| Subject | Date Asked |
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| older younger married | 11/14/2009 |
Q: i am older man 56 and at work i have been talking for the past year with a married younger woman ...
A: there's always loss/gain in every situation; here you get to be with a young, beautiful beauty ...
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| my girlfriend | 10/29/2009 |
Q: Ok Hi im 16 and my names Dave :D. I am dating this girl and im totally inlove with her and I am ...
A: so u have to decide--if the cost of this pleasure (giving in to her every whim) is too high, stop ...
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| parents interference / reconciliation | 10/18/2009 |
Q: I was in a relationship with a younger woman. 10+ years. We were both grad students and had similiar ...
A: it looks like you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; you have a choice--a) ...
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| Very confused | 10/9/2009 |
Q: I feel very bad these days, and could use some direction... I am a 51 year old married man, and ...
A: i'm not sure why you're in so much pain--aside from the physical (which can't be THAT important to ...
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| age diff and parents | 10/4/2009 |
Q: I was in a relationship with a younger woman. 10+ years. We were both grad students and had similiar ...
A: not a question of right/wrong...your decision is understandable when viewed objectively; it was ...
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| Please help | 10/2/2009 |
Q: have lost the love of my life, and I dont really know why. I am 29 , he is 46, we have been long ...
A: it's probably a good thing that this happened NOW, rather than after a marriage; at this point, no ...
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| Relationship issues | 9/29/2009 |
Q: Ok here goes, I was with this guy for 2 years, we lived together for a year. He was always on his ...
A: WAKE UP CALL--where has your self-esteem gone?..your insecurities have allowed this jerk to play you ...
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| Socialising with an older man 'as a friend' | 9/24/2009 |
Q: My question is about how to make clear that you want to be friends, and nothing else, with an older ...
A: the next time he suggests doing something, clarify that you wouldn't mind an arrangement based on ...
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| Dilemma! | 9/19/2009 |
Q: I hope that all is well with you. My dilemma is that I still have feelings for someone and I am ...
A: wake up call--there's zero basis to think that this is worth pursuing, especially seeing you haven't ...
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| Pursuing a relationship, 15 year difference | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I met a man almost a year ago on a double date (my best friend was on a date with his best friend), ...
A: the age thing isn't that big a deal, unless someone THINKS it is; at this point, only HE knows his ...
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| 22 years my senior | 8/26/2009 |
Q: Five Months ago i started casually dating an older man 22 years older then me. I was hesitant to ...
A: depends what you're looking for/what your priorities are; he's offering a friendly, casual, ...
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| jealously | 8/14/2009 |
Q: I am 42-yrs old and my girlfriend of 2 years is 30-yrs old. She likes to get professional massages ...
A: interesting question...i think you have to give her a pass on this ..she's within her rights here to ...
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| Help!!! I don't know what to do. Age diference!! | 7/11/2009 |
Q: I am very attracted to this guy, but he is 17, and I am 21. I must also mention that me and him ...
A: i think the path is somewhere in the middle..at 17, he has a long way to go before promising ...
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| I'm 27 he's 42 | 7/6/2009 |
Q: I have been dating this man for a month now. I absolutely love the time we spend together! He is a ...
A: it's not about right/wrong; after a month, i wouldn't get too crazy, not to mention this guy has no ...
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| older woman dating younger guy | 6/29/2009 |
Q: your other Q&A didn't hit on this particular age gap...i'm 56 and (i think...scared to ask) he's 30 ...
A: i believe that's for YOU to determine--guess it would be rationalized under the "age means nothing, ...
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| Falling in love with my best friend's younger brother... | 6/8/2009 |
Q: My best friend and I are always together. We also hang out with her younger brother and his friends ...
A: the age thing isn't that big a deal, but i doubt your friend will change her feelings about it, and ...
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| interfering people in our relationship | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I am a 35 year old guy with a 23 year old girlfriend, we have been dating for 9 months now, we are ...
A: "love" is also allowing for freedom of choice; you're not married, you date; if she chooses to stay ...
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| Age Gap and Parental Problem | 5/10/2009 |
Q: I am 21 years old and have been dating this really sweet, amazing Christian guy for a little over ...
A: actually a case could be made that it IS important as well--plus, they may not like the guy for ...
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| Age Gap and Parental Problem | 5/10/2009 |
Q: I am 21 years old and have been dating this really sweet, amazing Christian guy for a little over ...
A: you could a) move out, b) mention how disappointed you are that they are not supportive, c)stay away ...
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| Older/Younger Relationships | 2/19/2009 |
Q: I am a 47 year old woman who has been in a commonlaw relationship with a 64 year old man for the ...
A: every couple has issues; unfortunately you are in an arrangement with a guy that's only partially ...
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| Really looking for peace | 2/11/2009 |
Q: I'm 29 and married for the last 3 years. I have dated my husband on and off for the last 13 years . ...
A: you already started--we both know you need to leave; there's something lost/something gained in all ...
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| I need help so bad...... | 2/1/2009 |
Q: ) Okay. I am an 18 year old girl, just about to turn 19 next week. I have known a man for about 3 ...
A: that's something only YOU can decide; my "opinion", since u asked, would be to not decide anything ...
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| inter racial relationship | 1/31/2009 |
Q: I am an asian british/bangladeshi girl, 23. I have been in a relationship with a 29yr old ...
A: you can meet up, but bring the attitude, new requirements that i suggested in the prior answer; i ...
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| inter racial relationship | 1/31/2009 |
Q: I am an asian british/bangladeshi girl, 23. I have been in a relationship with a 29yr old ...
A: 6 months WAY TOO early to even be DISCUSSING marriage, especially considering he's now too "busy" to ...
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| older/younger relationship | 1/20/2009 |
Q: I am 27 y.o. and have been in a 3 year relationship with a man who is 52 y.o. (divorced and has one ...
A: know one knows that answer, as there are no guarantees in ANY relationship; certainly, this type of ...
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| 8 year age difference. | 1/17/2009 |
Q: . First off I would like to say that nothing has happened between is sexually. I have known this ...
A: i think you're very foolish to not see anyone else for almost 2 years while waiting for a kid to ...
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| Older girl,younger guy | 12/21/2008 |
Q: A while ago a met a guy who i just connected with straight away and it didn't take me long to fall ...
A: can't predict the future, nor should you put any stock in what "people say", but the age thing has ...
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| question | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I have been in a long distance relationship over two years with a man 13 years older than me and he ...
A: seeing someone 4-6 times a year isn't exactly "often", nor sufficient to build any expectations ...
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| How can this be done? (Lots of potential here.) | 11/21/2008 |
Q: My own experiences have weathered me to some degree with relationships. I even studied psychology ...
A: i'm not big on the "convincing" idea, as my feeling is an interested male shouldn't need anything ...
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| Dilemma with dating a nineteen year old guy | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 37 and the guy I have been dating is 19. We like each other very much, we have fun together, ...
A: unless you expect nothing more than good sex, you're wasting your time; 19 yr old guys and 37 yr old ...
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| older man... don't know how he feels | 10/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 22 years old and not too long ago I met a 37 year old guy and we have been dating for the past ...
A: what are the 2 forms?..my feeling is, if you're seeing each other this much and having regular sex, ...
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| finding someone for me! | 10/10/2008 |
Q: I would appreciate some help. I am 36, divorced woman who is very attractive to men. I have a son of ...
A: sometimes it's not just about what are first preference is; in this case, many younger guys aren't ...
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| 32 years younger | 9/28/2008 |
Q: I have met a 25 year old woman on the Internet who is bright, settled, Christian and even says she ...
A: anything is possible, but you've let your emotions/expectations get WAY ahead of reality; certainly ...
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| 24 yr old female dating 18 yr old male, after dating a 28 yr old male | 9/23/2008 |
Q: Good Day, I recently, about 4 wks ago, got dumped by my 28 yr old boyfriend who I have been dating ...
A: you're getting way ahead of yourself; at the beginning, it's SUPPOSED to be fun--you can't expect to ...
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| Dating for one year... | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I have written in to you before. I will give a recap on the situation. I have been dating an older ...
A: as to the smaller question, it's up to him to call YOU; as to the bigger question, i'm not sure what ...
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| Younger BF's Family | 9/7/2008 |
Q: ..I'm 49 and my BF is 28; we've been together for 2 years (known each other for 5) and I'm having ...
A: your concerns are reasonable; the mother's antics put the son in a tough spot, as it's hard to say ...
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| younger man | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I am 23 and my boyfriend is 21. I just graduated from college and he is still in school. This is his ...
A: with the new information provided, his plan seems reasonable, considering the fact that you'll still ...
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| younger man | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I am 23 and my boyfriend is 21. I just graduated from college and he is still in school. This is his ...
A: neither, just foolish; a) he's a young male, in college, away from you--chances are quite good other ...
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| 18 year age gap - can it work? | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I am 44, but dont feel it, married second time around (4 years)to someone I care about but have ...
A: don't kid yourself--as i'm sure your wife will agree, this already is in the "affair" category; ...
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| Older guy saying we're "just friends" | 8/14/2008 |
Q: I have known this special guy for 5 months. He is 29 and I'm 18. He is in his second year at college ...
A: for whatever reason, it appears you're more into this than he is--not the position you want to be ...
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| age differences | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am 17 years old and currently dating a 25 year. My parents do not know we are dating but they are ...
A: there are age of consent laws that vary by state (16-18)..if he's having sex with someone under age, ...
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| Dating a younger girl | 7/26/2008 |
Q: I am 46, she said she was 24. I started a relationship with a lovely girl 6 months ago. Our ...
A: to me, her lie is understandable, so she gets pass--there was no malicious intent, no ugly ...
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| older guy, turns out i am not the dating expert i had thought i was | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I met this tall, dark and handsome guy at one of nyc's best night clubs. the first night we were ...
A: too much analysis over someone you just started seeing; no one can predict if you'll never see the ...
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| Curiosity | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I am 23 dating my boyfriend of almost 3 years who is 37. when we first started spending time ...
A: these appear to be bogus excuses; the only way that this may have a chance of improving is with your ...
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| Telling my parents about my older boyfriend. | 5/1/2008 |
Q: My name's Sarah, I'm sixteen years old, and I'm currently in a relationship with a very sweet guy ...
A: there's no easy way around it; chances are the parents, especially the father, won't be happy--you ...
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| should i get back with him | 4/15/2008 |
Q: I ve been in a kinda of a rushed relationship straight after a divorce. I was lucky to have met ...
A: don't kid yourself--if you're seeing each other, having sex, etc; you're in a relationship; not sure ...
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| dating younger women | 4/11/2008 |
Q: I have often found myself equally, being attracted to and attract much younger women. I am 34, well ...
A: some people don't care how long someone has been on the planet--it means nothing in terms of having ...
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| We are different ppl, what should we do? | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 4yrs. I'm 22 and he's 27. WE are both in school and working ...
A: it's amazing how guys start paying attention once they have to look at loss; you have him where you ...
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| We are different ppl, what should we do? | 1/31/2008 |
Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 4yrs. I'm 22 and he's 27. WE are both in school and working ...
A: sometimes complacent, WAY TOO comfortable guys don't get it, so you have to make sure you get their ...
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| Older guy, younger girl | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I'm a 29 year old male who has a good job, house, and a stable life. I live in an area where ...
A: if "not screwing up" were your only goal, all you need do is forget the whole thing; but the real ...
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| older man - younger woman | 1/22/2008 |
Q: My good friend is a bartender at local bar where we live. I go there when I am bored, and see her. ...
A: unless your concern as to what others think is a dealbreaker, or your concern about the age ...
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| 36 yr old woman and 22 yr old man, is it wrong? | 1/16/2008 |
Q: I'm almost 36 (next week in fact) but I've met and get on with a young man who is 22. At first I ...
A: it depends if you are easily bothered by what others think; if the fact that friends/family looking ...
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| age differences in serious relationships | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I've met someone, he's the best all-around guy. We enjoy each others company and miss each other ...
A: as you're beginning to realize, there's no way around the pain and suffering this will cause; you're ...
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| Complex | 12/31/2007 |
Q: I am 52 year old male. Very good exec job. Separated 5 years. Leading single life. Not much dating. ...
A: "woman's prerogative.."?..you're the guy--it's ALWAYS up to you to lead the way; if you want to move ...
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| older/younger relationship | 12/28/2007 |
Q: I'm dating a 38 year old and I'm 23 he is married I'm not he has 4 kids 2 by his wife and the other ...
A: don't do it--he needs to get divorced, live on his own, date you as a REAL girlfriend (not just the ...
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| Want to do the right thing... | 12/27/2007 |
Q: I'm a 23 year old guy, and my girlfriend is 17... We've known eachother for a coupl'a years, and ...
A: good question--the fact that you've been able to consider ALL sides of the issue is noteworthy; ...
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| younger man, older woman | 12/26/2007 |
Q: i am 28 and he would turn 24 soon. i have a mental conditioning that ideally men have to be older ...
A: age has nothing to do with it--what DOES is the fact that this is just a fantasy--you're talking ...
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| in love? and with a man a lot older | 12/21/2007 |
Q: Okay so here is my story,... I walked into school for my first day of eighth grade, back in Sep. of ...
A: i really don't know what the deal with him is--i'd like to ASK him, but the chances of this ever ...
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| in love? and with a man a lot older | 12/20/2007 |
Q: Okay so here is my story,... I walked into school for my first day of eighth grade, back in Sep. of ...
A: the "serious opinion" is that this has become an unhealthy addiction; you've concocted this pure ...
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| legality of a releationship | 12/15/2007 |
Q: So, I was wondering about the legality of a romantic relationship. I'm 16 (my birthday is in ...
A: depends on the state--each state has an "age of consent" law which is the minimum age at which you ...
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| Older man/younger woman | 12/11/2007 |
Q: I don't know if there is a question buried in here, but here's my experience. I am just out of a ...
A: not sure what you mean by "same type"; it would be exceedingly difficult to find another 20 yr old ...
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| Slightly older more experienced gf's past haunts me. | 12/6/2007 |
Q: Alright, my situation is a little different. I am dating a woman 2 1/2 years older than me. Im 22 ...
A: at least intellectually, you seem to realize that what she did previously really shouldn't be any of ...
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| im attracted to a guy well ove my age ( 20 years ) | 12/5/2007 |
Q: I'm currently 17 turning 18 in a couple of months but vive noticed all my life that I've been ...
A: let this go, and certainly no pronouncements, to him, mom, or anyone else; these older guy fantasies ...
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| He's too old for me, but i love him. | 12/3/2007 |
Q: Please help me, My boyfriend is 27 years old and I am 17 yrs old. We have been dating for 1 year and ...
A: is what i think really gonna change anything?...your problems here are just beginning--the situation ...
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| My Mom is 63 dating 40 yr. old man - I'm 41 -HELP | 11/26/2007 |
Q: My mother recently revealed she has met a man on a trip to Florida and is falling in love with him - ...
A: she's 63 and your mother--- who she chooses to be with is HER decision; you can considerately voice ...
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| Confused | 11/20/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend is 36 and I am 23. We've been dating for 5 years and everything has been pretty good ...
A: age has nothing to do with it; as for the stamp, he could have been there, stayed 5 minutes; only HE ...
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| 19 yr dating 24 yr ex-boss | 11/19/2007 |
Q: hey there, Well I just started dating my exboss from the summer. I've been attracted to him since we ...
A: if you're going to be worried as to his response to your reasonable concerns, that will only ...
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| Unsure | 11/17/2007 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for over 3 years. He is 5 years older than me. I started dating him ...
A: i think you answered your own question; doubt, uncertainty, restlessness--they're all present for a ...
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| sensitivity | 11/12/2007 |
Q: I am in a relationship with a man who is 12 years younger than I am. We are very close friends and ...
A: alot of troublesome things here; your "why no sex" answer doesn't really answer the inquiry; after ...
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| he is 30 years older than me | 11/10/2007 |
Q: i have fallen in love with a guy 30 years older than me. i'm 27 and he is 56. we have been seeing ...
A: right/wrong are moral judgments, and everyone has their own standards; 2 months isn't a very good ...
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| i am 27, she is 20 | 11/9/2007 |
Q: i am a 27 year old (just turned 27 4 months ago) and have gone back to school to finish getting my ...
A: the age of the girl is a non-issue; the divorced issue may be an issue for a few, but in the big ...
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| One of us is in denial, is it me?...looks like you.. | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing a man 17 years older than me, he is 63 and I am 46. We started as friends and ...
A: "age gap" might just be one reason among many, but the bottom line is he's told/shown you on more ...
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| younger /older and ethnic diffrence causing rifts | 11/3/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and i live together,over a year now. He is 27 I am 47. The relationship is in trouble. ...
A: don't know as to what others actually DID, but the advice is the same; look on this not as a ...
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| In love with much older man | 11/2/2007 |
Q: I'm in a bit of a trying time in my life and was wondering if you could give me your personal ...
A: aren't you really here for "affirmation" rather than an objective opinion? guess we'll find out...i ...
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| sorry, i meant to ask a follow up | 10/27/2007 |
Q: azure, sorry for the repeat. i meant to ask a follow up. thanks for taking the time to help me ...
A: unfortunately, can't see/don't exactly recall original issue..i never recommend chasing under any ...
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| younger man | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I am a 27 year old married women. I am married to respectable successful man 6 years my senior. This ...
A: you come to your senses before you make a regrettable mistake; other than an enjoyable romp in the ...
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| What Should I do? | 10/17/2007 |
Q: Im 18 and for the past year there has been this guy i've liked and he also likes me. He told me he ...
A: first, he's pushin 40 and you're still in our teens...right there you have issues; 2d, his initial ...
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| In a bind | 10/15/2007 |
Q: I have been talking to this girl that recently turned 18, I am 25, and I can't get my mind off of ...
A: 1. the parents won't be too happy about it; 2. only SHE can answer that; 3. that's a long time off, ...
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| younger man/older woman | 9/3/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend is 14 yrs younger than me. he is in his early 20s and still trying to figure himself ...
A: don't let your feelings for him/fear of loss, make you afraid to speak your mind, inform him of what ...
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| Emotional Support | 8/26/2007 |
Q: I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 21. We've have been together for a year and a half. Things were wonderful ...
A: it's quite possible he's seeing other people during this "down time"; even if he isn't, his idea of ...
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| dating - two people and age issues | 8/21/2007 |
Q: I have a great time chatting with the 47 year old - he is very thoughtful and constantly texts me ...
A: age is only an issue if one or both choose to make it one--outside of your feelings about it, it ...
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| Older man :younger Girl | 8/17/2007 |
Q: I have been interested in this older man (30) for months now. but never went for him because I had a ...
A: it's a serious flaw in his character, and essentially a dealbreaker if he remains inconsiderate; ...
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| younger man/older woman | 8/15/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend is 14 yrs younger than me. he is in his early 20s and still trying to figure himself ...
A: there are specific risks with an older female getting involved with an early 20's guy; he can ...
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| ageless love | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I have read one of your answers from a person with a big age gap like this but mine is a little ...
A: you seem like a decent guy, and i do understand how this can happen; ideally, age shouldn't matter ...
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| too many questions | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I don't want to take your time. Here are the facts. I am 32 yo women married with 48 yo man. We have ...
A: only you can decide; i definitely would go with the anonymous donor or adoption before getting the ...
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| She's 18 I'm 25 | 7/30/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 7 months now and been together with her officially for 5 ...
A: the key is not being afraid to "let go", leave spaces in your togetherness...gibran said, "the ...
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| Dating younger | 7/29/2007 |
Q: Rock on. We both have a BA in psych. :) I don't know too much about psychological development ...
A: as you inferred, the issue would be setting the criteria for maturity, certainly not an exact ...
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| Dating younger | 7/29/2007 |
Q: Rock on. We both have a BA in psych. :) I don't know too much about psychological development ...
A: there's probably little scientific basis for the generalization, but culturally it remains; most men ...
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| 20 year difference; closed feelings | 7/27/2007 |
Q: I am 21 years old, and my significant other is 41. We are both eccentric artists, have no money, but ...
A: you say you don't know where it's going, but it's already GONE somewhere--you're living together ...
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| Weird... | 7/18/2007 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, I'm about to turn 19 and he's 25. I love him, ...
A: those reasons he's given you are bogus, and unless he's turned gay, i doubt he's grown tired of ...
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| new relationship/ new to dating | 7/17/2007 |
Q: One month ago, a guy that I have been friends with for 3 months and I decided we liked each other ...
A: "bring him back....to closeness", is not an option; you can't negotiate feelings, nor should you ...
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| changed my mind | 7/11/2007 |
Q: I have been living with this guy for almost a year. He has been divorced twice and I have once. ...
A: i think it's much more than just the kid thing; as to "giving" him time, you don't have it to give, ...
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| So stuck and can't decide... | 7/5/2007 |
Q: Okay, this is going to be long, (sorry in advance)! :) For clarification, I'll call my partner ...
A: i think that leaving/not communicating was the best decision of your life; the next best will come ...
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| Coping with Older/Younger Relationships | 7/4/2007 |
Q: I am a 43 year old woman, he is 29. We met at the gym and hit it off right away. Our first date ...
A: it's much to soon to be concerned about the stuff you mentioned; just stay in the moment, enjoy, ...
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| Should I or should I not... | 7/3/2007 |
Q: I need an advice for something that I've been contemplating to do. You see, I've fallen for this ...
A: nothing ventured, nothing gained...there's more potential upside than down; if he's the nice guy you ...
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| Trapped by a number | 6/12/2007 |
Q: I started seeing a man a few months back and he has proven to be everything I have ever wanted ...
A: you are who you are, and we ALL change (hopefully for the better) and grow; i'm not sure there's ...
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| 24 guy dating 18 year old girl. Help please! | 6/7/2007 |
Q: Ok here goes. My and my girlfriend have known each other since went to church and sang in the youth ...
A: your insecurities/neediness, have put you in an undesirable position of wanting someone more than ...
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| Any chance at all? | 5/30/2007 |
Q: I am 41 (divorced mom of older kids) and have loads of experience and could probably be an expert. ...
A: it's more common when the guy is older, but i'm sure there are successful arrangements amidst all ...
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| seeking advice | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I am a 29 yr old woman who has been seeing a 21 yr old guy for about 4 months,We have been extremely ...
A: i never suggested ending it, just taking it one day at a time; in that regard, you should suggest to ...
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| seeking advice | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I am a 29 yr old woman who has been seeing a 21 yr old guy for about 4 months,We have been extremely ...
A: no guarantees, especially when it comes to long term expectations with a lovestruck, inexperienced, ...
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| Is my ex still in love with me | 5/3/2007 |
Q: My ex bf and I dated for 3 1/2 yrs and we were engaged then one day he says that he isn't in love ...
A: your insecurities have led you astray; he basically said you weren't good enough for a committed ...
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| Is she making a mistake by loving me? | 5/3/2007 |
Q: I am 43 years old. My girlfriend is 25. I have 2 children from a previous marriage. My ...
A: they may mellow in time, but probably not any time soon.. you might have similar concerns if you ...
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| My boyfriend is 40 and im 21 | 5/1/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and my question is is that i have never been to his ...
A: i think he's not being honest or is hiding something; if he has his own apartment, you should have ...
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| My fiance............ | 4/19/2007 |
Q: Please help! I am engaged to be married to a man who is 7 years my senior (me 24 him 31) the age ...
A: to marry, or even hang on to a bad relationship because of fear of loss or being alone, is a bad ...
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| He's 30, I'm 21 | 3/26/2007 |
Q: I've recently met this guy at a local bar and he's great. He's also 30 and divorced with 2 small ...
A: different people will have different opinions; if you're overly concerned (like to write here), it ...
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| Falling in love with an older man, but still married to someone else. | 3/26/2007 |
Q: I have been married for almost 7 years now. My husband and I do very well as friends, but have had ...
A: your interpretation was essentially accurate; as for expectations, i agree we should all have ...
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| Falling in love with an older man, but still married to someone else. | 3/26/2007 |
Q: I have been married for almost 7 years now. My husband and I do very well as friends, but have had ...
A: by your 20's, personalities are pretty much set; first off, you're married to the wrong guy, and ...
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| the reality | 2/27/2007 |
Q: I have also been talking to a counselor in an attempt to find a way to accept what he did – online ...
A: heather--time to come down from the mountaintop, no one has bestowed sainthood uopn you just yet; ...
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| He's been divorced twice | 2/27/2007 |
Q: I am 21 and my boyfriend is 35. We have been together a little over a year now. I love him very ...
A: i wouldn't get too hung up on the vow you quoted; when you marry, whatever pronouncement you make is ...
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| My relationship's age gap is causing problems for my boyfriend! | 2/6/2007 |
Q: I'll try to make this quick. I am a gay 17 year old male, and I'm currently dating a 26 year old. ...
A: made "HIS home life" hard??..no one is forcing him to stay there, or to be badgered by a jealous ...
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| Older guy, won't settle down | 1/26/2007 |
Q: I am 25 years old and I have been dating/living with a man who is 49 for the past six years. He was ...
A: it's hard to believe this subject never came up and you didn't know or assume his non-interest; ...
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| im 22 he's 48, | 1/21/2007 |
Q: how long have you been dating? a few months more secretly, started as just lust, onyl going to be ...
A: you're making it more complicated than it is, and looking for answers that aren't yet available; as ...
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| im 22 he's 48, | 1/20/2007 |
Q: continuing from my last question, and answering yours, we have just began to make our relationship ...
A: how long have you been dating?..how is your time together spent? what do friends/family think?..as ...
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| So much love, so many concerns | 1/17/2007 |
Q: To whom it may concern, I am a 21-year-old woman and I have been dating a 35-year-old man I met ...
A: my first thought is why your self-esteem is so low, and your insecurity so high, that you didn't ...
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| I can't see the light... | 1/8/2007 |
Q: ok look, i am at the end of the rope here, i am quite overwhelmed by the whole situation to say the ...
A: sometimes, even if morally right, you have to bite the bullet; at 15, her parents have control; ...
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| bad parents | 12/31/2006 |
Q: I have a young couple with a small child who live above me. Every day they fight, yell, scream, say ...
A: start with the landlord, then call the dept of social services in your town to see what they ...
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| Age Diff./Family Acceptance | 12/29/2006 |
Q: I've known him for four months, we mainly just go over his house and sit and talk and cuddle or go ...
A: it's not easily solveable; i doubt you'll be able to change her mind, as i doubt she'll be able to ...
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| Does it really work? | 12/23/2006 |
Q: I am an "expert" on here as well...thought I would send out my own question to see what bounces ...
A: hmmm; crystal ball says--really, you can flip a coin, as there's no way to know; it's not age per se ...
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| Help w/ Mom | 12/18/2006 |
Q: Help. My mother (43) is involved with a 20 year old kid. He was my brother's high school friend. ...
A: not speaking to her isn't the best approach; as much as you might not like her choice, you have to ...
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| older ex-girlfriend | 12/6/2006 |
Q: I was dating his woman who was 34 years old and I am 24. We went out for 6 months and in that time ...
A: not sure what you expected, or why; unlike most guys would have done, she basically explained to you ...
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| She's 16 I'm 22. | 11/27/2006 |
Q: First of all I live in Canada, dunno if that makes any difference. Anyways I live in a really small ...
A: it's really only what THEY think about it that matters; besides the daughter presenting you in a ...
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| Older boyfriend lied about his past. | 11/25/2006 |
Q: There is 27 years difference between my boyfriend and I. I am 28 years old and have been together ...
A: true, he WAS deceitful, but it was long ago, and his reticence about revealing the facts is somewhat ...
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| he's 37 i'm 25 and we have no sex life | 11/19/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now and things were great when we first ...
A: quantity is the least of your problems; you're considering marriage in a situation where you have ...
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| 31 year age difference | 11/11/2006 |
Q: Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, sure we have had our up and downs just like ...
A: if that's how he feels, neither of us can change his mind; plus, his reasons may go deeper than ...
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| Older man younger woman!!! | 11/7/2006 |
Q: Ok my question is this. Can this relationship work. I have been seeing/living with this guy for ...
A: in this situation, guys lie about their age all the time; his point is well-taken, as it wasn't a ...
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| I am SO confused! | 11/2/2006 |
Q: Ok. I am 22 years old and by boyfriend is 34 years old. We met two years ago, he was my landlord. ...
A: "if he cheats on me, he will tell me and i have to forgive him.."??...what a crock--not sure where ...
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| hey | 10/31/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been on a break for a couple of weeks now... last night we talked and she ...
A: part of life is learning to accept what doesn't please us; look, she's just a KID, a h.s junior, and ...
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| how to overcome issues with ex husband | 10/18/2006 |
Q: I have been involved with a man 17 years my junior on and off for the last 10 years. I am now 48, he ...
A: your ex husband shouldn't have any opportunities to "torment" you, as conversations with him should ...
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| Breaking Up Then Dating him again | 10/1/2006 |
Q: I've been going out with a guy who is 2 years younger than me, he is 17, well we dated for a month ...
A: your brother was wrong for threatening, but was on the right track; you can't know, but you can ...
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| Younger woman/older man... wrong? | 9/26/2006 |
Q: I am eighteen, and have become caught up with a man thirty years older than me. We used to talk alot ...
A: he's 48; you're 18, and he'd LOVE to have sex with you--making you feel special, for the moment, is ...
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| dating guy with 3 kids | 9/15/2006 |
Q: If in fact things do become that serious between us do you think that my family will accept it ...
A: 1. no one can predict, but my feeling is it won't be any walk in the park, and if it were your kid, ...
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| dating guy with 3 kids | 9/15/2006 |
Q: I just started dating this guy, whom I have known since I was young. I am now 22 years old and he is ...
A: having 3 kids with 3 different women, at 29, is alot to explain, but he needs to; not the least of ...
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| need help understanding why | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I was dating this older lady for three months, we started dating in may after months of talking on ...
A: a) it's over; b) it's no one's fault; certain relationships are only meant to last so long; that ...
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| I'm 26, he's 38 | 8/28/2006 |
Q: I'd just like an impartial opinion on this... I met "David" last year when I was traveling in ...
A: good, and not so good; the age difference is really a non-issue, only a problem if you/he THINK it ...
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| Ending A Long-Term Relationship | 8/25/2006 |
Q: I ask myself, "What is an easy way to end a long-term relationship?" By easy, I mean without ...
A: i think she's owed some version of the truth, which is it's unrealistic to try and be JUST with each ...
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| older, younger, big problems | 8/20/2006 |
Q: This is sort of a long question. It's kind of a long and twisted story too. I'm 19 years old. From ...
A: as a friend, you could express your thoughts regarding the reasons for his decisions; but unless he ...
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| does age really matter? | 8/2/2006 |
Q: im just wondering, if both guy and girl are legal why is age such a big deal? if both, love each ...
A: all true, but sometimes people DO care what friends/family think: also, after awhile of dating with ...
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| Older/younger relationships | 7/23/2006 |
Q: I can't seem to understand why it is okay for a 18 year old to date a 36 year old, but if you were ...
A: "okay" is a value judgment and everyone is entitled to an opinon as to what's "okay"; many would ...
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| younger man/older woman - still in love? | 6/20/2006 |
Q: my ex-boyfriend and i have been going through a dilema for a couple of months and i am not sure that ...
A: a no brainer when looked at objectively; it appears he basically demoted you from main squeeze to ...
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| need help with a girl whos 5yrs older than me | 6/19/2006 |
Q: ok. its now hit me tht shes not interested.. ill try n move on but shid i remain friends with her or ...
A: remain friends only if/when you can look at her and not feel romantic/emotional involvement; if you ...
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| DATING A YOUNGER MAN | 6/14/2006 |
Q: i HAVE BEEN DATING A WONDERFUL, THOUGHTFUL MAN FOR 3 MONTHS. The only problem I have is he is 24 ...
A: you say "big issue" for you, but it didn't stop you from dating him to begin with or getting to ...
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| i'm 26, she's 18 | 6/5/2006 |
Q: I'm 26 years old and she is 18 years old. I have known her for a year as friends and we have been in ...
A: not a bad question; i feel that ideally age shouldn't matter in matters of the heart, but in cases ...
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| I'm 22..he's 46 | 6/4/2006 |
Q: I met this man online 10 months ago(He's 46 and I'm 22). Since then I have felt really good with ...
A: the age thing isn't the main issue; the problem is you've gotten WAY TOO emotionally involved with a ...
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| Older guy / younger woman | 5/26/2006 |
Q: I'm a 36 year old guy who is currently dating a 18 year old woman and I'm stuck on what to do, she ...
A: you can express your concerns without sounding panicked or anxious, but don't expect reason-based ...
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| Help Me Please!! | 5/17/2006 |
Q: I am going to pull the hair out from my head, I need some assistance. I'm referring to some major ...
A: no one is forcing you to stay in this rut, which has essentially become an insecurity-based, ...
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| Older guys younger girls | 5/12/2006 |
Q: Well me and this guy have been talking since thanksgiving of 2005 he is 23 and i am 16. um i have ...
A: "better advice.."??..there's nothing wrong with the advice; you asked me what you should do; i ...
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| advice needed | 4/27/2006 |
Q: ------------------------- Followup To ok so, r u saying there is no chance. that if i dont want ...
A: forget the friend talk and the drunk talk; i could be wrong, but my feeling is if she wanted ...
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| advice needed | 4/27/2006 |
Q: i choose to ask you this question because i saw the difference in age between you and your husband ...
A: you're in "no man's land", stuck between friendship and romantic relationship, leaving you with a ...
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| ???? | 4/19/2006 |
Q: First let me thank you for answering this question, I really appricate the advice. I have a huge ...
A: you're looking in the wrong place; SHE'S the one you need to talk to; figure out what your ...
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| Younger girls | 3/27/2006 |
Q: I'm 25 years old and I'm not sure if I should be dating someone older, younger, or my own age. I'd ...
A: i think you're way too concerned about it; it's hard enough finding someone to like at ANY age, let ...
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| Younger girls | 3/27/2006 |
Q: I'm 25 years old and I'm not sure if I should be dating someone older, younger, or my own age. I'd ...
A: time to let go of that age/security connection; i've dated much younger women my whole life and no ...
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| im 39 he's 23 | 3/22/2006 |
Q: --what do you mean by mother issue and do you really think the age difference is that big of an ...
A: it's his MOTHER; also, just realized you have four kids; makes me even more dubious he'll be signing ...
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| im 39 he's 23 | 3/22/2006 |
Q: I am a single mother of 4 children 18,16,13,4 I am in a supervisory job at a local plant I hired a ...
A: the virginity issue is the LEAST of it (especially if he's already having orgasms from your oral ...
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| the truth | 3/19/2006 |
Q: I am a 21 yr old junior at college. I've never really had a relationship until this past summer in ...
A: in person would be best, but first you have to adapt the appropriate mindset; you're not ...
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| my boyfriend is 12 years older then me. | 3/4/2006 |
Q: i have a boyfriend who i love we have been dateing for almost a year now and we plan to get married ...
A: he's just saying he's old compared to YOU; if you have a problem with it, tell him it would really ...
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| We have some difficulities | 2/28/2006 |
Q: I am at my wits end at the moment. My boyfriend and I both need some advice I think for each of ...
A: you're not gonna get his attention with just words, while your actions continue to support his bad ...
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| What am i suppose to do? | 2/24/2006 |
Q: It been some time since i post at allexperts.com. =) My age is 18 and i am a very sensitive and ...
A: unfortunately she doesn't feel the same about you; one reason is she sees your neediness and is ...
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| confuzed | 2/21/2006 |
Q: i been dateing someone from work who doesnt work in the same department as me for the past 8 months ...
A: don't quite understand his answer, but the bottom line is he's not all that interested; to become ...
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| Younger man | 2/21/2006 |
Q: I am a divorced, single 38 year old woman with 3 children, ages 10, 15 and 17. I recently met a man ...
A: there's always reasons to be skeptical, as ALL relationships we begin thru our lives at some point ...
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| Slightly Older Girl | 2/15/2006 |
Q: I am currently 18 years old and there is a girl I work with that is 20 years old. I am confused on a ...
A: you're putting alot of time/energy into what SHE may/may not think about YOU, but at this point, ...
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| it doesnt feel natural | 2/9/2006 |
Q: iam always asking my boyfriend to give me love. but he says i ask for to much. we been togther 6 ...
A: many times what you THINK is love, doesn't help at all; if you were reading this question about ...
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| Does it seem ok? | 2/9/2006 |
Q: when i was about 23 i met a girl who was 13. I quickly found out that she had the biggest crush on ...
A: i'm not here to make moral judgments, but you do have huge practical concerns; be prepared to face ...
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| After 2.5 years she needs to "take a break".... again.... | 2/3/2006 |
Q: The girl I have been with for the past 2.5 years was an old high school crush of mine, also I was ...
A: put the signs together; she's young and she wants/needs more freedom, to do WHATEVER she chooses, ...
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| older man/younger woman - is there a future in the distance?? | 1/14/2006 |
Q: i am a 25 year female. i am in the middle if a divorce and i have been seeing one of the 'upper ...
A: as to family potential, you need to get a little more clarity from him than, "if it happens it ...
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| Older man, Yonger women | 1/12/2006 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend, who is also my best friend, for almost 10 months now. That is a ...
A: "phase..?" actually life is a series of phases..as to his ex, tell him to stop talking about her, ...
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| He thinks he's an old man! | 1/6/2006 |
Q: my boyfriend and i have been dateing for 8 months now and i love him, and i believe he loves me to ...
A: he could be using the "old man" line to put you off on the marriage thing; and only knowing him 8 ...
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| relationship | 1/5/2006 |
Q: I am a 21 year old female and I have been with my 27 year old live-in boyfriend for eight months. I ...
A: get beyond the insecurites interfering with your good judgment, and start listening to the family, ...
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| Complicated older/younger relationship | 12/21/2005 |
Q: I'm a college junior (19 years old), and have a rather complicated situation on my hands. There's a ...
A: something lost, something gained, in every situation; but considering the 3 points you made, there ...
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| 24 Dating a 18 year old | 12/20/2005 |
Q: I have a question for you that I really need advice on. I currently just started dating a 18 year ...
A: it's not that big an age difference; as to others, those who are REAL friends won't pass judgment, ...
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| Dating a soon to be divorced older man | 12/13/2005 |
Q: I am 38 and have met a wonderful 50 year old man. We have been dating 7 months. He has been ...
A: it's just a matter of spending time in a positive, secure, considerate environment, where good ...
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| I'm a younger guy, she's an older woman.. | 12/4/2005 |
Q: I understand your advice may not be what I would like to hear, seeing most people only ask for ...
A: there aren't alot of choices other than just being honest with him; in doing so, and knowing his ...
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| Age difference - 18/37, former teacher | 11/28/2005 |
Q: I'm currently a freshman in college (18 years old) and I have a very close relationship with a ...
A: the chances of this fantasy becoming a reality are slim, and have all kinds of problems associated ...
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| Got the not ready talk, is the problem within me? | 11/21/2005 |
Q: I have been separated for one year now, and I have one daughter. Recently, I was introduced to a ...
A: there could be any number of mis-interpretations on either parties part; the only person that knows ...
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| Emotional Security in a dating relationship | 11/7/2005 |
Q: I'm a senior in magazine journalism at Drake University in Des Moines, Iowa. I'm writing an article ...
A: self-esteem comes from many sources; certainly male affirmation can be important, but we ALL need ...
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| What should I do? | 11/1/2005 |
Q: I am currently dating a man who is much older than me. He is 39, and I am 22. We have been dating ...
A: it's gettin real close to it; figure out what your REQUIREMENTS are for continuing, including those ...
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| 38...17 | 10/31/2005 |
Q: I have been working with my current boyfriend for 5 months and we had sexual intercourse for the ...
A: this will most likely end very badly; not sure if you can call what it is you do "dating", since you ...
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| a break | 10/16/2005 |
Q: ok so my girl friend of almost 10 months dropped the we need to take a break bomb on me sunday when ...
A: you're supposed to take the time to rebuild your self-esteem so you don't remain so needy in what ...
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| college professor | 10/4/2005 |
Q: I'm a freshman at college, and for the month that I've been up here I've become totally obsessed ...
A: people "shut the door" on their feelings everyday; if not, we'd all be doing alot of crazy things to ...
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| secretly dating older man | 10/2/2005 |
Q: ok....so, I'm 20 years old...I've never had a boyfriend or anything, until 11 months ago....I met ...
A: just because you've grown up enough to successfully navigate through this so far, doesn't mean you ...
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| she is younger than me, with another man and i am heartbroken | 9/28/2005 |
Q: i am 49, english, living and working in geneva, switzerland. i moved here in 2001 with my 2nd wife ...
A: 1..you'd be able to answer that better than me; 2.again, that's difficult to say from here; 3. i ...
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| 13 year age gap | 8/17/2005 |
Q: i have been dating a guy for a year and a half. it didn't have the best of beginnings, i had been ...
A: many times, love isn't enough, as other principles can, and should, come into play; the mother is ...
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| Older girl dating somewhat younger guy... | 7/14/2005 |
Q: I liked your profile and hope you can help me. I am 27 years old and have always dated guys older ...
A: i don't think the age difference is that big of a deal; guys can opt to "trade" for someone ...
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| dating | 7/7/2005 |
Q: I am 47, my husband of 24 years was bipolar, took his own life 2 years ago this September. ...
A: only YOU can determine the extent of your feelings; as to "settling", again, it can be a tough call, ...
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| should i talk about it? | 6/29/2005 |
Q: my name is Sommer. I have a problem and have had one for a while now. You see, im only 15 but I've ...
A: hey sommer--great name..you can tell her if you like, but we both know it won't do much good..yea ...
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| Age Difference | 6/9/2005 |
Q: I am going to be a sophmore in school this upcoming year and Philip is going to be in his second ...
A: possible in the short term, improbable long term (more than 5 years)..if both older, the age ...
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| was I wrong | 5/17/2005 |
Q: I had been with my girlfriend for almost 1 1/2yrs. She is 23 and myself 46. She was killing herself ...
A: no, but some may not view it as an act of caring; first, it would have to pass the test of there ...
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| Religion harming relationship | 5/4/2005 |
Q: Alright, I can't understand my girlfriend and I am looking for some advice. A little background is ...
A: people have a right to requirements and preferences as to what they want/expect from a partner; in ...
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| older/younger relationship | 3/1/2005 |
Q: He's 53, I'm 26. He used to be my boss 7 months ago. I practically lived at the hotel he owns and ...
A: only you can ultimately decide; alot of it depends what your goal is; if it's just to continue ...
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| Does he like me or not? | 2/24/2005 |
Q: ..I know this guy from school I'm a sophmore and he's a senior we just became friend not to long ...
A: ask him what the deal is with the girlfriend, and how he feels about you; as long as he's treating ...
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| Younger woman | 2/13/2005 |
Q: I am 40, she is 25. I am in the process of a divorce, not a messy one, very amicable. I have told ...
A: i wouldn't over-analyze it; enjoy the moment, continue to assess her feelings, and yours, deal with ...
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| may/december romance | 2/9/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend of about three years is 26 years my senior. We have been through more in three years ...
A: of course, as to his marriage break-up, we've only heard HIS side of the story..my feeling is all ...
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| Ideas? | 1/25/2005 |
Q: I work at a martial arts school doing some multimedia and film stuff. A girl there is a black belt ...
A: well, you have 3 choices; 1) leave it the way it is, as flirtatious work interaction; 2) make a move ...
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| I'm older/he's younger | 1/21/2005 |
Q: I am a 37 yr old female in love with a 24 yr old male. We have a surprising amount in common and get ...
A: making it work for you and he is the same as any relationship; if mutual needs are met, it stands a ...
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| statutory rape? | 1/11/2005 |
Q: i am friends with a 22 year old guy and him and i are only friends but others think differently im ...
A: first you have to find what the "age of consent" is in ny state; try searching net under the above ...
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| Don't know | 1/4/2005 |
Q: ..I am a fellow all experts volunteer and I was asked a question that I believe you may be better at ...
A: hey there sara; thanks for entrusting me wih the question; quite a compliment..i don't think i've ...
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| Age difference a problem | 12/30/2004 |
Q: I am a 34 yr old woman who has been seeing a 25 yr old guy for about 2 months. We are very ...
A: you didn't actually ask a question, but i gather you're seeking some form of understanding; some ...
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| Older Guy Younger Girl | 12/27/2004 |
Q: Ok, I have been dating this girl for a while and I am quite a bit older, in a sense that most people ...
A: none; that's up to their daughter; you can discuss it with her, and hopefully come to an agreement, ...
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| He's older | 12/12/2004 |
Q: I am 18 and I am dating a guy who is 24. I really, really like him. We've been together for a couple ...
A: emma..cool name..i don't know..using the "l" word afer 2 weeks, him hanging with the parents, ...
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| Dating younger girl | 12/6/2004 |
Q: I am 46-years young and am told by many that I look in my mid-30's. I met a 19-year old girl who ...
A: it's more a decision of feelings vs practical consequences, than a moral one; i agree with your ...
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| Older/Younger relationship Cheating/ long distance | 11/29/2004 |
Q: I'll tell you the short version of the story first so that you will be able to understand the ...
A: give up all hope, focus on the present and future, start talking to, meeting, dating other guys, ...
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| Older/Younger relationship Cheating/ long distance | 11/29/2004 |
Q: I'll tell you the short version of the story first so that you will be able to understand the ...
A: get him back???...you must be kidding; the guy has lied, cheated, played you for a fool, shown he ...
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| A confusing relationship | 11/25/2004 |
Q: I am 17, and I work at a popular sandwich resturant, I always work with the Owner of the place, and ...
A: it's not wrong, but everyone in your world will think it is; consequently, as he is well aware, ...
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| Dating an Older Man | 11/10/2004 |
Q: I am 26 years old and have recently left my first career, and am unsure where I'm headed next. I ...
A: if my behavior got that delusional, i'd get counseling..you're gonna wait 10 yrs?? where's the ...
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| Am I the Issue 2 | 10/24/2004 |
Q: ------------------------- Just curious though should he come back on his own would you recommend me ...
A: it depends what he says, and where you're at; if he explains the past and talks of the future to ...
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| Am I the Issue | 10/24/2004 |
Q: I am recently dating an older man he's 34 and I'm 20. Though right now we are going through a whole ...
A: maybe you didn't hear him; as i see it, he basically ended the relationship as you knew it; wanting ...
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| My Older Husband | 10/21/2004 |
Q: I've been in a relationship with an older man for 7 years. I am 25 he is 44. We've been living ...
A: i've no idea what his answer meant, and i'm assuming you didn't either; "unbalanced"?; "future ...
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| I have been in a relation... | 10/19/2004 |
Q: I have been in a relation with a woman 23 years younger than me now for over a year. I realize she ...
A: it's nowhere near love; she's playing you like a fiddle--you're there for her convenience, when she ...
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| Older man | 10/13/2004 |
Q: I'm 19 and this guy I'm interested in is 37. I know this seems like a big gap, but I've been told by ...
A: you be foolish not to move; i wouldn't read anything more into his making it easy for you to stay ...
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| what do i do? | 10/13/2004 |
Q: My boyfriend Stephen and I had been going out for 10 months. Me and him did everything together. I ...
A: unfortunately, sometimes in love your heart gets broken; don't chase; he left and all you can do is ...
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| Ending a Long Term Relationship | 10/7/2004 |
Q: I give credit and admire your ability to take time to help other's in their lives. I have just ...
A: i believe there are times in life when one has to "be cruel to be kind"; this looks like one of ...
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| Dating a man 11years older | 10/4/2004 |
Q: I'm a single 19 year old mother, since my son was born I have been more responsible than most ...
A: i don't see anything unusual about it; just keep in mind, you haven't known him very long, and many ...
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| Alicia and I have been friends... | 9/28/2004 |
Q: Alicia and I have been friends for over a year now - we met online on a message board for a veteran ...
A: not that tough; viewed from the outside, it's a pretty unhealthy situation; you're supposed to be ...
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| 27 years difference | 9/12/2004 |
Q: I'm in a state of utter confusion. I am a 27 year old female, falling in love with a 55 year old ...
A: i would first stop worrying about "scaring him off.."..he's a mature man of 55; at that stage, real ...
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| should i or should i not be friends with him | 9/7/2004 |
Q: This has been a quick moving relationship from start to end. I met him and called him a week later. ...
A: real friendships aren't something to be offered up by a leaving lover as a means of relieving his ...
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| Parenting | 9/2/2004 |
Q: I hope you can provide some insight for me...I am currently involved with a man who is 15 years ...
A: very perceptive, and valid, concerns; also, it's not unrealistic to think that down the line you may ...
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| Embarrased | 8/27/2004 |
Q: I'm 31 and have been seeing a girl who is 18, casually, for a few months. I have been unable to ...
A: there's always something lost and something gained in every situation, and in the final analysis, ...
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| dating a younger woman who is enganged | 8/9/2004 |
Q: This is rather complicated situation (who's isn't?) But the story goes like this: I am a 30-year-old ...
A: don't be concerned about the age question; i've always dated females even up to 20 yrs younger and ...
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| an older guy | 8/1/2004 |
Q: I'm 18. There's a guy I like... I just graduated and he used to be my teacher. He's 30. I don't know ...
A: emma; nice name...i don't think, under these conditions, you should do anything more or less than ...
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| Important question | 7/15/2004 |
Q: One last question then I'll leave you alone. May I ask how old you are? I think age does matter in ...
A: i'm over 40, have had numerous relationships, and know what i'm talkin about; (check the ...
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| Important question | 7/15/2004 |
Q: To tell you the truth, we have talked about that. If we do move together, we will have all new ...
A: new furniture or not, the experience of, influence of, and memory of the past, will still be with ...
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| Important question | 7/15/2004 |
Q: I wasn't expecting you to have the ultimate solution, I knew what you would say would be negative ...
A: you're out of line if you badger her about her past, or insist on stuff like sidestepping her bed; ...
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| Important question | 7/15/2004 |
Q: what are your ages?..how long have you been emailing? any phone calls?..how far away do you live? ...
A: you're WAY over your head with this, and the age thing is just part of it; you've been captured by ...
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| BOYFRIEND | 7/1/2004 |
Q: OKAY WELL ME,AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN DATING FOR A LITTLE WHILE NOW,AND HE HAS TOLD ME THAT HE HAS ...
A: the reasons you're not ready ARE related to age, maturity, and life experience; if you already ...
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| dating an older guy | 6/14/2004 |
Q: My mom said she was gonna call the cops on my older boyfriend of 21 and im 16 because i am with him ...
A: he could be 80; there's no laws limiting who can "hang out" with whom; depending on the state you're ...
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| Confusement | 6/7/2004 |
Q: I have asked many friends about my situation and what i should do but im still confused. I broke up ...
A: don't know what advice your friends gave you, but confident, self assured guys don't sheepishly ...
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| 19 yrs difference | 5/20/2004 |
Q: I need some insight please? I met a very attractive, sweet, young lady, she just turned 20, I'm a 39 ...
A: there's not alot to do beyond what you're doing; hopefully, the more attached she becomes, the less ...
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| Older girl and myself | 5/7/2004 |
Q: We've been out to dinner and lunch several times and for a few drinks, I don't really know whether ...
A: you're in way over your head on this, as it's doubtful she feels the same about you; already you're ...
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| what to do | 5/4/2004 |
Q: My (ex)boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and have lived together most of that time. We ...
A: this has probably been over for awhile, but your neediness and insecurity blinded you to it; ...
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| Hopelessly in love AGAIN | 4/1/2004 |
Q: I'm currently head over heels over a girl 15 years younger than I am, I'm 35 now. I met her 3 ...
A: i don't believe in waiting for people to change their mind; if she felt about you the way you want ...
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| Dating an Older guy | 3/2/2004 |
Q: I am currently dating an older guy. I am 18 yrs old and he just turned 27. We have been toget her ...
A: don't expect it to get any easier; chances are you'll continue to get grief about it, as alot of ...
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| age difference | 2/12/2004 |
Q: ,,,,i've met this guy over the internet we met last night everything seems to be fine execpt for the ...
A: there are things more important..feelings shouldn't be influenced by how long someone's been on the ...
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| communication | 1/4/2004 |
Q: I am 17. My boyfriend will be 23 this month. It is really hard for me to open up to him and I ...
A: you answered your own question...talk to him ASAP, tell him your feelings, and that for you to be in ...
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| Broke up beacuse of sex | 6/24/2003 |
Q: my girlfriend broke up with me recently. After trying to guess the real reason (we got along really ...
A: sometimes it happens that way; especially since you only knew her 2 weeks...it's probably a good ...
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| What happen here and should I call? | 4/4/2003 |
Q: Recently I have ended a relationship, if you can call it that(I don't like to) with a man 22 years ...
A: a) don't call, b) get counseling.....from an objective view, this relationship was little more than ...
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| age difference | 3/1/2003 |
Q: I am 35 she is 21. Some frown on the relationship, like her father. Do you think it will be a ...
A: not necessarily; especially if the two of you don't consider it a problem...long term commitment is ...
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| stubborn relationship | 11/11/2002 |
Q: My name is Tiffany. I am 23yrs. old and my boyfriend is 31. (He has never been married.) We have ...
A: there's an option to the usual tradition of the woman sublimating her desires/wishes for the man; ...
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