AboutGraig Yarbrough Expertise I can answer questions regarding who you are and how you relate to others. I can show you how negative thoughts and emotions block the real you from showing through. I can show you how to be comfortable with yourself. I can offer you a way of seeing life that puts you in control. I can help you to see the potential that you are. I can not answer questions about what kind of medication or drugs you might need.
Experience I have been counseling here on AllExperts for over five years. I have over 100 hours in personal counseling. I have experience in both individual and group counseling. I am an advocate of Energy Psychology and a practitioner of (Emotional Freedom Technique) EFT. I am a practitioner of The Release Technique. I thoroughly enjoy helping other people with the knowledge I have to share!
Education/Credentials I have a B.A Degree and many hours of self-study. I have about 120 graduate hours in sociology. I was an Equal Opportunity Advisor for the US Army for three years. I am US Army Retired.
I am a graduate of the US Army Primary Leadership Course, Basic Non-commissioned Officers Course, and Advanced Non-commission course. I am a graduate of the Defense Equal Opportunity Management Institute.
Question Good day,
What are some phrases, words etc.. that one can use to get respect from others and let people know that you want to be taken seriously especially if you are one who is picked upon and bullied alot.
Answer Hi H Mahabir,
People can “pickup” on your attitude from your mannerisms and your speech.
If you want to show assertiveness, you can use this phrase when you are talking to someone from whom would like to receive some respect.
“I want ( name what you want). Will you provide me what I want?”
It works like this.
If I want someone to help me with some task. I would say this.
I want you to help me with this report. Will you help me with this report?
This method lets them know that you are being assertive and it involves them in the process. You are asking them if they will help you to get what you want. They must make a decision about what you just ask them. Now they are involved and much less likely to repeat a negative behavior toward you.
You can also use it in this way.
I want you to stop talking that way about me. Will you do that?
Do this and see how effective it is. You will also feel more in control which will translate to the person who is mistreating you. When they see that you are respecting yourself, they will begin to respect you too.
If you should need further information or clarification, you can write me here again or you can write me at graigy@nukpunuk.net.
Remember, well-being is the only stream that flows.
