Communication Skills/Clarity


I am currently in a difficult predicament. I know that this young man has feelings for me, but all he does is stare at me. There are times in which we could have class together, and he stays behind to gather his things instead of jetting off with his friends, and looks at me the whole time. (according to my friend). What should I do about the staring?

Hi Jordan,

I'm not sure your predicament is difficult, I think that maybe the solution is quite simple. If you like this guy, or think that you might want to get to know him; why not simply initiate the conversation by saying, "Hi".

"First contact" is usually made with a look or even a stare, that's the way we've been doing it for a few million years. If your friends are correct, he's done it. The next step is yours.

Hi, is a pretty safe comeback. You can even be bolder if you want by adding a few more words in the mix.

"Hi, my name is Jordan, what's yours?"

I think that the only reason why you think of this as a 'difficult predicament' is because the next thing you do will reveal your intention. You only have two! You want to know him, or you don't.

I'm not sure that you would be writing me if you didn't want his attention, but if that's the case, ignoring him would give him the message, eventually. But having said that, I suggest that if you want to know him, take a chance.

Lots of luck, (let me know what happens)
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Phil L. Méthot  

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