Expert: Russell - 9/11/2009

Question
Hi, I really like this guy...he is really handsome, sweet, kind, polite, smart, funny, and cute...he is very respectful, doesn't drink, smoke, use drugs, doesn't sleep around...he comes from a good, clean, respectful family...my parents approve of him even though we are of different races... we get along well, we are both getting our doctorate degree...

Anyway he plays a lot of video games but I don't know if he's an addict or just an enthusiastic gamer.

Anyway, he is part of this thing called "cosplay" basically it is where people make their own costumes and dress up like their favorite characters from video games. They have conventions and they have costume contests and they play games with fake swords. Fun stuff. So he spends a lot of money making these costumes and attends these conventions about 2-3 times a year.

Anyway, I was just wondering...I don't mind playing video games every now and then, but I'm not this obsessed...not like he is...

he works 40-60 hours a week (as do I) and he's on those cosplay forums online like 4 hours a day...

Is this too much to date someone? Should I avoid this man?

I mean, there's stuff I like too, like I'm really into music, I'm obsessed with my favorite bands, etc...

I mean, I guess I'm on youtube downloading music videos all the time too... but i never dress up like the musicians in the bands (hahaha)

How much would you say is too much?

thanks
Ana

Answer
Hello Ana, I'm not a dating expert adviser, so I will try to answer your question to the best of my ability. As long as he's working full-time, then I would say that he's not a game addict. Game addicts play games 10-16 hours a day. Game addicts that don't work and live at their parents house play even more then 16 hours every day. If he just works and just plays his game and doesn't spend anytime with you, then you should probably find someone that spends time with you. Perhaps you can compromise with him. Ask him if he can only play the game 3-4 times a week, then have him do something that you want to do. If he can't do that, then he probably cares more about the game then you, if he's not willing to spend any time with you. Also, if he plays less, then he would have more money to spend on you, like take you out to dinner or doing something fun that you like to do. You should talk to him and see if you can get him away from the game a couple of times a week, or maybe play only 2 hours, then hang out with you. If he is unwilling to compromise with you, then I would say find someone that will spend more time with you. I hope this help.