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I have a question that is often of great debate. Question/Scenario: Is a man bound to a marriage, if the wife wants a divorce, moves out of the house. Then in and has a relationship with another man, with plans to marry again. The first couple have been married less than one year, and the husband waits 2 more years before divorcing her. There are no children born of this marriage. The wife has NO intentions of returning and the husband loses contact with her. Both are not members of the Church of Christ, or any religion of any nature, maybe in name of alone. The story goes on by saying he marries again to a Christian woman, he is then baptized and becomes a member of the Church of Christ. Thank you and I look forward to hearing your response.
I know of NO biblical reason why he should not be in the new marriage whether it happened before OR after he becomes a Christian.
He waited, which is a good and commendable thing. He did not use her infidelity as his get out of marriage free card like some do. God allows those out of a marriage when infidelity occurs, but He does not demand or even want it.
How do we know this? We know it by example.
God was long-suffering with the adultery of His spiritually betrothed, Israel. He took her back, and took her back as long as she would come back in repentance. When she refused to come back THEN He divorced her. Divorce is a terrible thing and reconciliation a wonderful thing, but reconciliation cannot some from one party alone, it can only come with two.
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| Comment | Thank you SOOO much for your insight. Although I have asked many differnt Church of Christ preachers and experts (and often received the same response), yours was trully to the point and answered quickly. I have read all the scriptures regarding this matter, but no one would just answer as well as you. I was simply looking for the answer and that is what you gave me. Thank you again. I chose to ask you about this, because of your location. I am also an Arkansas. THANK YOU !!!!! | ||
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John Fields
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I strive to intelligently and respectfully discuss thoughtful questions pertaining to doctrinal issues within the Churches of Christ and feel I can contribute thoughtful answers in most cases. I feel myself to be especially adept when answering questions regarding the Gospel of Christ and baptism. I always strive to be humble, realizing that there are some issues that are respectfully and honorably debatable. I realize that the Bible is perfect and able to provide any truth that the seeker of truth is after. At the same time I realize that though I am very conscientious about pointing people in the right direction, I am still a fallible human being and certainly capable of making mistakes. I will always give my opinion AS my opinion and strive not to state as fact something which cannot be supported by good logic or a good thorough study through the scriptures.
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I am a minister within the Churches of Christ. I have been preaching for 14 years and have been on five separate mission trips to the Volta Region of Ghana, West Africa. I have preached the Gospel to literally thousands of people and it is my passion to do so.
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I graduated with honors from Atkins High School in Atkins, AR in 1984. I went on to get my Bible degree at Harding University in Searcy, AR where I graduated Cum Laude.
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