AboutCarl Fuglein Expertise I can answer questions from teens & young adults concerning their faith walk and on social issues which affect their lives. I can answer questions on sex & homosexuality, and drugs. After 20 years in youth ministry, nothing shocks me, and I promise to give straight answers to any and all questions. I can also answer questions from youth workers on problems they`re having with programming or with their groups.
Experience I have been involved in youth and young adult ministries as a volunteer for 25 years. I am currently a volunteer youth minister in a small country UM church - our youth group has about 30 members.
Organizations United Methodist Church, Chrysalis, Walk to Emmaus
Awards and Honors Certified lay speaker for UM Church
Expert: Carl Fuglein Date: 3/5/2007 Subject: talking to youth ministers
Question Hi,I have question!!! I have a boyfriend and I have told my youth mimister about him but, she wants to meet him and she is begging me to bring him to one of our meeting but, I really don't want her to meet him and I can't figure out why
so what should I do?
Answer Hi Sheigh-
Thanks for writing. Well, speaking as a youth minister, I agree with yours - I'd want to meet your boyfriend. So, I'd say, bring him to your next youth group.
But there's a much bigger issue. Why wouldn't you want her to meet him? Is there something going on between you two that you don't want her to know about? Are you feeling guilty about something? Are you afraid that she's going to try to "convert" him? Is there something about him that you're ashamed of? Are you afraid that she won't approve of him?
All these are valid questions, and possibly the answer to why you don't want her to meet him. I would think really hard to determine the reason why. You may want to actually discuss your feelings with your youth minister.
As a youth minister, I would guess that her intentions are noble - I like to meet my kids' boyfriends and girlfriends. Not to convert them or judge them, but just to get to know them and what they're about. As a rule, youth ministers are interested and inviting to ALL teens, and I wouldn't think that your youth minister is any different - she probably cares about you, and because of that, she cares about who you're seeing.
