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(This is not a spam question or a homework question)
I was wondering would you please explain to me in a simple way that I can understand: how do I get a impossible friend to:

Give a straight answer instead of asking him a question a million times?
Asking him a question but getting no reply, instead getting asked a question by him?
Getting him to listen to me when I”m telling him something?
Getting him to believe wot I tell him about somethings? e.g. like Facebook needs a internet connection

Thanks

Answer
Hi Cameron,

All your questions are based on one simplified version of them all;  "How can I get respect from my friend?"

If you have to ask me all these questions then I can assume that your 'freind' is showing a lack of respect for you, and maybe he is that way to others too.  If it is to everyone that he acts this way, then he is a rude fellow with no respect for anyone, and you won't be able to change that in him until it now longer serves his purpose.

If, on the other hand, he is like that to you specifically, than he is not being a friend at all, and you are being taken for granted.

The solution, Cameron to both situations is the same; freindship is a two-way street, and if he won't act as a freind to you, then you should withdraw your friendship.  Tell him that you are tired of being treated in this way, and that you do not want to be in a pretend friendship. Tell him that if he ever wants to be a freind for real, then he will have to prove himself to you.

It is sometimes hard to do the right thing, Cameron, because it means losing a friend, but if he is like this, than he isn't a real friend anyway.  You deserve to be treated with respect, and standing up for yourself is the first step in getting it.

I hope this helps you.  Please rate the response honestly.

Phil L. Méthot

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For individuals wanting help with public speaking, I can answer most questions dealing with skills, memory,and body language. Essentially the tools required to become a great speaker. For individuals having trouble communicating one on one, or getting their voice heard, or their message across, I can help you with that too. Listening is an important part of communication, so we can work on improving your listening skills as well. If you feel you are not being understood, that is a deeper issue, but we can start here to steer you in the right direction

Experience

I have successfully worked with corporations as a motivational management consultant across Canada. I have twice been President of a Toastmasters group, as an Advanced Toastmaster Gold. I wrote the multimedia ebook: "10 Steps to Becoming A Great Public Speaker." My book "Through the Door!" :A Journey to the Self, dealt with self-image and Will Power. Self Image plays a key role in our ability to communicate and listen effectively.

Organizations
Toastmasters - Currently President of Pointe-Claire Toastmasters (club 9750)

Publications
Book: "Through the Door!" :A Journey to the Self by Phil L. Méthot Book: The Weight is Over - A revolution in Thin Thinking by Phil L. Méthot Multimedia Book: 10 Steps to Becoming A Great Public speaker by Phil L. Méthot Articles in SelfGrowth.com, http://www.uncommonforum.com/

Education/Credentials
Canadian Training and Development Group, success Motivation International

Awards and Honors
Three times recipient of the Presidents club award through the Canadian Training and Development Group and Success Motivation International.

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