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My husband and I are both members of the church. He a newer convert of abt 5 years, I grew up in the the church. Tomorrow is our 13 yr anniversary, been together 22 yrs. I discovered this week that he has several bank accounts that I knew nothing about, money is being transferred between accounts, reasons I am not sure. These accounts have his daughter (37 yrs old,from previous marriage and his only child) listed as sole beneficiary. (I have 3 sons)
We sold our home this year to move into a home that he owned before we were married. This home now, belongs to her also. He moved my retirement and other monies to an account without my knowledge , in his name only and named her also as sole beneficiary. He has a step son from that same previous marriage that he allows to live rent free in another home and he is beneficary of that home .He has no answer for why he did this. I am frightened and feel I need to secure my future. I see my children will get noting of my years of work. He says he loves me and doesn't want me to leave. Should I stay and be submissive to his plans, whatever they are ? I want to divorce , but the scripture that GOD hates divorce resonates in my heart. Thank You
I don't recommend divorce unless your life is in danger or some other extreme situations. What I advise is to find a good lawyer and seek advice and assistance in your situation. I am not a trained family counselor or anything like that so I typically try to stick to answering Bible questions. I strive to explain God's Word more accurately. If you are positive he might harm you that is a valid reason for divorce, but I recommend seeking advice from a lawyer regarding the things your husband has been doing with the bank accounts and all. I am sorry I can't be more help.
In Christian Love, Joe Norman
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Joe Norman
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I can answer questions regarding acceptable worship, organization of the church, or any apsect of the Christian life. I am the son of a preacher and have studied the Bible from cover to cover since I was 12 years old. I am strong in my research skills and do not follow teachings of men. Many will label me as conservative and some might label me as liberal, but I just seek to be biblical. I understand proper exegesis and hermeneutics and apply them. My desire is to share my knowledge of God's Word with others. Please always keep in mind that none of us who are listed as experts here are divinely inspired and therefore it is possible to get incorrect answers from any one of us. Study the Scriptures and decide for yourself if what is taught is true.
Experience
I am the 4th generation in my family to be a faithful member of the church of Christ. I was raised by a preacher and have studied the Bible everyday since I was twelve. I am 45 yrs old now. I am not a "scholar", but I am very familiar with the scriptures.
Organizations
member of the church of Christ, served as a Deacon for a few years at LakeShore church of Christ in Waco, Tx. I currently live in the North Dallas area and am still very active within the church of Christ teaching, leading Bible Studies, and songleading as well. I am also actively involved in online ministry. I hope to open my own webpage eventually.
Education/Credentials
School of hard knocks
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