AboutGraig Yarbrough Expertise I can answer questions regarding who you are and how you relate to others. I can show you how negative thoughts and emotions block the real you from showing through. I can show you how to be comfortable with yourself. I can offer you a way of seeing life that puts you in control. I can help you to see the potential that you are. I can not answer questions about what kind of medication or drugs you might need.
Experience I have been counseling here on AllExperts for over five years. I have over 100 hours in personal counseling. I have experience in both individual and group counseling. I am an advocate of Energy Psychology and a practitioner of (Emotional Freedom Technique) EFT. I am a practitioner of The Release Technique. I thoroughly enjoy helping other people with the knowledge I have to share!
Education/Credentials I have a B.A Degree and many hours of self-study. I have about 120 graduate hours in sociology. I was an Equal Opportunity Advisor for the US Army for three years. I am US Army Retired.
I am a graduate of the US Army Primary Leadership Course, Basic Non-commissioned Officers Course, and Advanced Non-commission course. I am a graduate of the Defense Equal Opportunity Management Institute.
Question QUESTION: Good day,
What are some of the phrases, techniques and ways used to counsel someone. Was wondering about this so that i could apply these techniques to make more friends and them in relationships.
What are the top words, phrases, things to say?
ANSWER: Hi Sam,
Counseling is simply a way for you to help someone look at themselves. Anything you do in that vein is useful.
Helping a person to look at what they are feeling right now is very important. Thoughts are reflected in the body as feelings. So when a person looks at what they are feeling at the moment, they have a mirror into what thoughts are dominating their existence at that moment.
If they are at peace, then they are not troubled by negativity and they are much more perceptible to what is. If they are feeling any negativity, they are coloring their world with that negativity. They see the world through that lens of negativity.
That is a start. There are many other techniques I would be glad to share with you if you choose.
If you should need further information or clarification, you can write me here again or you can write me at graigy@nukpunuk.net.
Remember, well-being is the only stream that flows.
Graig :>)
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QUESTION: Would be glad if you can share some of the other techniques with me.
Thanks
Answer Hi Sam,
Here are a few.
Begin by encouraging the person to talk about themself. If they want to talk about something else, acknowledge that and steer the conversation back on them. That is why they are there anyway, and only they can solve their own problem.
Ask questions. When the person answers, ask a question about that answer. That way you keep the responsibility for the answers on them.
Match gestures with the person. Do it subtly so that they do not notice. If the person rubs their nose, you subtly rub yours. This establishes a rapport with that person on a subconscious level.
Ask them about their feelings. Feelings, especially negative ones, are where the problem lies most of the time anyway. When they can share their feelings, they are actually allowing them to come to the surface and that is where you want them to be. When their feelings are on the surface, they can release easier.
Last, contract with the person. When they do realize something that they have been doing or not doing and you get them to say what will help the situation, get them to contract with you. An example would be, something like this.
“What will you notice about yourself when you have done, x? When will you be able to notice the change? How will you know that you have done x?
This should help you when you are talking to others. Be sure and make it that you are interested in them. You do not want them to think you are interrogating them.
Remember, well-being is the only stream that flows.
