiar question for you that I was wondering if you might be able ... A: Margaret- I don't think he's possessed by a demon. I honestly think he was bored after retirement, ... | |
| sexual orientation | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: What is your answer to sexual orientation? I am gay and also a Christian. I believe homosexual ... A: Allen- I can't explain why God made you the way He did, but I truly believe it was not punishment. ... | |
| Pornography | 12/22/2007 |
| Q: In 7th grade i went over to a friends house and he looked at pornography. At this point i was ... A: Erik- First, and probably most important, you should know that your addiction is not that unusual - ... | |
| confused | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: this is more just answering some things you said. by the way, that's not fair to test me without me ... A: My comment about the black bishops is that I believe the church changed their position only because ... | |
| gossip | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: Hey, im 13 an go to an all girls school so as you can imagine, there is always loads of gossip going ... A: I think you already answered your own question - if you have to ask if it's wrong, then it's almost ... | |
| confused | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: this is more just answering some things you said. by the way, that's not fair to test me without me ... A: No problem about you asking questions and going on and on. It's how you learn, and that's why I'm ... | |
| curious | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: i read an answer you gave another girl and in it you said that you though the mormon church was a ... A: Jaycie, Wow, I'm impressed, you've done your studying and provided good answers for most of the ... | |
| curious | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: i read an answer you gave another girl and in it you said that you though the mormon church was a ... A: I have studied the Mormon church in great detail, and I believe it to be a cult, as do most mainline ... | |
| Homosexuality and same sex marriage: concerns with Christian views on it. | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: I would like to know more of the Christian views on homosexuality/bisexuality/pan-sexuality/etc. and ... A: Christine- I've been thinking about your question since last night, and I'm still not sure how best ... | |
| several questions | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: I have a lot of things I'm confused about right now. First of all, I've been a Protestant Christian ... A: Angie- I'm glad I was able to help. Please let me know if you'd like to know more. blessings, ... | |
| dating | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: is it proper to french kiss your boyfriend? ANSWER: Martha- Generally speaking, no. But, french ... A: Martha- I think that guilt may be telling you something - I think you're wise to wait - 24 is ... | |
| dating | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: is it proper to french kiss your boyfriend? A: Martha- Generally speaking, no. But, french kissing leads to other things, and the other things ... | |
| Depression - sex | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we are both 21, soon to be 22. We have ... A: Katrina- Here's the deal - waiting is one of the most difficult things that you will do. But being ... | |
| please help me | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: Can a Muslim pregnant girl, age 17 marry a Christian boy, age 17 A: The easy answer is yes, depending on what state you're in. The more difficult question is why are ... | |
| abortion | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: what teachings tell us not to have abortions? A: Since abortion is not mentioned in the Bible, the prohibition against killing in the 10 commandments ... | |
| i made a promiss to god and broke it? | 10/21/2007 |
| Q: i said i wouldnt sin for 2 months if you help me pass the fcat then i sin before the 2 months is he ... A: Charles- Thanks for writing. I think God is probably more disappointed in you because you made the ... | |
| Question | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: What does it mean to entrust your spiritual well being to christ_ ANSWER: Jason- That's what being ... A: Jason- I think you're on the right track - just try not to be tempted, but if you are, and if you ... | |
| Question | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: What does it mean to entrust your spiritual well being to christ_ ANSWER: Jason- That's what being ... A: Jason- It's a common misconception that it's bad for you if you abstain from masturbation - your ... | |
| Question | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: What does it mean to entrust your spiritual well being to christ_ A: Jason- That's what being a Christian means - believing that you're a sinner, and that Jesus died ... | |
| Sexual Immorality | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: Could it be that the "sexual immorality" that the Bible speaks of is "only" intercourse, and not ... A: Good question. I personally believe that sexual immorality in the Bible means far more than ... | |
| christianity | 9/23/2007 |
| Q: well, I've been a Christian since i was 6. (I'm 15). The thing is i feel like I'm not too close with ... A: Sue- God answers all prayers, but sometimes the answer is "Not Now" or "No". Don't give up, and ... | |
| Lust | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: Everyone, including God keeps saying that lust is wrong, but isn't lust a natural thing? I guess ... A: Ashton- What a great question! I’ll do my best to give you some things to think about. First of ... | |
| boyfriends past | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm sure this isn't a new question but it is one that is affecting my life greatly on a daily basis. ... A: Samantha- Thanks for trusting me with your issue. I'll try to help. You're probably not going to ... | |
| relationships | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: and i will not have sex until marriage ,i am a single christian but is it ok to kiss and hung my ... A: Shivan, Thanks for responding. I'm frequently asked a question like yours and over the past 10 ... | |
| relationships | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: and i will not have sex until marriage ,i am a single christian but is it ok to kiss and hung my ... A: Kissing and hugging is okay. More than kissing and hugging (e.g. wandering hands) is not. If you'd ... | |
| i need answers | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: i am a 14 non-christian. in my past i have been bashed and unjustly tormented by those of your ... A: WHY ARE YOU SHOUTING AT ME? There's no need to shout. Your question was what gives us the right to ... | |
| A Private Struggle | 7/25/2007 |
| Q: I am 18 yr old involved in a relationship with a wonderful girl from my church. We have been ... A: Al- The good news is that you're not alone - 95% or so of guys masturbate, and the other 5% lied ... | |
| dating | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: There is this guy i'm dating.We go to the same church,what I want to know is that:is it wrong to ... A: Well kissing is hardly a sin, but sometimes kissing leads to doing more. It all depends on how old ... | |
| purity | 7/2/2007 |
| Q: i've read some of your previous questions and your essay on sexual purity (in sam's question). i ... A: Amber- Sorry it took me so long to answer and thanks for writing. It seems to me that you have ... | |
| Sexual acts with a girlfriend (not intercourse) | 5/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm Sam and I've been on a relationship with a very Christian girl for 3 weeks or so. I'm not too ... A: Sam- I'm frequently asked this question. I cannot set guidelines for what is right for you and ... | |
| Making a commitment!! | 3/9/2007 |
| Q: Hey I asked you a few days about how I wanted to talk to my youth minister about making a commitment ... A: Let me give a you a script that might be typical - what your youth minister says is obviously up to ... | |
| commitments and God | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: hey well she we had a youth meeting this past Sunday and she called later that day and asked me to ... A: Sheigh- You've got to step up to the plate and just be not afraid - your ym is not going to get ... | |
| commitments and God | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: hey thats I will try your advice and get back to you and let you know how it goes but, I am kind of ... A: As a youth minister, she should keep private conversations private. However, there are instances ... | |
| commitments and God | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: Hey, well ok our youth minister took us to a christian concert and at the concert they gave us an ... A: This is an easy question. All you have to do is tell your youth minister that you want to get right ... | |
| talking to youth ministers | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: hey carl well ok the reason that I don't want her to meet him is because he is shy to meeting I mean ... A: Aha! I think we have an answer. Yes, she probably WILL bombard him with a thousand questions. But ... | |
| talking to youth ministers | 3/5/2007 |
| Q: I have question!!! I have a boyfriend and I have told my youth mimister about him but, she wants to ... A: Well, speaking as a youth minister, I agree with yours - I'd want to meet your boyfriend. So, I'd ... | |
| dealing with school | 2/22/2007 |
| Q: Do you think that we should have religion in school?explain? A: I'm presuming you mean public school - any religious school by definition would normally teach ... | |
| Hey | 2/5/2007 |
| Q: I just recieved your response on my last question. Anyways have you stuggled with your faith like I ... A: Jacob- You don't need to judge Emily AT ALL. Does she judge you? I don't think you're unevenly ... | |
| Hey | 2/3/2007 |
| Q: I dont understand really, how I can know if something is from God and not from Satan. I mean just ... A: Jacob- You are obviously struggling with depression - I know all about depression - I've lived with ... | |
| hi god bless | 1/25/2007 |
| Q: I HAVE A QUIESTION? I AM GOING TO START TAKING OVER THE YOUNG LADIES FREE AT LAST MEETINGS AT MY ... A: First of all, may God Bless you for working with teenagers - you are about to embark on a journey ... | |
| hello | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: and over the past couple weeks i have to the conclusion that god hates me and wants me to fail ... A: Miss Kitty- I'm so sorry that life seems to suck for you right now, but stuff happens. God is not ... | |
| relationships | 12/14/2006 |
| Q: I’m an 18 year old girl. I have been in love with a friend of mine for 1.5 years, but made a firm ... A: It must have been late when I answered you - the scripture reference should be JEREMIAH 29:11-14, ... | |
| teen looking for "the right" believe | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: I am a father on 15 year old son who we raised as Christian. For about a year he is interested in ... A: George- Thanks for writing about a troubling situation. Your son is at an age where rebellion of ... | |
| Advice | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: My name is Tanya, my husband and I are the youth pastors and this Sunday we are going to talk about ... A: My first question is, why are you doing it separately? Dating is a joint activity, and should be ... | |
| Non-Christian Lifestyle | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: "can I ask you what specifically turns you off from Christianity?" -the people close to me who are ... A: Most of your turn-offs to Christianity are pretty much a faith thing - either you believe or you ... | |
| Non-Christian Lifestyle | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: I will start from the last part. I chose you to answer my question because of your Expertise ... A: Adrianna- Thanks for your kind words. You're right, nothing shocks me - I've seen or heard just ... | |
| Non-Christian Lifestyle | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: First off I want to say that Im not Christian. I want an objective Point-of-View of my situation. I ... A: I’ll be as objective as I can, but you’re probably not going to like a lot of what I say. I’ll ... | |
| mixing religions | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: a friend of mine is trying to change her religion. . .in a way. . . well, what i mean is, she stil ... A: Well, shintoism and Christianity do not mix at all. Read this about Shintoism that I downoaded from ... | |
| teen crush and crushed spirit | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I've been lead to believe that a "true" Christian is one who connects with God on a very deep level, ... A: Well, first off, could you come to MY church? We could use some classical viola. Have you played ... | |
| teen crush and crushed spirit | 12/7/2006 |
| Q: anyways, firstthere's this guy at my school(he's 15 and sophmore, Im 14 and freshman) that i really ... A: Cool name! Your parents did good. As for the boy in your life - you DO realize, of course, that ... | |
| youth ministry | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: I am 17 years old (junior in high school) and over the last month or two i have been considering ... A: Leigh- Since I am a volunteer, I can't give you all the advice that you need, but I'll tell you ... | |
| Gothic Christian | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: Considering that the term "gothic" is just a name for a popular fashion statement, is it a sin to be ... A: Without knowing the person who is goth, my answer is certainly not- being "fashionable" is not a ... | |
| premarital sex | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: first off you have been a big help. everything you said makes sense and you have answered everything ... A: As I said before, you have to make your own decisions regarding sex. I know how difficult that can ... | |
| premarital sex | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: well im actually only 17 at the moment i turn 18 in a couple of months. but your right thats not ... A: Bobby- Thanks for being truthful - I stand by my original answer - if you are not old enough to get ... | |
| Youth group falling apart | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: Carl, I'm a christian, have been since i was 12 and i'm 14 years old. I used to go to this baptist ... A: Good luck on your entering the mission field, I pray that God leads you in that decision. If you're ... | |
| premarital sex | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: In recent weeks i have been doing a lot of research on the subject and i know that the bible clearly ... A: Bobby- If you're asking permission to have sex, the answer is not really up to me - it's up to you ... | |
| mutual masturbation | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: i've been with my girlfriend for more then 2 years now and we have been engaging with mutual ... A: Well, my first inclination is to tell you that if you're worried about committing a sin or wondering ... | |
| christian boyfriend | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: I am dating a guy who says that he is a believer and I believe him. I just want evidence of it in ... A: Chelsea- Thanks for writing, I hope I can help. The first evidence I would look for is whether or ... | |
| CHRISTIAN TEEN/YOUTH 15-34 | 11/10/2006 |
| Q: CARL, I'M LOOKING FOR DEMOGRAPHICS INFO ON TEENS/YOUTH 15-34 YEARS, LIVING IN THE NEW YORK METRO ... A: I would go to Google and put in variations of the search keys: demographics teen teenagers ... | |
| I'm confused. | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: my name is Michelle, and I became a Christian pretty recent. I was married for 4 years, and my ... A: Michelle- I think you know the answer to your own question. The question you asked was, "Am I ... | |
| Satan Attacking Our Minds | 11/2/2006 |
| Q: why does satan attempt to attack our minds? A: Denise- Satan doesn't want you to be with God or to love God, and will do anything to separate you ... | |
| sex | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: is it wrong to have sex beofore marriage with a boyfriend even if the man you have sex with is ... A: Short answer, in my opinion, is yes, it is wrong. God gave us sex as marriage present, and we're ... | |
| how to be free and know my plan | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: I was addicted to porn for a few years, partly because of my past and abused expriences, but God ... A: Knowing God's plan for your life is understanding a combination of factors - a desire in your heart ... | |
| advice on hell. | 9/17/2006 |
| Q: Okay Carl, I won't write anymore to you. But what is very obvious in this dialoque, is you haven't ... A: It says a lot about you, too. I thought about that, a lot, and made a conscious decision to NOT use ... | |
| advice on hell. | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: Answer - Mr. Burns- I guess I just don't get it. I don't know what it is that you're trying to ... A: First of all, I don't appreciate being YELLED at. It's just rude. I expect more from a brother in ... | |
| advice on hell. | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: Yet, I still sin. I'm human. I sin every day. I can't help it, yet I still try. Do you ... A: Interesting - you compare me to Paul {You sound like Paul in Romans 7.} and then you tell me that ... | |
| advice on hell. | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: Answer - Mr. Burns- I'm curious - which of these two items are true: A) You're unsure of your ... A: Mr. Burns- I guess I just don't get it. I don't know what it is that you're trying to tell me. It ... | |
| Faith | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: I was wondering; I know the Bible tells us all about Hell, where, who, how, why, and what, but I ... A: Victoria- Thanks for writing. You pose a couple of interesting questions. RE: Hell. I believe ... | |
| i need help please! | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: i wonder is playing the card game yugioh a sin aggainst god? im a born aggain chrsitian and im 14 ... A: First of all, if you're a Christian, and love Jesus, and have accepted that He is your savior and He ... | |
| i have a question?? | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: hey calr, i have a question. im a 14 year old guy and i love jesus and love being the born again ... A: First of all, if you're a Christian, and love Jesus, and have accepted that He is your savior and He ... | |
| heaven | 7/30/2006 |
| Q: Is it true protistants believe that if you do not believe in Jesus then you will not go to Heaven? I ... A: Stacey- This question about Christianity is very much like the question, "Which came first? The ... | |
| blasphemy | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: I am 15 years old and I think that I have a problem concerning blasphemy. When I was in grade 7 I ... A: I don't think that you have committed the sin of blasphemy at all. When we first become Christians, ... | |
| heaven | 7/27/2006 |
| Q: Is it true protistants believe that if you do not believe in Jesus then you will not go to Heaven? I ... A: Stacey- Thanks for seeking help for a difficult question. First off, there is no major difference ... | |
| May i date as a teen? | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I am a Christian. I was datting a christian girl from school around March. Everything was going ... A: Monty- At age 17, I certainly don't think there should be any prohibition about dating. You're at ... | |
| question | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: ------------------------- Hey, carl it me again I really want to thank you again for your response ... A: Jacob- I don't think that you're "unevenly yoked" with your friend - if she is wanting to go to ... | |
| May i date as a teen? | 7/23/2006 |
| Q: I am a Christian. I was datting a christian girl from school around March. Everything was going ... A: Monty- Please tell me how old you are and how old your friend is - I can't really answer until I ... | |
| life | 7/15/2006 |
| Q: I am going to be a senior in high school this year and with senior year comes my senior project. For ... A: Well, my answer is probably biased, as I'm a youth minister. But for the youth I deal with, I ... | |
| Important question | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: So i should ignore the thoguhts thenHi I have a question lately ive been plagued by thoughts that ... A: Rob- I think the thoughts are coming from Satan, and yes, I think you should both ignore the ... | |
| Important question | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: should I ignore the thoughts or do I have to rebuke each one ? I have not been diagnosed with a ... A: the verse you are referring to is Matthew 12:31“Every sin or blasphemy can be forgiven—except ... | |
| Doubt | 5/18/2006 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old Indian gal. I am a catholic by birth. When I was 16 I got converted to Pentecost ... A: Diya- Thanks for writing and trusting me to give you some advice. I believe that at the age of 20, ... | |
| Dating-related problem | 3/22/2006 |
| Q: So then isn't wrong to just date her? I thought that that scripture passage meant that a christian ... A: Phillip- I guess it depends on your definition of "dating". There is a definite difference between ... | |
| Dating-related problem | 3/19/2006 |
| Q: I have recently met this girl. She is very pretty and extremely friendly. I have become friends with ... A: Surely you are aware of this scripture: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ (2 Cor 6:14 NASB) Do not be bound ... | |
| Spiritually lost | 2/9/2006 |
| Q: -) I'm a 22 yr old female, and I was baptized three yrs ago, finding a good church is stressful for ... A: Patrice- Thanks for writing. I'd be glad to offer some advice, but let me ask you a couple ... | |
| Spiritual warfare and confusion | 1/31/2006 |
| Q: Ok i recently have gotten in a relation ship with a wonderful Christian Girl and it is i admit my ... A: I think that you CAN sell your soul, but only to Jesus. You have a choice to make, and I think ... | |
| Spiritual attack | 1/30/2006 |
| Q: Ok lets say that you took a test awhile back. It was in a rom with other people. And you know you ... A: Bob- Thanks for writing. I think your mind is just playing tricks on you. It could be a Satanic ... | |
| Need Advice | 1/23/2006 |
| Q: I am nineteen years old, a born-again Christian, and majoring in Youth Ministry. I have a few ... A: Collin- Have you had a chance to peruse the answers I sent you? I just wanted you to know that ... | |
| Dating | 11/2/2005 |
| Q: Is it ok for Christian Teens to be dating young like 8th grade ? There are some nice christian guys ... A: Deciding on an age to start dating is not an easy thing to do, because all people mature at ... | |
| Christian Youth Ideas | 8/31/2005 |
| Q: My wife and I were put in charge of the youth this weekend at a camp retreat. We're expecting about ... A: Graig- Thanks so much for spending time with youth - it's one of the most rewarding things that ... | |
| Sexual purity | 7/25/2005 |
| Q: I am an 18 year old Christian male and I have a couple questions regarding sexuality. To start with, ... A: Mike- Thanks for trusting me with your issues. I don't think they're weird at all - it's important ... | |
| Hello | 5/23/2005 |
| Q: Well I called her Saturday at 6:25pm I was on break at work soo I decided what the heck I will give ... A: Clinton- I don't think your relationship is going to go anywhere until Estella either gets out of ... | |
| Hello | 5/20/2005 |
| Q: Hey, This school year I met a girl named Estella she was in my 6th period class "high school" ... A: Clinton- Thanks for writing. Hope I can help. It sounds like Estella may be depressed, but it's ... | |
| Groovy | 5/2/2005 |
| Q: Some say that God is groovy.What does that mean?Thanks! A: You get the prize for the most unusual question I've ever received. Thanks for writing. Groovy is ... | |
| Ministry to this culture... | 3/31/2005 |
| Q: Let me start out by saying that this is an extremely open-ended subject, and really my intent is ... A: Mark- Thanks for writing. Sorry I'm late answering.How do you win an entire generation of teens to ... | |
| Hello, My names Kieya, 17... | 2/23/2005 |
| Q: My names Kieya, 17 years...junior and here is my story... I've always considered myself someone who ... A: Let's see if we can sort this out. First of all, God has forgiven you for your indiscretion with ... | |
| help | 1/16/2005 |
| Q: I am a Christian for about 3 years already and right now in my life I feel that I am most ... A: Jason- First of all, thanks for writing to me - I pray that I can help. What you're going through ... | |
| My friend wants to have sex with her boyfriend... she is 15 | 12/21/2004 |
| Q: A friend of mine is struggling with the idea of having sex before she is married. A bunch of her ... A: Jess- Thanks for being a friend to your friend. The best advice I can give you, I think, is to let ... | |
| teen pregnant at christian school | 11/14/2004 |
| Q: A senior at our Christian school is pregnant and wants to stay in school. After a lot of prayer and ... A: I think probably the best thing you can do is have the pregnant girl address issue herself, assuming ... | |
| homosexuality | 11/8/2004 |
| Q: I have been fighting homosexuality for 20 years, My point of this question is that many young people ... A: Russ- I agree wholeheartedly that being gay is not a choice, but that you are born that way, and I ... | |
| church | 9/27/2004 |
| Q: There is a boy age 16 almost 17 and i have a crush on him. We r starting to become a little more ... A: Danie- I'm afraid I don't know enough about the various sects of Mennonite to know how different ... | |
| teen | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: i have a question about teens and relationships. If two ppl a girl and a boy are christians and they ... A: Jenny- Premarital sex is not in Gpd's plan and is the same as committing adultery, even before you ... | |
| drugs | 8/24/2004 |
| Q: please write bk asap thanks A: Mairi- You did'nt say whether you were talking about legal or illegal drugs. As for illegal drugs, ... | |
| Hiphop and crime | 6/13/2004 |
| Q: I'm doing a speech on how reaching out to the hip-hop culture reduces street crime. I can't seem to ... A: Tough topic. I did a Google on "hip hop crime reduction" and got a few hits. You might want to do ... | |
| Relationship in Youth Group | 6/7/2004 |
| Q: My youth volunteer A and B were dating for 3 years and had some difficulties in their relationship. ... A: I thought I answered this, but maybe it got lost in cyber space. First of all, I need more info: ... | |
| masturbation with friend | 7/2/2003 |
| Q: What do you think of this response to a question about masturbation on a website? "my friend and ... A: I agree with you - I think what they are doing is very wrong, and to post it on a website ... | |
| Teens and Sunday Mass | 3/9/2003 |
| Q: I have teens (13 and 17). We have always attended Sunday mass together (with some resistance). ... A: Yours is a tough issue, but a common one. Forcing a child to go to church is really difficult, ... | |
| Worry | 1/14/2003 |
| Q: Currently I am facing doubts and worry on my future. It would be the release of a major examination ... A: All of us worry at one time or another. Surveys show that the vast majority of things that we worry ... | |
| What is a Christian? | 12/11/2002 |
| Q: Greetings. I am a young man trying to figure some things out about his faith; I'm currently taking a ... A: There is a short answer to your question - simple quote John 3:16: "For God so loved the world, He ... | |
| ? | 10/12/2002 |
| Q: My problem is this: I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now and he is about 7 years older ... A: Angel- Thanks for writing. The first thing I want to know is how old are you? If you're under 18, ... | |
| Religious differences | 8/7/2002 |
| Q: Hey there... I am an 18 year old funky red head that has just moved outta the house and trying it on ... A: Finally, a question that's NOT about sex. It seems the last several questions I've had have all ... | |
| relationships | 5/13/2002 |
| Q: i need some help with a kind of touchy subject. i just moved to minnesota from san diego california. ... A: Mike- Thanks for the positive feedback. I'm glad I was able to give you something to think about. ... | |
| problems at church | 4/15/2002 |
| Q: I am having a big problem with the youth ministers at my church. I am a 15 year old catholic girl. I ... A: I'm sorry you're having a problem. The situation of favoritism is a difficult one - despite our ... | |
| Why Punish? | 2/2/2002 |
| Q: What are the advantages of punishing bad behaviour as opposed to learning by reinforcement of good ... A: You have asked some very tough questions. Punishing bad behavior rarely works. Taken at a ... | |
| Legilisation of soft drugs | 2/2/2002 |
| Q: i'm currently a student at University studying criminology. I am working on a project on the ... A: Rebecca- From a religious point of view, I think I Corinthians 6:19-20 pretty much says it all: ... | |
Christianity --Youth Issues
Answers by Expert:
Carl Fuglein
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions from teens & young adults concerning their faith walk and on social issues which affect their lives. I can answer questions on sex, homosexuality, and drugs and anything else that might be troubling you. After 30 years in youth ministry, nothing shocks me, and I promise to give straight answers to any and all questions. I can also answer questions from youth workers on problems they`re having with programming or with their groups.
Experience
I have been involved in youth and young adult ministries as a volunteer for over 30 years. I am currently a volunteer youth minister in a suburban UM church - I have a small group of 7th and 8th graders.
Organizations
United Methodist Church, Chrysalis, Walk to Emmaus, Cursillo
Education/Credentials
Several training seminars, 8 years at National Youth Workers Convention, 1 year at Princeton Forum on Youth Ministry
Awards and Honors
Certified lay speaker for UM Church
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