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He used to be a really nice dude in school. We were friends since 3-4 years. Then in the last year he changed and evolved into a sarcastic, mean person. We both used to hang out with the same group of people. School got over 6 months back and we went to our own seperate paths. Ivtalked to him a few times on skype and kik thinking that he might have changed in college. But he didnt. Everytime i talked to him, he said something mean.. That hurted my feelings. But i never reacted. I am thinking to meet everyone next week. He would probably be with us too. But i dont want to see his face no more. I think its time for me to pull the plug. I searched a lot on how to end friendship but only thing everyone suggested was that delete his number, delete him on every social networking sites etc. But i cant. I cant do it cuz itsnot possible for me to not to see his face again, because we have a lot of mutual friends. This is the only thing thats stopping me from ending this. I cant fight with him and create a fuss. I kust want to put a full stop and dont even wanna say buy to him.

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Hello Moi - you have another choice besides cutting him off. Learn to practice respectful assertion and empathic listening :  http://sfhelp.org/cx/skills/assert.htm  and http://sfhelp.org/cx/skills/listen.htm. In the first of these, look for "I-messages." Also, see these examples for ideas:  http://sfhelp.org/cx/options.htm. Try these and see what happens. - Pete

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Peter Gerlach, MSW

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I can answer questions about how to significantly improve your thinking and communication effectiveness, and your relations with adults and kids. I cannot answer legal, medical, grammar, punctuation, spelling, or spiritual questions.

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I have studied and taught communication and relationship skills for 40 years, and have been a professional family-systems therapist (MSW) since 1981.

Organizations

I am a past Board member of (a) a large suburban community mental-health center and (b) the Stepfamily Association of America, and I am a current member of the National Stepfamily Resource Center (NSRC) Experts Council

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I have published 6 books, including one on communication skills: Satisfactions (Xlibris.com 2nd ed., 2010); and over 150 articles in the nonprofit educational Website Break the Cycle! - www.sfhelp.org

I have also published articles for Selfgrowth.com and over 150 educational YouTube videos.

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BSME, Stanford University, 1959 MSW, George Williams College 1981 Clinical internship U. of Illinois Institute for Juvenile Reasearch (IJR) 1981 Over 100 post-grad courses on a wide range of human-relationship topics

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over 1,000 self-referred Midwestern-U.S. adults, kids, couples, and families

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