Expert: Ernie Laurence, Jr. - 1/31/2009

Question
QUESTION: His name is Ray Wigley,he's somewhere under the relationship category,I think marriage or something.But I feel like this is my fault because he said that we didn't have to talk that way to each othe rbut I think I egged it on so maybe it's my fault.So maybe he shouldn't get in trouble for it so is it my fault?

ANSWER: If he's 50 and you're 13 it is his fault, 100%, that anything happened.  You are young yet and have many things to learn and much maturity to obtain.  That man should know better.  Yes, you are responsible for your small part in it, but Ray should never have participated AT ALL.  Do not presume him innocent of anything or try to justify anything for him.

Ernie

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QUESTION: Well what is it called when a grown person does that to a teenager over the internet?

ANSWER: Hmmm, I'm not sure of the exact term.  Cyber-stalking?  It definitely falls in the category of pedophilia and is illegal in the U.S and a number of other countries.

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QUESTION: Well how can I stop talking to him without hurting his feelings?

Answer
Hurting his feelings should be the LAST thing on your mind.  You are talking about an adult that has participated with a kid in sinful, and perverse activity.  At this point its what we can do to keep you safe.  He is mentally sick, his feelings are messed up anyway.  Just stop talking to him and get help else you are going to continue down a very dark road and have problems for the rest of your life because of it.  

If you don't do it for yourself, do it for your future spouse and kids.

In Truth and Love,

Ernie