Question I am healing form a setback that involved an ex-acquaintance of mine. He accused me of things that I had not done, and reported me to the Dean about what he thought I did. I did not do any of the things that he accused me of. The problem was that he never communicated with me(he stopped randomly) about anything. Once upon a time, I did really like him. I feel bad because I still have a lot o that attraction towards him. He stated acting weird(staring a lot, acting nervous around me, always faced in awkward body positions that made it look like he was trying to stare at me). We have another two classes together this semester and he acts the same way despite everything that went on between us. I would like to know what you may think is going on with his staring? How can I also further heal/move on from him as well?
Answer Hello Jordan - the erratic behavior you describe suggests he is a "Grown Wounded Child."
If this is true, then I encourage you to assess yourself for psychological wounds, for GWC's are often attracted to each other. If you have wounds, study online "lesson 1" for ways to reduce your wounds.
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