Expert: Ms. HeartBeat - 8/23/2000

Question
A 36 yr. old male met me (a 49 yr. old vibrant, youthful, sexy, divorced mother of an 18 yr old girl) on Valentine`s Day walking down the street in NYC.  We`ve been dating for six months now and have fallen in love.  He is the consummate gentleman in every way.  He`s recently asked me would I ever live with a man again or get married again and I evade the issue.  He`s a foreign born (Egyptian), higher educated man who has life goals.  He has never been married.

What are the chances of a successful long-term loving relationship?  

Answer
I would think your only concern might be babies.  He is at that age where men start thinking about themselves in old age, and wndering who is going to take care of them, etc.  Many of them want to run out and have a bunch of kids to guarantee their legacy. Find out where he is on that issue and make sure you two are on the same page.

Other than that, age is just a number.  If he is mature, loving, honest, supportive and committed, why are you questining it?  Women live longer than men, and stay healthier too!  Older women are more perfectly matched sexually with younger guys as well.  He is plenty grown, old enough and experienced enough to know waht he wants in a woman, just as you are old enough and experienced enough to make a similar choice.

I say judge him on the man that he is, and not his age.