Churches Of Christ/Marriage-how best to arrange it

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Hi Roberson,
I wish you help me out in this. A christian brother, on engaging  a sister, opt she put-up with him till they wed. While living together and making the wedding plan, they both notice some characters in them which they cannot manage even when they pretend and try to cover up. This sometimes lead to serious dispute, even fighting. In your opinion what do you advice? Is there any scripture to strenghten your answer?
Regards. Cornelia

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My advice is that the couple seek pre-marital counseling. There is no Scripture for pre-marital counseling so I cannot provide any.

Pre-marital counseling is designed to ensure that if a couple gets married, they know who they are marrying. It will also allow them to explore their differences in a relatively safe environment (with the pre-marital counselor).  

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Hoyt Roberson

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I can answer just about any doctrinal, relational, or Scriptural question from a "traditional" church of Christ perspective, and from perspectives of somewhat more progressive congregations. If you want an answer from a particular perspective, let me know that up front, and I'll respond in that vein. If you want to peg me on the liberal-conservative spectrum, I would suggest a bit left of center. Depending on the question though, I might be far left, or perhaps rather toward the right.

Experience

I am currently a shepherd of a congregation (which means, for those of you who aren't Church of Christ folk, I'm one of a handful of people responsible for the spiritual direction and maturity of the congregation, and who hire and fire the ministers). I have served in many capacities including adult class teacher (also current), deacon, administrator, and lay leader at two military bases. I am a life-long member of churches of Christ, mostly mainline congregations, but am quite familiar with more conservative and more liberal congregations and views as well. I read and subscribe to various books and periodicals for churches of Christ, and have discussed a variety of topics with representatives of our various groups both in person, and via mail.

Organizations
Christian Association for Psychological Studies, American Association of Christian Counselors, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Publications
www.robersonblog.blogspot.com

Education/Credentials
I hold a Masters of Ministry degree from Pepperdine University, as well as a Masters of Counseling degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Phoenix.

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