Expert: Brenda Martin - 11/8/2007

Question
I am a 19 yr old Christian and have been since I was born. I am almost positive that I am technically still a virgin because a penis has never entered my vagina..(sorry to be so blunt)and I have never had ANY form of oral sex, but I have engaged in some "heavy petting" and "dry humping" so I need to know if I am still considered purin God's eyes. I have only dne the "heavy petting" ONCE and only with ONE boy who is also a virgin but he has done everything but sex before. But he respects my virginity and he is not a TRUE christian but I don't see any harm in dating him because our views are the same when it comes to morals and values for the most part. I just want to know if I can still call myself a virgin or not and whether or not I have crossed the line. I will be DEVESTATED if i am considered a non-virgin..i dont want to be unpleasing to God. Thank you for your time and help.

Answer
You are still a virgin Kristen, HOWEVER God also warns us against acting with "uncleaness" these things you meantion are not wholesome & if you do such on a regular basis you are "toying with immorality" best not do these other things either, or you WILL lose your virginity.

All the best
Brenda