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dear rabbi, i have no friends or brothers or sisters. no one's ever wanted to be my friend since I was a little girl. it was always like that. i'm 25 now. my father left the family without looking back, and my mother ignores me most of the time. i have no brothers or sisters. i have some cousins but they dont talk to me much. i am depressed most of the time. i was told by a psychic once my father did not want me. when i was little i attended an ultra orthodox kindergarten where everyone believed that god existed even though my family wasnt ultra orthodox. everything turned out wrong for me even though i believed in god and tried my best. now everyone just bullies me all the time. i dont have the strength in me to go on. please help me?

Dear Ana,

Thank you for reaching out for assistance and advice.

You are describing a very difficult set of circumstances and I would urge you to reach out promptly to a local physician or hospital for the professional assistance you are seeking.

You may in time wish to consult a Rabbi, but for the moment you are entitled to have emotional and social support within the community.

Best wishes

Rabbi Dov

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Rabbi Barry Dov Lerner


Write to me with questions about Jewish customs and law, history, philosophy and tradition for answers from a Conservative perspective or conversion. I am a graduate of The Jewish Theological Seminary and a member of the Conservative Rabbinical Assembly. Having served in congregational pulpits since 1970, I now am President of the Foundation For Family Education, Inc. a non-profit educational endeavor. I established it to create new formats of hands-on programs and provide free educational downloads at In addition to general informational questions I welcome your questions about programs for social action, outreach to dual-faith families, inter-faith clergy projects, healing services, education for conversion, adult education for the congregation and the community. If you have questions about Informal and Formal Education I am ready to share my extensive experience with Youth Activities, Camping and Religious School/Hebrew High School on a congregational, community and national/international level.


I have served on the National Youth Commission for more than 25 years and serve on the Boards of the Conservative Zionist movement MERCAZ and the World Council of Synagogues. I have always dual-families and taught candidates for conversion with a great sense of fulfillment. I am very proud of 25 years on the Jewish camping staff of Camps Ramah. My greatest source of pride is my family! Ask me about them, please!:-)

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