Expert: Jennifer Cruse - 11/5/2000

Question
I`m 24 years old and wear a 34B.  I`ve always thought my breasts were small and wish they were more fuller and maybe a cup size larger.  I envy those women who have larger, natural breasts and if I had the money I`d be first in line for implants.  I`m in a very great relationship (for 1 year now) with a man who loves me for who I am. He says breast size doesn`t matter to him and he loves the way I look now. My only problem is that when we`re making love I sometimes feel inadequate and/or `less womanly` because I don`t have big breasts.  Sometimes I even hate having him on top because I look totally flat chested on my back.  When I start to think this way I can`t fully enjoy making love with him with all those thoughts running through my head.  Fortunately he`s very patient with me and reassures me when I feel this way.  How can I learn to just accept my chest the way it is when society is constantly throwing us images that say  big breasts=sexy and beautiful?  Any advice would be appreciated.  Thanks.  

Answer
Dear Dawn,
I don't think that your boyfriend is thinking about your breast size when you are making love. I felt the same way with my husband,he was my boyfriend at the time, and he would keep telling me that he loved that I didn't have big boobs because they would only get in the way of being close to me, feeling his body as close to me as it can be. It isn't easy to be small chested and I wasn't always as comfortable with it as I am now. My husband isn't a "boob" guy, he is a butt guy. He says that what I lack in chest tissue(ha ha) I make up for in my butt. Ask yourself what is your favorite part of your body? You can't say I hate my body and not name something you have to pick something. Focus on that, if your boyfriend says that breasts don't matter, believe him. Besides, I've seen large to larger size breasts and they sag-eeewwwwhhhh!:) My best friend is a size D and she hates that she has such large breasts, her back hurts her. It took me awhile to be comfortable with my body, its something that you have to work out in your time. I figure if God intended me to have boobs then he would have given them to me.If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to write, Good Luck
-Jennifer

By the way, have you figured out your favorite part of your body yet?