About Ms. HeartBeat Expertise My background covers more than 12 years in the relationships field; I have produced and hosted a cable television show on male/female romantic relationships, and conducted numerous workshops and seminars in the San Francisco Bay Area. For two years I hosted an online relationship advice column for AOL, and author a weekly column on the internet. May-December relationships are far more frequent between older men and younger women, although its not uncommon for older women to be involved with younger men these days. When does society begin to impact our comfort level in a relationship with a difference in age, maturity and experience? Might it be a foolish mistake to become involved with someone much older or younger than yourself? My style is blunt and to the point; I don`t coddle nor baby you. My style may not be suitable for those who are sensitive or want someone to tell them what they want to hear rather than the truth.
Note: Cannot answer psychic questions or predict the future
Question A 36 yr. old male met me (a 49 yr. old vibrant, youthful, sexy, divorced mother of an 18 yr old girl) on Valentine`s Day walking down the street in NYC. We`ve been dating for six months now and have fallen in love. He is the consummate gentleman in every way. He`s recently asked me would I ever live with a man again or get married again and I evade the issue. He`s a foreign born (Egyptian), higher educated man who has life goals. He has never been married.
What are the chances of a successful long-term loving relationship?
Answer I would think your only concern might be babies. He is at that age where men start thinking about themselves in old age, and wndering who is going to take care of them, etc. Many of them want to run out and have a bunch of kids to guarantee their legacy. Find out where he is on that issue and make sure you two are on the same page.
Other than that, age is just a number. If he is mature, loving, honest, supportive and committed, why are you questining it? Women live longer than men, and stay healthier too! Older women are more perfectly matched sexually with younger guys as well. He is plenty grown, old enough and experienced enough to know waht he wants in a woman, just as you are old enough and experienced enough to make a similar choice.
I say judge him on the man that he is, and not his age.
