Expert: Graig Yarbrough - 12/3/2011

Question
hi
how are you?
i am a student.24 years old.
but the most important problem about me is that i havent enought confidence.
what should i do?

Answer
Hi Sara,

Confidence comes when you’ve done it and you know you can do it again.

This applies to everything you do but it starts with the little things.

Here is an example.

I wrote a good paragraph.  I liked it. I know I can do it again.

I combined those paragraphs into a theme.  I liked that too. I can do it again.

I wrote that term paper.   I can do that again.

We all start with perfect ability.  Soon we cloud that wholeness with negativity.  That colors everything we do.

Until we let go of that negativity, we do not see things clearly.

If you are thinking of doing something and you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach, you are holding on to some negativity.  As long as you do that, you are not free to see yourself as accomplishing what you choose.

When you can release that feeling, you will be free of any questioning of your ability. You will see clearly that you have done it before and you can do it again.

Sara, this is important. This goes together with what I said above.

When you want something, you do not have it.  Wanting is not having. You cannot want and have at the same time.
 
Wanting confidence is not having it.   Just let go of the wanting and you will find you have it.

There is a process to this that  I will share with you if you want it.

Graig 