Communication Skills/Public speaking

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I really want to get good at public speaking is it just joining a toastmasters?I recently had an opportuinity to speak and give a presentation and almost blew it by telling the3 guy in charge im not capable of doing this.I want to master this before i die Im into tony robbins and stuff i used to stutter i now am a covert stutterer but im self concious even though i have a good appearance and everything What can i do to be successful in this and not die with this music inside me?

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Hello Nes. Effective public speaking has several requisites: [1] passion about and knowledge of a topic; [2] a good vocabulary [3] a clear outline of the speech - opening, body, and closing; [4] self-confidence; [5] awareness of the speaking process and the audience;  [6]  accumulated speaking experience in a variety of settings; and [7] flexibility to adapt to environmental problems.

Once you accept these requisites, commitment and practice can help you develop them over time. Achieving stable, genuine self-confidence can be hard if you were abandoned, neglected, and/or abused (traumatized) as a young child. Stuttering may be a symptom of such trauma, and can be reducing by skilled spee3ch therapy.

For perspective on this, see these:

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/means.htm

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/1_traits.htm

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/confidence.htm

If you have more questions, Nes, please ask. I wish you well on developing this useful social skill! - Pete

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Peter Gerlach, MSW

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I can answer questions about how to significantly improve your thinking and communication effectiveness, and your relations with adults and kids. I cannot answer legal, medical, grammar, punctuation, spelling, or spiritual questions.

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I have studied and taught communication and relationship skills for 40 years, and have been a professional family-systems therapist (MSW) since 1981.

Organizations

I am a past Board member of (a) a large suburban community mental-health center and (b) the Stepfamily Association of America, and I am a current member of the National Stepfamily Resource Center (NSRC) Experts Council

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I have published 6 books, including one on communication skills: Satisfactions (Xlibris.com 2nd ed., 2010); and over 150 articles in the nonprofit educational Website Break the Cycle! - www.sfhelp.org

I have also published articles for Selfgrowth.com and over 150 educational YouTube videos.

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BSME, Stanford University, 1959 MSW, George Williams College 1981 Clinical internship U. of Illinois Institute for Juvenile Reasearch (IJR) 1981 Over 100 post-grad courses on a wide range of human-relationship topics

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over 1,000 self-referred Midwestern-U.S. adults, kids, couples, and families

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