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SubjectDate Asked
Submitting to God's will?5/22/2010
  Q: I'm the same Elizabeth that asked the "My Christian Life in Crisis" question. Things have been ...
  A: I'm sorry for taking so long, could you e-mail me your question again, at valleylily78@verizon.net ? ...
issues on christian youths5/5/2010
  Q: i am gagan from nepal. after three days, i have to attend a christian workshop is organized for ...
  A: I hope I can help you. Will you be speaking TO youth, or to a group of others ABOUT youth ? One ...
Sexual abuse4/29/2010
  Q: I'm just a 14 year old newly Christian girl who is overcoming something difficult - sexual abuse. I ...
  A: I came across a website that I think you may want to see. It's called www.freedomintruth.com. You ...
non-christian boyfriend4/7/2010
  Q: I'm a Pastor's kid. I've been raised well by my parents and my faith was well-grounded until I grew ...
  A: I'm a pastor's kid too! So I understand _some_ of what it might be like to be living your life. ...
Salvation3/29/2010
  Q: Hey I am twelve and I hot saved in 2008 but I keep thinking what if I did something wrong I need ...
  A: I'm sorry for the delay in response !! The Bible says quite simply , "If you confess with your ...
My Christian Life in Crisis.3/28/2010
  Q: Forgive the rather long and complicated question, but it is a weighty issue that won't leave me ...
  A: Please forgive me for taking so long to write to you. I feel especially badly as you said that you ...
My Best Friend3/25/2010
  Q: I have a best friend that I love dearly. She's a fellow believer, and she's such a nice girl. ...
  A: It sounds like you are looking at the situation absolutely right. And your love and concern for ...
question in faith3/24/2010
  Q: Please look this church up cause if i explain evrything it runs out :worldwide society church of god ...
  A: After looking at that a little online, I am SO glad you got out of that church. God is not female, ...
My Best Friend3/23/2010
  Q: I have a best friend that I love dearly. She's a fellow believer, and she's such a nice girl. ...
  A: Well, it is true, that God's enemy Satan and his demons are always intent on attacking those whom ...
Overly-defending the faith3/23/2010
  Q: I was born and raised catholic, and have no quarrels with my own faith. I'm a leader in my youth ...
  A: While a Christian who does not practice Catholicism myself, I relate to your plight and feel ...
question in faith3/13/2010
  Q: Please look this church up cause if i explain evrything it runs out :worldwide society church of god ...
  A: P.S. Amber, Are you sure you spelled the church name/ names of founders/teachers typed above right ? ...
Sexual needs3/5/2010
  Q: I was a virgin when I got married. Now divorced I have sexual desires and needs that I were not ...
  A: I had meant to add in my response some of the things you could do to help douse the flames... I ...
Sexual needs3/1/2010
  Q: I was a virgin when I got married. Now divorced I have sexual desires and needs that I were not ...
  A: Having been a virgin myself before getting married, and having a marriage now, I really sympathize ...
Political Christians2/23/2010
  Q: How do I deal with so called Christians who determine whether you can be a Christian or not by how ...
  A: I'm so sorry to hear about the grief you have been getting from other Christians about these ...
..help.2/23/2010
  Q: okay, well, i'm 13 years old right now. when I was 12, my parents got in a divorce and it just got ...
  A: I can hear your pain in your message here... I really feel for you, that you feel alone so much, ...
dad2/3/2010
  Q: My mom goes to work every morning at 7:00 so my dad wakes me and my sister up at 7:10 every morning ...
  A: Wow, you are so totally right, you should not have to see that! It IS wrong, what he is doing. I ...
How do I keep my faith living in a dysfunctional family? And How can I learn how to rely fully on God to get me through these hardships?1/14/2010
  Q: Susan Milillo Well first off I am 17 years old, and recently I have been struggling with trying to ...
  A: Your speaking of a dysfunctional family reminds me of a few people in the Bible. Are you familiar ...
youth group relationships1/11/2010
  Q: I have grown up in my church since nearly birth and once in youth group I became a youth leader. My ...
  A: Yes, with conditions I believe these things can go hand in hand, however it may be very difficult to ...
Help1/11/2010
  Q: So, I am 15 years old and I strongly believe in my faith. I recently have been talking to a guy ...
  A: Jaimie, you are doing so well, and yes I agree with you that you are totally doing the right thing ...
youths1/3/2010
  Q: how do i get the attension of youths to serve GOD
  A: YOU PERSONALLY, Love God with all your being - and love them radically. Live the faith in front of ...
Help1/1/2010
  Q: So, I am 15 years old and I strongly believe in my faith. I recently have been talking to a guy ...
  A: It's totally understandable that you like this guy. Even non-Christians often have admirable and ...
My brother needs help.12/28/2009
  Q: Dead Susan, I am 15, and my brother is 18. For years I have been warned to avoid pornography. I ...
  A: Finally, here is my response for you, which my husband wrote. I apologize that it took me so long. ...
Sexual Acts12/20/2009
  Q: One of my good friends from University and I, after being friends for two years, have started dating ...
  A: I apologize for the delay in my response. It's been crazy busy around here. But I didn't mean to ...
Methodist Questions12/14/2009
  Q: I am 15 and going through confirmation classes in the Catholic Church. I was told this is a time ...
  A: Hi! Thanks for your question. It's a very good question. I too, have some problems with what the ...
closer to god11/30/2009
  Q: i want to be closer to god again. but i dont know where to begin. i was very bad when i was young ...
  A: It sounds like your boyfriend really isn't supportive of your relationship with God. If your ...
Question11/19/2009
  Q: I have a problem...I am 20 yrs old a junior in college...I live at home (my college is like 25 miles ...
  A: One thing that came to mind when I was thinking about your question, is that a good church is often ...
ex girlfriend11/16/2009
  Q: me and my ex girlfriend broke up a year ago, well she left me because she wanted to see if she would ...
  A: I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time! Well, a couple things: I'd encourage you to ...
...........11/15/2009
  Q:
  A: I would love to tell you! It is a word picture, for what happens to a person when he or she ...
school troubles11/13/2009
  Q: Hey, I've been really upset lately and have not had peace in my heart since the end of this summer. ...
  A: A couple things come to mind. First, it's really great that you were praying for guidance from God ...
Confession11/3/2009
  Q: I am thirteen years old and is a Catholic. OK, this is really embarrassing to say online, but I'd ...
  A: Good News! Jesus is your Great High Priest. If you have come to Him on His good merit, not your ...
Quick Question11/2/2009
  Q: I read on the net the following and need to know if it is true. Especially the last portion. As you ...
  A: Mr. Stroud, I think it means that no one would WANT to say Jesus is Lord - it's not like ...
I have just accepted God into my life.11/2/2009
  Q: I just accepted God into my life again. I believed in him for a long time but that was before I was ...
  A: I am so happy and blessed to hear of your true heart for Jesus Christ and how you want to live your ...
music and confusement10/23/2009
  Q: I'm 13 and very confused. Firstly, I listen to rock, JRock, metal, angsty- metal and a little bit ...
  A: Please forgive me for taking this long to write back to you. Besides things being real busy, I just ...
hloly spirit forgiveness10/22/2009
  Q: i receantly finish reading the old testament and i love it, but when i started reading the new ...
  A: I have taken the liberty to cut and paste some responses I've given on the issue of blasphemy in the ...
The END of the WORLD.10/16/2009
  Q: My name is Roman, I'm 19 years, I'm a full blooded European.. I have been taught to be as a ...
  A: DEFINITELY, just keep growing closer to Jesus -- share the gospel, so that when the end of the world ...
Boundaries of Stealing10/14/2009
  Q: Greetings, I used to download music without purchasing it, but I've changed and now purchase every ...
  A: Derrick, I appreciate your concern for being truthful and above-board. My answer is short but ...
??10/3/2009
  Q: I am a 15 year old girl and I dated this guy for 10 months and we broke up for stupid reasons (they ...
  A: This stage of your life is not easy, with all the choices of the heart that must be made, huh?? ...
help please9/22/2009
  Q: i am 15 and i admit i have made i mistake.i want to repent and become pure again at least at heart.i ...
  A: I'm sorry, I'm not sure I understand your question. You want to find a course on waiting for sex ...
Masturbation.9/18/2009
  Q: There's a passage in the Bible which says that if you look at a woman lustfully, you have comitted ...
  A: I hope you don't mind, I took the liberty to ask my pastor what his take is on this issue. He said I ...
Suicide9/15/2009
  Q: Are there any reference verse that says if you commit suicide you go to hell? Is it a sure thing to ...
  A: No, Mandy, there are not. Jesus covered all sin -- His blood is precious enough to cover even the ...
confusion9/7/2009
  Q: I dated This guy for a year and 7 months. We had a great relationship and we got too close that we ...
  A: My heart goes out to you so much in all you have been experiencing, and it's obvious that your heart ...
Hindu wanting to become Christian8/18/2009
  Q: I have decided to become a Protestant Christian. However I have some questions: 1. I will be ...
  A: Please forgive the delay in my response. Your questions are very consequential, and I want to make ...
Jesus8/11/2009
  Q: i'm a new believer and I want to learn more about Jesus.
  A: What a wonderful desire you have. The most important answer to seek! Have you ever read the ...
Kissing in a church8/10/2009
  Q: My name is Zach Harper, I'm 15 years old and a pretty strong Christian. I met my girlfriend about 8 ...
  A: My thoughts are, it's fine ! The deeper issue that God cares about, whether you are in a church or ...
I am confused8/4/2009
  Q: My question is about what did the Bible say about relationships? I am talking more about the limits ...
  A: I'm so glad you are thinking the way you are. You are absolutely right, sex outside marriage is ...
Salvation.7/11/2009
  Q: Someone just told me that if I had to ask if I am Saved then obviously I am not. I go to an ...
  A: I assume you wouldn't mind, I consulted my pastor on your question, about someone receiving Christ ...
Im Afraid7/8/2009
  Q: I have a couple of questions that have been bothering me lately. If we truly have Christ in our ...
  A: dear girl, You are loved. Your father in heaven loves you. And yes, there are people who ...
Biblical class6/30/2009
  Q: I see that you have taught in schools. What is your believe as educators our Christian role should ...
  A: I just looked at the verse you mentioned, Luke 6:40. Good verse! I think partly what that passage is ...
My Parents and Leaving Home6/9/2009
  Q: I'm 19 years old, And I am ready to leave my home. I am ready for reasons such as I want to have my ...
  A: Your situation sounds painful and very difficult. Yes, the Bible does say to honor your mother ...
Modest Dress5/28/2009
  Q: I am not a teen but, I would appreciate your advice on a teen issue. I am 38 and the Mom and ...
  A: I must say honestly, I am only 31, and have only a five year old son; so I'm not sure if my thoughts ...
I can't keep friends5/23/2009
  Q: my name is Hayden I'm 15 years old and I am a Christian. I had a best friend (my only friend) for ...
  A: I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened. It is always hard when it feels like a friendship is ...
megan5/15/2009
  Q: bitch, fat, ugly etc and after that she told me she is taking heroin i want to help her and i dont ...
  A: Hmmm. Well - honestly, I think you are not the best person to help her. Not that you can't be A help ...
friends4/28/2009
  Q: i have alot of friends who are not christian. They sometimes do things that i do not believe in and ...
  A: This is a hard issue, because obviously you love your friends, and that is always a good thing, in ...
sin in christians4/24/2009
  Q: i'm a follen christian boy who claims that having a girlfriend or sex before marriage is not a sin ...
  A: Well, I think the nuances of the word 'sin' changes throughout the book. I have been puzzled by I ...
dating and sex4/20/2009
  Q: i'm a follen christian boy who claims that having a girlfriend or sex before marriage is not a sin ...
  A: Well, you are picking up a Biblical principle in the beginning. Corinthians says, 'He who sins ...
Witnessing4/13/2009
  Q: I have been privaledged enough to know God very well and have a close relationship with him. I have ...
  A: I apologize for taking this long to get back to you - so sorry!! Definitely, continue through it - ...
Confused about Church3/1/2009
  Q: Almost every week I have been going with my friends to an Assembly of God church, and I enjoy it ...
  A: My personal feeling on this is that it's fine for you to go ! And I think that what God wants most ...
My best friend lied to me2/16/2009
  Q: I have had a on and off relationship with the same boy for about a year. This fall i went off to a ...
  A: When your friend got together with the guy, was that during a time when you and he were 'off again'? ...
incest masturbation and fantasy2/3/2009
  Q: I AM A MALE 26 YEARS OLD I LIVE WITH MY UNMARRIED BEAUTIFUL SISTER (40)YEARS OLD AND MY OLD MUM I ...
  A: Well, a few thoughts here. I confess I am not the most experienced in this sort of 'counseling' - ...
Rastafari1/31/2009
  Q: I am a 13 year old boy attending a normal, public school in the middle of Illinois. I love listening ...
  A: 'Methinks' you think rightly! :-) Keep focusing on your Hero, Jesus, and I am positive that you ...
Rastafari1/31/2009
  Q: I am a 13 year old boy attending a normal, public school in the middle of Illinois. I love listening ...
  A: OH, okay. Well that's definitely good ! What did you think of the things I brought up in my most ...
Why?1/30/2009
  Q: Have you ever gone to a LDS meeting with an open heart? Have you ever seen the standards they set ...
  A: McKenna, No, it's not my website. I'm just one of many who uses the website as a forum to help ...
Rastafari1/30/2009
  Q: I am a 13 year old boy attending a normal, public school in the middle of Illinois. I love listening ...
  A: I'm so pleased to make your acquaintance ! You sound like a very normal thirteen year old boy. ...
Why?1/29/2009
  Q: Have you ever gone to a LDS meeting with an open heart? Have you ever seen the standards they set ...
  A: To McKenna, I'm sorry, are you sure you meant to send that to me?? I don't think I mentioned ...
Why isnt God Listening?1/26/2009
  Q: I believe in God and Jesus. I am not a strong Christian, but I am in emotional pain right now. ...
  A: I can hear the pain in your 'voice' almost. God feels your pain too, even though it seems like ...
Engagment1/5/2009
  Q: I am currently engaged to the man that I have been with on and off for around 6 or 7 years, we are ...
  A: I'm so sorry I have taken this long to get back to you! How are things going?? First of all, ...
just need some advice12/13/2008
  Q: Im Catholic and my boyfriend is Jewish. We have been going out almost 9 months and its wonderful.We ...
  A: Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you. It's been so busy - I know that's a usual ...
Was I molested or not?12/10/2008
  Q: Yes he would come over and have sex with my mom. But I don't know why I remember that dream or ...
  A: How are you? Please forgive me - I've taken way too long to reply to your most recent questions ...
Am I a lesbian now and am I saved?12/8/2008
  Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I searched on the internet about ...
  A: Well, I think it's _possible_ that you were either raped or molested when you were young - that ...
Am I a lesbian now and am I saved?12/8/2008
  Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I searched on the internet about ...
  A: I have prayed for you and certainly will again. I will 'redouble' my prayers on your behalf. I think ...
Am I a lesbian now and am I saved?12/2/2008
  Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm overeffactuated with breasts.I searched on the internet about ...
  A: You sound so full of anxious questions. I want to know, how can I best pray for you? ...
trouble in school11/28/2008
  Q: I recently moved from the washington to missouri. and i've made some really good friends, but i ...
  A: Do you mind if I share this concern with my husband, and get his take on it? I'm somewhat at a ...
Sucking Dicks11/27/2008
  Q: I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm Christian. Because of my religion, I don't plan to have sex before ...
  A: Forgive me for taking so long to answer your e-mail! Your enjoyment of sucking dick is a ...
I lied to best friend please help!11/21/2008
  Q: I am 17 and under a really pressure situation i lied to my best friend who trusted me enough to ...
  A: My heart aches for you, it must hurt so much. Good friends are definitely not easy things to lose ...
breaking off11/18/2008
  Q: I met this girl and we became really good friends. Ive know her for 3 years, and this past summer, ...
  A: Relationships are always tricky, and never cut and dry, but I'll give it my best shot! :-) Since ...
trying to help a friend11/13/2008
  Q: This is all really confusing, and I'm still trying to figure it out. I had a friend come to me the ...
  A: Hey Julia, You don't have to tell her the nitty-gritty details of your sin struggle. You can just ...
trying to help a friend11/11/2008
  Q: This is all really confusing, and I'm still trying to figure it out. I had a friend come to me the ...
  A: I'm so glad it's working for you to go to a good counselor! I'm so glad for you. And I'm proud ...
trying to help a friend11/8/2008
  Q: This is all really confusing, and I'm still trying to figure it out. I had a friend come to me the ...
  A: Julia, It's so wonderful that you are letting God use you through your own struggles, to help a ...
lonely?11/8/2008
  Q: i want to start saying that i love Jesus with all my heart, But i feel lonely?? I get sad really ...
  A: Hey 'fer', Thanks for your question. It's normal, and human to be lonely. You will never be so ...
Sexual purity in your late 20's11/4/2008
  Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we are already in our late 20's. He's ...
  A: Oh, I'm SO sorry..... I wish you didn't have to go through the pain. 'Hard' just doesn't do it ...
Could I be a lesbian?11/3/2008
  Q: Please do not delete this question,I seriously and desperately need help.I'm only 13 and I need a ...
  A: I got your question a second time, and it got me thinking more about how you're doing. Is ...
Sexual purity in your late 20's11/3/2008
  Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we are already in our late 20's. He's ...
  A: Hang on to your purity. It sounds so hard right now, you really love this guy. But he is wrong to ...
Could I be a lesbian?11/2/2008
  Q: Please do not delete this question,I seriously and desperately need help.I'm only 13 and I need a ...
  A: Well, true saving faith is a gift of God (Ephesians 2:8-9). If you think you weren't sincere about ...
Could I be a lesbian?10/28/2008
  Q: Please do not delete this question,I seriously and desperately need help.I'm only 13 and I need a ...
  A: Dear, Corrina ~ Thank you for trusting me with the privilege of helping out, even just a little ...
Muslim and Christian marriage10/26/2008
  Q: Christian man. thnx!
  A: Ayesha, Your name is beautiful ! I have never heard it before. Christians who endeavor to ...
Thanks again, an update and yet another question.10/5/2008
  Q: It's N.G! Thanks for that advice on My friend that I have a crush on. I have now decided that I am ...
  A: G.) --- wondering, how do you get NG out of Taryn? Your name is so pretty - sounds like a ...
Thanks and another question9/28/2008
  Q: Hope you remember me! Thanks for the advice about Vanny! I don't have any more info on that issue ...
  A: G., Not at all, please don't worry about it. Ask as many 'crush' questions as you want. I ...
Hard to love.9/22/2008
  Q: I'm N.G, and I have a question I was hoping you would be able to help me with. There is a boy that ...
  A: G., I'm so touched by your question, as it shows a sincere desire to reach out to someone hard to ...
Youth Dress9/22/2008
  Q: Two of the girls in my youth group dress provocative. It is embarassing and inappropriate. What can ...
  A: That is a wonderful question, and one which people should be asking more often!! I'm assuming 'Lin' ...
I am fat and depressed9/17/2008
  Q: I am a very overweight teenager and I am very depressed. I am very ugly too. I am 17, I am in a ...
  A: p.s. I know somewhere has said, 'Being good is its own reward' -- and I believe that to be true. ...
Unsure9/14/2008
  Q: I'm a 22 year old male who was born and raised Catholic. Attending church growing up mostly ...
  A: For Matt, ~~ I really appreciated your thoughtfully honest question. I don't know if ...
relationship9/10/2008
  Q: my question is that im engaged to a man who has been living in USA for about 28 years, he is 36 now ...
  A: I'm so sorry it has taken me a couple days to respond. I have been mostly away from my computer. ...
hey how can i serve god better8/25/2008
  Q: hey i got a question my goal is to be a missionary, and right now im kinda in a slump, its hard to ...
  A: That's cool that you want to be a missionary. Yeah, we all sin even once we know Jesus personally. ...
Christian Relationships8/13/2008
  Q: I have started seeing a male but he is not a Christian and I am. My Christian friends say i should ...
  A: Awesome, Katy -- So you have let him go , and aren't pursuing a romantic relationship any more? ...
Christian Relationships8/10/2008
  Q: I have started seeing a male but he is not a Christian and I am. My Christian friends say i should ...
  A: Hey -- It's good that your boyfriend is understanding about your faith, and doesn't ridicule you ...
relationship/prophet8/4/2008
  Q: when we meet we hit it off so well, everything was so perfect for months. we both really like each ...
  A: GREAT! This is wonderful news, and it makes me feel happy to hear. Just make sure you are looking ...
non believing children8/4/2008
  Q: I have a 17 yr old boy & a 13 yr old girl. They have been raised in a southern Baptist church from ...
  A: I thought of you today when I was reading something. My husband and I are part of a parenting class ...
relationship/prophet8/3/2008
  Q: when we meet we hit it off so well, everything was so perfect for months. we both really like each ...
  A: Hey! I'm so sorry to hear about this, it sounds difficult. Sorry I'm late answering you; I was on ...
Holy Communion7/16/2008
  Q: Can youth take communion?
  A: ABSOLUTELY!! The point, in Communion, is whether or not the individual has a real understanding of ...
self image5/4/2008
  Q: I guess i just dunno how God could ever love me again and how I can ever live with myself. Ive been ...
  A: I think we talked before. I'm so sorry I can't answer in more detail right now; it's pretty busy. ...
can i ever be forgiven??3/21/2008
  Q: When i was little i got into the whole innocent touchy touchyness and eventualy that lead into ...
  A: Yes, as soon as you go back and say, "God I messed up, I'm so sorry" He totally forgives you, and to ...
incest sex3/19/2008
  Q: im 21 years old and my sister is 19 years old (She's HOT). for the past 4 years we have been ...
  A: Do what's right, and trust in God to take care of you! No, don't have sex with other women, and wait ...
incest sex3/19/2008
  Q: im 21 years old and my sister is 19 years old (She's HOT). for the past 4 years we have been ...
  A: I'm sorry, but no Michael, you have to completely cut off the sexual side of the relationship. I ...
incest sex3/10/2008
  Q: im 21 years old and my sister is 19 years old (She's HOT). for the past 4 years we have been ...
  A: To be perfectly honest, the Bible strongly condemns incest. Deuteronomy 27:22 actually says there ...
Gabby, how are you doing with this?3/5/2008
  Q: Ok I've been pondering around for the past couple months on the subject of God. I have a problem ...
  A: Just looking through my allexperts page and wanted to send you a note to ask how things are going - ...

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Whatever is on your mind, I would love to share what God's shown me through life and through His Word. I really care, and really will take your thoughts seriously.

Experience

I have been in 'youth groups' and helped out with them, and have worked with youth in other areas as well (in a school setting). Many kids and youth have felt comfortable opening up to me. I am very real and open.

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MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)

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I have a bachelors of science in Bible from Philadelphia Biblical University, with a minor in Counseling/Church Ministries. I grew up in a Pastor's home.

Awards and Honors
Musical awards, salutatorian in senior class (of 11)

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