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I was wondering would you please tell me: is it a fact that some people won’t talk to some body else face to face about particular things, so they weather send emails or messages?

If it is a fact, would you please explain to me in a simple way that I can understand: why is that

Thanks

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Hi Cameron

There are many people who choose to email or text rather than speak face-to-face, or pick up a phone.  It might be too strong to say they 'won't' speak to people directly, but it is true that many people choose to text or email instead.

There are several reasons for this, some useful and some not. Often when you need to ask someone a question when you call them, you are sent to voicemail or you cannot reach them. If you text or email them, then your part of the communication is done, and now it is up to the other person to answer.

Of course far too often people email or text rather than speak to the person directly, which would ensure that the communication is clear and if not clarification can be done instantly. In the "olden days" (ten years ago) people would pick up the phone to speak to someone. Today, many people expect that everyone is only seconds away by email, and expect an answer immediately upon sending the text or email.  We have come to expect communication to be instant, but often what we get is no communication but short answers that leave more questions unanswered.

Cameron, I think the simplest reason why people text and email more than talk is because the technology to do that is there. We can text to several people in the time it takes to talk to one. Sometimes we want a simple answer, but when we talk on the phone we can spend minutes just saying hi, how are you, etc, just to get our answer.  A lot of people, especicially the youngr ones find it faster to just send off a text.  It may not me the best form of communication, but today many people are more interested in speed than they are in the quality of communication.

I hope this answers your question.

Phil L. Methot  

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For individuals wanting help with public speaking, I can answer most questions dealing with skills, memory,and body language. Essentially the tools required to become a great speaker. For individuals having trouble communicating one on one, or getting their voice heard, or their message across, I can help you with that too. Listening is an important part of communication, so we can work on improving your listening skills as well. If you feel you are not being understood, that is a deeper issue, but we can start here to steer you in the right direction

Experience

I have successfully worked with corporations as a motivational management consultant across Canada. I have twice been President of a Toastmasters group, as an Advanced Toastmaster Gold. I wrote the multimedia ebook: "10 Steps to Becoming A Great Public Speaker." My book "Through the Door!" :A Journey to the Self, dealt with self-image and Will Power. Self Image plays a key role in our ability to communicate and listen effectively.

Organizations
Toastmasters - Currently President of Pointe-Claire Toastmasters (club 9750)

Publications
Book: "Through the Door!" :A Journey to the Self by Phil L. Méthot Book: The Weight is Over - A revolution in Thin Thinking by Phil L. Méthot Multimedia Book: 10 Steps to Becoming A Great Public speaker by Phil L. Méthot Articles in SelfGrowth.com, http://www.uncommonforum.com/

Education/Credentials
Canadian Training and Development Group, success Motivation International

Awards and Honors
Three times recipient of the Presidents club award through the Canadian Training and Development Group and Success Motivation International.

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