Expert: Charles W. Field - 3/9/2004

Question
I am in the middle (or I should say, towards the end of) counseling with my husband of 20 years. He is relentless in "divorce as not an option). I have two children:  10, 6. I also have a successfully run business, operated out of my home, owned by myself, state-registered as a WBE (woman-owned enterprise)since 1990. My husband is an "employee" only.

I am also deeply in love with another man.  This has spurred the above into high gear towards divorce. We wish to move forward as soon as possible with our lives together as well.

What steps do I need to do in order to proceed with a divorce, as this is necessary prior to an annulment with the Catholic Church.  

Also, how may I protect my business and my financial affairs, for, my husband is the one who has complete control over our finances. Since he feels that divorce is "not an option", how can he leave our home?   

Please advise.

Much thanks for your time.  

Answer
You are going to need to resolve the conflict between his "divorce is not an option" and your apparent desire for a divorce. Bear in mind that I only know GA law. In GA, if one party wants a divorce, there is nothing the other party can do to stop it. As far as protecting your business, that can be properly handled as part of the divorce. I would advise you to consult with a local attorney knowledgeable in domestic relations law to advise you as to the procedure in PA.