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Expert: Andrew Date: 7/3/2008 Subject: 2 years and im still not over him?
Question So i am thinking of going to find my ex boyfriend. It's been 2 years since we broke up and we were together 2 yrs.
He started acting really cold right before we broke up and after we broke up. He wanted to take a break and not talk to me but i couldnt go without talking to him. It was like toture for me. So I got so frustrated with not knowing what was going on that i asked him if he wanted to be with me anymore and he said he didnt know.
Im not really sure what happened. but it just seemed like he went from loving me unconditionally- we had serisously talked about marriage in the distant future and i thought we both beleived we were meant to be together and not like other couples our age - and all of the sudden he was disgusted by me as a person and acted emotionless. Im not sure what happened. I know he was under a tremendous amount of stress with school and work and just figuring out what he wanted to do.
So we broke up and he stopped answering my phone calls.
I have since felt very passionate about him. Eventhough he has been cold 4 of the 5 times we've had contact with eacother since we broke up. I guess he changed his number. I talked to him last year around Feb or March and he said that his significant other didnt like that he talked to me and he was living with her and he had been since we broke up.
Immediately after breaking up with him i moved to another state so i could pay in state tuition for school.
I miss him so much. I dont know what to do. I see him everywhere.
I have this really big urge to go find him back in Colorado.. eventhough i know that i will probably find him engrossed in a love with another woman. which may hurt more than help me. Maybe that coldness that he showed me at the end is all Ill ever see of him.. but i dont want it to be like that.. Our realtionship was so beautiful and it felt so strong.
I want to contact him but its been over a year since i had that breif converstaion with him..
and i do remember an email from him a year or so ago.. stating that i was dead to him and we might as well be strangers.
I dont know why he would be so mean and i dont know why im hanging on.
I have a very active socail life and i spend time alone. I dont know what to do other than find him to get him off my mind. I think of him everyday. When i see someone who slightly resembles him i fantacize that it is him.
I feel crazy.
I google him religously. I search him on every free search engine he's nowhere.
I dream of him still.
I am an attractive 22 year old female.. Ive dated other men since we broke up and as far as i know he doesnt effect those relationships.. .
but i want to see him again.
what should i do?
Answer Hi Jamie,
It sounds like you are still upset over the way it ended, you were not ready for it to end but it happened anyway, the problem is that it sounds like he has given many signs he wants no contact and even though that is hard, it would be best to understand that it is not meant to be, I am glad to hear you are going on dates and trying to move on but the right person has not yet come along, Are you allowing yourself to move on? definitly do what you can to occupy your mind and try to build a life withour your ex in mind.
