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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Will I ever recover? | 1/28/2012 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: I don't even know where to start as there are so many places I could take this. I guess I'll just ... A: Please watch this. http://youtu.be/vw5HLT-TyRs I can understand how your life has been turned ... | ||
| Depression | 1/27/2012 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I'm 15, almost 16 and since around mid-2010 if not before then I started feeling depressed. All my ... A: I want to offer you two things: (1) a guesstimate of what is happening to you; and (2) some options ... | ||
| MSW career options | 1/23/2012 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I received my MSW degree about 16 years ago and worked briefly in a clinical setting before I had my ... A: Lord (I didn't think I would ever address anyone as "Lord"; good to hear from a colleague. I hate ... | ||
| Depression | 1/23/2012 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: My name is Mimi. My close friend is 22 years old and he lost his older brother(who was 26 years old) ... A: From what you wrote, I suspect your friend bears significant psychological "wounds" from early ... | ||
| career /schooling | 1/19/2012 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I'm the mother of a high school sophomore at a Christian school. Part of her dream is to play ... A: Let me start by saying that I am not a Christian counselor and therefore have little expertise in ... | ||
| pet grief question | 1/18/2012 | Lavinia Albescu |
| Q: I am studying to become a mental health nurse and had a question on grief therapy for pets(if that ... A: I believe people don't need an item to remember the loss or the pet, they usually want help to get ... | ||
| Therapy | 12/31/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I read in one of your answers that diagnosis are irrelevant, and that made me relieved to hear. My ... A: Reid, First, thank you for the feedback on diagnosis. Nice to know that what I say might be ... | ||
| ayuda | 12/31/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I am a 48 years old man grieving because I use to look girls for sexual intercourse and end up in ... A: Antonio, I had worked as the director of social work and bereavement services for a local hospice. ... | ||
| ayuda | 12/31/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am a 48 years old man grieving because I use to look girls for sexual intercourse and end up in ... A: Hola Antonio - from your description, I begin to wonder if you have the treatable condition of ... | ||
| ayuda | 12/30/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I am a 48 years old man grieving because I use to look girls for sexual intercourse and end up in ... A: Antonio, I noticed that you addressed this question to Peter. I am very willing to answer it but ... | ||
| ayuda | 12/30/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am a 48 years old man grieving because I use to look girls for sexual intercourse and end up in ... A: Hola Antonio - From what you write, I suspect you may have problems other than grieving - eg having ... | ||
| How to get therapy | 12/30/2011 | Marc Storr |
| Q: I'm 16 and I've known for a long time that there's something not right with me. But now I need help. ... A: I'm not that familiar with Canadian counselling but I had a quick look on the Canadian Professional ... | ||
| Acknowledgement of birthday & holidays | 12/30/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: This relates to my two adult sons. This past holiday season one of my sons visited with me. I had ... A: No, it's not wrong to share the honesty of your heart with others. You stated your disappointment. ... | ||
| Family Issues | 12/23/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I always hear that you need to keep negative people out of your life so that you can stay positive ... A: What realy helps in a situation like this is to acknowledge reality. We can only control ourselves. ... | ||
| Who decides? | 12/20/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I just wrote you about my frustration regarding my husband overriding what I thought we should do ... A: Kathy, welcome back. First, I wouldn't make a problem of that which isn't a problem yet and may not ... | ||
| Arguments with friends..... | 12/18/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Yes, when something around me happens, I feel (angry,sad,frustrated,fearful, etc.) By letting go of ... | ||
| parenting conflicts with a young adult child | 12/18/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I will try and make this short. Son, 22, has a history of issues. Generally he's very normal and a ... A: Kathy, let me begin with my favorite soapbox: psychiatric diagnosis. In reality, psychiatric ... | ||
| School Counseling | 12/17/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: Joel, I am about to start my MEd in School Counseling, and am worried about gaining the experience ... A: Nikki, I need to start by saying that I am by training, and education a social worker not a school ... | ||
| Arguments with friends..... | 12/9/2011 | Marc Storr |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Firstly, sorry about the delay - I thought I'd answered this but clearly I hadn't... From what you ... | ||
| Arguments with friends..... | 12/9/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Todd. Nice to be so passionate about a subject but I can gather that too much of anything ... | ||
| Arguments with friends..... | 12/9/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Useful alternatives to "arguing" are [a] agreeing to disagree or compromising [when you have a ... | ||
| Arguments with friends...... | 12/9/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Apologize if you can and say, "I lost my usual cool and I think I'm OK. Are we good?" He will ... | ||
| Arguments with friends..... | 12/9/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Feelings motivate. I can share the process with you if you want. When you can let go of the ... | ||
| Arguments with friends...... | 12/9/2011 | Lavinia Albescu |
| Q: Recently a good friend of mine and I got into a bit of an argument about computer tech. Usually if ... A: Since you haven't actually asked a question I am going to assume that you want me to give you advice ... | ||
| counseling | 12/8/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: Can you practice counseling after graduate school without taking or passing the licensure exam? A: John, Each state sets its own requirements for licensing of professionals. I would recommend that ... | ||
| Communication in Relationships | 12/7/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am 50 this year, and recently moved to NZ. big mistake as I found out the guy I trusted enough to ... A: Your description suggests multiple stressors: 1) many emotions related to finding that the ... | ||
| need help plz | 12/7/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I read this article: How do you let go of negativity? I have alot of it. It has affected me in too ... A: You know your negativity by your feelings. This is how it works. Feelings are the body's reaction ... | ||
| confident | 12/3/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: how are you? i am a student.24 years old. but the most important problem about me is that i havent ... A: Confidence comes when you’ve done it and you know you can do it again. This applies to everything ... | ||
| sx | 11/29/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: what happen for a wonam if she had alot sexual relationship in her life? or have sex 4-5 once week? ... A: I am not sure I understand the question. Nothing "happens" if a man or a woman has a lot of sex or ... | ||
| Question | 11/28/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: This is not a problem but a general question. Something that I am aware of since I was a kid. I have ... A: I fully understand that you would know what is going on in a counseling session. What we do is not ... | ||
| Crush on therapist's daughter | 11/24/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: My problem is that I have a crush on my therapist's daughter. I've never actually met the daughter, ... A: , I think if you are going to have a positive working relationship with your therapist, you should ... | ||
| coaching | 11/18/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: can you tell me about getting a life coaching certificate. what does it entail, how much does it ... A: David. First, I need to be upfront that my field is counseling and therapy and I don't practice as ... | ||
| Am I holding my roommate back? | 11/13/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I am an 18 year old Female in my first year at a large state university. Recently my roommate, who ... A: First, a reality check. We do not control others and others cannot control us. We can react to how ... | ||
| Dealing with change | 11/9/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: My family got a great dog yesterday, after months of planning and preparing. All family members ... A: No matter what you understand you have in the way of mental problems, you still have feelings, and ... | ||
| What is this called? | 11/5/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am looking for a technical name for what I do emotionally. I can go through major crisis (i.e. ... A: It is often a symptom of having survived early-childhood trauma and developing a protectively ... | ||
| LEGAL HIGHS | 11/5/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I stopped my meds about a week ago - my doctor gave me it for psychosis - but I don't think I have ... A: Every body's bodies are different. You don't know how they are going to react to drugs. Some drugs ... | ||
| A disgusting porn addiction | 11/1/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I am an eighteen year old female with a very twisted problem: a porn addiction. It started when I ... A: Sexual arousal is very susceptible to habit in relation to the source of stimulation. To stop porn ... | ||
| my mother | 10/29/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: My mother passed away three years ago from cancer. She was the only person who truly loved me and ... A: I am sorry to hear about your depress and anxiety, and also how you feel about yourself. You are ... | ||
| Cutting ties with a toxic mother | 10/28/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: Almost 2 years ago I cut ties with my mother after long and deep thought on my part. Growing up our ... A: It is wise to ignore them because they do not know how it feels to be in your position. They do not ... | ||
| Cutting ties with a toxic mother | 10/26/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: Almost 2 years ago I cut ties with my mother after long and deep thought on my part. Growing up our ... A: You have been doing the right thing by cutting ties from a very sick woman who will not get help. ... | ||
Counseling
Answers by Expert:
Joel Simon
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
General questions about counseling, psychotherapy and mental health.
Experience
Over 30 years as a therapist, clinical supervisor and solution-focused trainer. I've worked in a variety of settings including adolescent day treatment, inpatient psychiatric hospitals, community mental health clinics, and hospice. Further information is available on my website: www.0to10.net
Organizations
A founding member of the Solution Focused Brief Therapy Association, Academy of Certified Social Workers, Board Certified Diplomate in Clinical Social Work, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in New York State.
Publications
Co-authored "Solution-Focused Brief Practice With Long-Term Clients in Mental Health Services: I'm More Than My Label." Authored: "Solution-Focused Practice in End-of-Life and Grief Counseling" Several articles published in professional journals including 2 with Insoo Kim Berg. Further details are available at www.0to10.net
Education/Credentials
Masters of Social Work (Yeshiva University 1978). 5 years training in Transactional Analysis, certified in Advanced Ericksonian Psychotherapy and Hypnosis with the New York Society (NYSEPH), Advanced training and advanced supervision seminar in solution-focused brief therapy with the co-developers of the approach, Insoo Kim Berg and Steve de Shazer
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