Question Hi Peter,
I am about to start a new position in a busy medical centre as a novice nurse aged 40. During my interview I was asked specific questions along the lines of communication and how I'd address the problem of a work colleague randomly yelling at me in the workplace. I had been interviewed after hours and didn't see the nurses in action until today. I saw many nurses coming to see me being the new nurse. I was asked several personal questions eg. Did I have kids, do I like beer? How old was I? I also listened very carefully and realised there is perhaps some issues in place already. One nurse complained about another nurse stating she was lazy. Another complained of patients who spoke Arabic. Another said she was the 'bitch' and another said she was the agro nurse.
I have dealt with conflict in the past and had my share of bullying but need some advice on how I can avoid any problems as I really want to do well. I am concerned as it felt like I was among hens in a chicken pen waiting for them to peck at me! Any advice on some practical ways to protect myself from negative colleagues so I can get on with the job and still be liked would be so helpful.
Answer Hello Kim - for effective communication in any setting, patiently learn to practice the seven skills in this free online "lesson" http://sfhelp.org/cx/guide2.htm
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