| Subject | Date Asked |
|
| sex with older man | 11/10/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend is 60 and i am 41. we have been together for 2 yrs. when he wants to make he love i see ...
A: I think you need to discuss this with your boyfriend. There may be a medical problem that could be ...
|
| Being pursued | 11/9/2008 |
Q: I am a 34 year old man, being pursued by a very attractive 19 year old girl. Despite the age ...
A: Unfortunately, I don't have any ideas for how you can date this woman and still keep your friendship ...
|
| younger girl/ older guy | 11/9/2008 |
Q: I am 21 and I am currently dating a 26 year old guy. I am head over heals in love with him, but ...
A: This guy sounds like he may be beginning to emotionally abuse you. Telling you that you are ...
|
| Follow-up from previous question | 10/25/2008 |
Q: This is Col_montana from an earlier post about 3 weeks ago regarding a relationship between an 18 ...
A: Good to hear from you again. Although it probably would be best for her from a professional ...
|
| Older married woman | 10/9/2008 |
Q: I am 27 years old and unmarried. For the past two years I have been dating a 46 year old married ...
A: Some of your girlfriend's behavior makes me question whether she truly intends to get divorced - the ...
|
| 18 year old male - 25 year old female | 10/7/2008 |
Q: OK, as you can see the age difference is 7 years which I don't think is a problem because I really ...
A: Well this does change things slightly, but I still stand by my original answer that I feel she is ...
|
| i'm 29 and my crush is 20 | 9/23/2008 |
Q: I recently returned back to college to finish my B.A. (and eventually earn my Masters) and I've ...
A: K, Thanks for writing to me. It sounds to me as though he is already thinking along the same lines ...
|
| 18 year old male - 25 year old female | 9/18/2008 |
Q: OK, as you can see the age difference is 7 years which I don't think is a problem because I really ...
A: I think she seems genuinely interested in you romantically. This is not the way a co-worker who ...
|
| Do I stay? | 8/31/2008 |
Q: I am 30 and my husband is 48. We have a 2 month old son together, he has 4 other children from 3 ...
A: I'm sorry to say I think the answer is evident, too. There is no reason why you should be with your ...
|
| An 18 year age gap- can it work? | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I am 44, but dont feel it, married second time around (4 years)to someone I care about but have ...
A: I absolutely believe that a relationship with an 18-year age difference can work. The chances for ...
|
| I am 43 my girlfriend is/was 24 | 8/14/2008 |
Q: my girlfriend and I moved down to Florida about a year and half ago from NY. I was downsized from my ...
A: I think it might be best to give yourself some time to heal, then move on. Since she has asked for ...
|
| Mising My Youth | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I have been in a comitted loving relationship with a women 8 years older then me for the past 5 ...
A: I think that most of the dissatisfaction you feel with your wife is due to the fact that you resent ...
|
| My older boyfriend lied to me about his age. | 8/4/2008 |
Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend who I love deeply has told me he was 26 going on 27 this August. It wasn't ...
A: In my opinion, this lie is a big red flag. Solid relationships don't begin on lies. Not only did ...
|
| Marrying an older man quickly | 8/4/2008 |
Q: I am a 36 year old woman. I have a good job with benefits. . I have three children. A few months ...
A: Even though you have known each other for fourteen years, you have only been romantically involved ...
|
| Dating a younger girl | 7/26/2008 |
Q: I am 46, she said she was 24. I started a relationship with a lovely girl 6 months ago. Our ...
A: I don't think that the age difference itself is insurmountable, but I do think it's troubling that ...
|
| Dating an older person who has an issue with it... | 7/5/2008 |
Q: I have been dating the girl for almost 3 months. She never called it dating but it might as well ...
A: This seems like an unusual hang-up on her part. As you know, you can't change your age, and you ...
|
| Insecurities | 7/1/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend is 30 and i am 22. we started dating a year ago and we are very much in love. he treats ...
A: Well, feeling insecure in this situation is understandable. Only he can decide whether he will stay ...
|
| OLDER MEN | 6/29/2008 |
Q: I am a 59-yr-old female with limited relationship experience due to being a caregiver for my mother. ...
A: I think you are right to feel like a mistress in this relationship, because he is treating you like ...
|
| i'm 23 and my boyfriend is 44 | 6/17/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, i am totally over people's reactions to ...
A: Well, you're right - unfortunately there really isn't anything you can do to help the situation with ...
|
| Muddled | 6/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 24, female, and in a relationships with a man who is 59. I have never been married, and I have ...
A: Hester, It sounds to me like he doesn't want to have any more children. When one of your ...
|
| age difference in couples | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I am 22 and my boyfriend is 45. What affect do you think this will have on us or our families? How ...
A: As long as the two of you are OK with your age difference, there shouldn't be any negative affects. ...
|
| Muddled | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I'm 24, female, and in a relationships with a man who is 59. I have never been married, and I have ...
A: I don't see any real red flags here in regards to your relationship. Some might say the affair he ...
|
| Dating with kids | 6/12/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are now living together. He is 29 years old and I am 19. We have a great ...
A: I think you need to take a step back and re-read your own letter. You are talking about a ...
|
| Beginning a life with a woman nearly 11 years older. | 6/9/2008 |
Q: I am about to move in with a woman that is 39 and will be 40 shortly, I am 29 myself. This woman, ...
A: Normally I would not say that 10 years is a big obstacle to starting a family, but the fact that in ...
|
| my mom's new boyfriend | 5/31/2008 |
Q: Hey, I don't know if you can help me with this or not because I'm not the one in the age difference ...
A: First of all, there aren't really "rules" in a situation like this. As long as both people are of ...
|
| Some advice needed | 5/19/2008 |
Q: This is my first time coming here, and I have to be honest, I didn't think there would be a category ...
A: I would definitely give this a chance and hang out with him. He obviously likes you since he's ...
|
| Me 30 Him 50 | 5/4/2008 |
Q: I am a 30 yo girl and I would like to get married and have children in a couple of years. The ...
A: There is no need to marry someone 20 years older just because of finances. Surely you are not the ...
|
| Practical, but in love, 22 year age difference | 5/1/2008 |
Q: After several years, I have found myself very much in love with a man about 22 years my senior. It's ...
A: I guess the one thing I'm not understanding here is where it's written in stone that this ...
|
| is he cheating on me? | 4/28/2008 |
Q: I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 34 years old. We have been dating for about a month now, in ...
A: Unfortunately, I think your friends are probably right. The attitude change, never being available, ...
|
| dating a younger woman | 4/19/2008 |
Q: I met a girl who is 30 and i am 54 she thinks i am 45 well now it has gotten serious she has totally ...
A: If she is truly in love with you, I doubt another nine years is going to make a difference. ...
|
| Younger Girl ... | 4/11/2008 |
Q: so im a 21 year old college student from buffalo, ny and I met this gorgeous girl with a personality ...
A: Well, it's definitely going to take time to regain their trust, but I think if I were you, I'd ...
|
| Should I date an older guy? | 4/10/2008 |
Q: Ok! Well I went to a club the other night with some girlfriends and this guy asked for my number, I ...
A: When you are a legal adult, dating someone nine years older than you isn't creepy at all. If you ...
|
| Is he too old | 4/7/2008 |
Q: We have been talking to each other for about 3 months and things are great. It started off based on ...
A: From what you've described, it doesn't sound to me like you should be worried about him not taking ...
|
| Seeing a younger girl. | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I have just turned 21 this year and in the place I work, there are a young cheerleading team who age ...
A: As long as she can legally consent to date you, I don't think there's anything weird about it. Four ...
|
| Ref: question | 3/19/2008 |
Q: Good day, As a 32 year old male virgin i often find myself attracted to women 15 - 20 years older ...
A: I'm not a sociologist or anthropologist, so I can merely speculate as to why the older man/younger ...
|
| missing ex boyfriend | 3/6/2008 |
Q: anybody who got hurt in love and can understand my state pls reply this.. this is not joke and im in ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time. However, it sounds to me like this was ...
|
| Started out bad even with happy moments... | 3/5/2008 |
Q: I am sorry for wasting your valuable time since I'm just a messed up person trying to get advice ...
A: I don't either Billy or Bob can provide you with a healthy relationship. It sounds to me like your ...
|
| older boyfriend | 2/24/2008 |
Q: i have a problem, i started working at a tim hortons in my hometown and i met a guy who i really ...
A: You would need to do an Internet search on the term "age of consent" for your specific state. ...
|
| older man with younger woman | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I am 34 and my girlfriend is 20. We have been together for about 6 months. She feels that going out ...
A: My advice is to let her go out with her friends; there is nothing wrong with her wanting to be with ...
|
| attracting older guy | 2/14/2008 |
Q: i am 26 years old and guys my age go younger girls then me may be 23 or 24 years old and they not so ...
A: Well, I'm not a beauty or weight loss expert (I am overweight myself), so I would recommend writing ...
|
| attracting older guy | 2/13/2008 |
Q: i am 26 years old and guys my age go younger girls then me may be 23 or 24 years old and they not so ...
A: Well, speaking from my own experience, I found that dating men about 10 years or more older than me ...
|
| Older guy, younger girl | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I'm a 29 year old male who has a good job, house, and a stable life. I live in an area where ...
A: First of all, I'd like to say that I admire the way that you've handled this with thoughtfulness and ...
|
| He is 45 I am 33... | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I have recently been into a new man. He is 45 and I am 33. Although I have always been attracted to ...
A: Why would I tell you to run as fast as you can from someone who is smart, educated, a good ...
|
| Am in love with a younger man | 1/24/2008 |
Q: I am 33 year old single indian woman. I am in love with a 25 year old indian man. We are in a long ...
A: I am looking at your Catch 22 from another angle. Yes, it's a setback to your dream of being a ...
|
| I'm seeing a man 8 years older with 12 year old daughter. | 1/21/2008 |
Q: I met this guy when I was 17 and he was 25. We were together intimately a couple of times when I ...
A: I don't think, at this stage in both of your lives, that 8 years is a huge, insurmountable ...
|
| Am in love with a younger man | 1/20/2008 |
Q: I am 33 year old single indian woman. I am in love with a 25 year old indian man. We are in a long ...
A: I hope that when you say you are receiving "threats" from your family, you don't mean threats of ...
|
| maybe, maybe not | 1/17/2008 |
Q: I am a 24 year old single girl. There is this guy (who is now 39) who I have known since I was 17. ...
A: Based upon what you're telling me, there is nothing wrong with pursuing this man to see where things ...
|
| older man younger woman | 1/11/2008 |
Q: My daughter just turned 17. 8 months ago, when she was 16 1/2, a friend of the family informed me ...
A: My sympathies for your situation. It sounds like your daughter is in this relationship as much for ...
|
| Older man w Kids | 10/19/2006 |
Q: Ive never done this before, but I was surfing the web and stumbled on this site. I am 24 years old ...
A: You sound like you are truly happy with this man, and he treats you well. That is a really valuable ...
|
| I'm 28 she's 18 | 10/17/2006 |
Q: I was just writing this to get your opinion on my current situation. I have been talking with a ...
A: The best advice I can offer is to go out of your way to convince the parents that you have the best ...
|
| followup to i'm 18 he's 23 | 10/8/2006 |
Q: When Stephanie wrote to you about her problem, the left out a few things. Besides being 23 to her ...
A: Absolutely those facts change my answer. Under no circumstances would I ever advise anyone of any ...
|
| Too old? | 10/6/2006 |
Q: I've always dating within 2 years of my own age. I have since found the perfect guy. Do you think ...
A: An age difference of 6 years, when both of you are legal adults, is really nothing to worry about. ...
|
| i'm 18 he's 23 | 10/5/2006 |
Q: i met this really nice guy who works at a store i shop at. i really like him and he seems to like ...
A: Your mother is probably woried about you getting hurt by an older man. She might also be worried ...
|
| father at 83 dating 29 year old lesbian | 10/5/2006 |
Q: Over the weekend, it was brought to my attention that my father who is 83 (and in excellent mental ...
A: I am sorry to hear about your situation; it must be very frustrating. Since your father appears to ...
|
| Started seeing 18yo while I'm 23. | 10/4/2006 |
Q: I'm feeling confused with where I stand and what should happen. I've known her for over a year and ...
A: Ordinarily, I don't think a 5-year age difference really matters between two consenting adults. ...
|
| Older,and younger relationships | 9/26/2006 |
Q: My man is 52yrs,and myself 36yrs,we've been together for going on 14yrs now.My god I feel like I'm ...
A: I'm going to need some more info to effectively answer about your situation. What are the problems, ...
|
| What's wrong with me? | 9/26/2006 |
Q: Hey- I'm an eighteen year old virgin, never had sex with a guy, never even had a real boyfriend, and ...
A: Betsy, I just realized you've been talking to this guy for four years, which means he's been ...
|
| I feel like he took advantage of me | 9/24/2006 |
Q: I was asked out by a guy who is older then me I was 19 and he was 26, he told me that he and I could ...
A: You should stop being so hard on yourself. What happened was not your fault. And just because a ...
|
| can this relationship fulfill my dream of it? | 9/23/2006 |
Q: I am a mid 50s American professional man who is well-to-do, and my girlfriend, age 40, who is an ...
A: Well, you certainly seem to have bad luck in picking women. Frankly, I am shocked by your ...
|
| is this love or should i move on? | 9/18/2006 |
Q: i am currnetly dating an older man, who has been separated for a year and a month now from his wife, ...
A: If your boyfriend is so possessive and jealous that he is never willing to forgive you for having ...
|
| Old Girlfriend Issue | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I feel like I finally met my soul mate. I'm 35 and he's 23. I have never dated a younger man, but he ...
A: Something is definitely fishy here, and you are justified in being upset. If you have had multiple ...
|
| need advice | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I need some advice, first let me give you the basics, she is 34 and I am 24, we met online and at ...
A: My opinion is a mix of what your sister-in-law and friend have said. Your ex realized that she ...
|
| Older man vs younger woman | 9/5/2006 |
Q: Ok let's get the facts out of the way. I'm 31 and have been in a 7 month relationship with my 22 y/o ...
A: Well, to be honest, it's hard for me to understand why you would continually start arguments about ...
|
| he's only 6 years older! | 9/4/2006 |
Q: my name is kristin and I am 20 years old. I recently met a man so wounderful I cant even begin to ...
A: This whole situation sounds like trouble. Out of respect for you, your boyfriend should have made ...
|
| I am 48 and he is 25 and someday wants children | 8/29/2006 |
Q: I have recently gotten into a "relationship" with a wonderful 25 year old man. I am a 48 year old ...
A: I assume from your letter that you are not open to having or adopting any more children. Before you ...
|
| dating an older man | 8/1/2006 |
Q: I am considering beginning a relationship with an older man. I am 29 yrs of age and he is 38yrs of ...
A: I think 9 years is a perfectly acceptable and workable age difference, especially since you are both ...
|
| confused rather smashed | 7/22/2006 |
Q: Im 26,n its been just approx 2yrs of marriage .i actually feel like breaking free from all the ...
A: It sounds like you definitely need to talk to your husband about your feelings. If you feel as ...
|
| Can a May/December romance be successful in the later years of life? | 7/12/2006 |
Q: I am a 38 year-old woman dating a 56 year-old man. He is everything I have ever dreamed about and ...
A: While I don't have any statistics I could give you on May-December relationships, I can say that I ...
|
| 15 year age difference | 7/7/2006 |
Q: I am 25 and for a year now I have been very close with a 45 yr old man. Recently my feelings have ...
A: I see nothing wrong with pursuing a relationship with this man, provided he feels the same way about ...
|
