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Hello,

while in college, I was bullied by a crazy roommate who proceeded to violate my privacy by listening to my phone conversations,going over my personal things and reading my personal journal.When I found out that she read my personal journal , I was horrified and quite traumatized as I write extremely private stuff in it.She showed zero remorse or guilt for what she did but looked embarrassed when others found out.

After a few years, while doing some emotional healing I remembered an incident that happened in school. I lost a scholarship that some of my classmates had won.My parents gave me a hard time for that and I felt very insecure. I wanted to know what grades my classmates got but was too shy to ask and instead chose to snoop.

Now am feeling very guilty for what I did. This is the only time I have ever snooped and did so out of insecurity and not with any malicious intent or motive.But am still feeling guilty and feel that am no different when compared to my bully roommate.

How to get over my guilt?

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Hi BB,

Guilt is an emotion that non of us should hold on to.  It means you have to pay for something.

We all make mistakes, some we wished we never would have. You can't go back and change it.  You have to let go. It certainly isn't doing you any good.

It is OK to let go now and forgive yourself.

Endeavor to not repeat the behavior and you will be alright.

If this becomes difficult to release, I have some methods for doing that. Just let me know.

Graig :>D

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Most of the problems you have, are connected to your emotions. Your body follows your mind. What you think or have been thinking, you express in your body. That includes, pain, sickness, and anxiety. If you experience anger, that experience is a bodily feeling event. These feelings motivate behavior. Think of how you behaved the last time you experienced anger. What would that experience be like if there was no anger? These experiences color everything you do. Learn more about this and ways you can release these feeling states for the freedom you desire.

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I have been counseling here on AllExperts for over 15 years. I have over 100 hours in personal counseling. I have experience in both individual and group counseling. I am an advocate of Energy Psychology and a practitioner of FasterEFT. Are you tired of taking about it and are ready to fix it? I thoroughly enjoy helping other people with the knowledge I have to share!

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I have a B.A Degree and many hours of self-study. I have about 120 graduate hours in sociology. I was an Equal Opportunity Adviser for the US Army for three years. I am US Army Retired.
I am a graduate of the US Army Primary Leadership Course, Basic Non-commissioned Officers Course, and Advanced Non-commission course. I am a graduate of the Defense Equal Opportunity Management Institute.

I am a graduate of the Longridge Writer's Group. I am a graduate of Star Power, level 1. I am a student of FasterEFT and the release technique.

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