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hi...i am 20 years first year student.. i can not concentrate in study..whenever I  sit for study so many plans are playing in my mind..i want to be a businessman and want ro lead a luxury life..when i sat to read..then thoughts come to my mind always.. like i am driving a bmw, flying with my private jet, dinner with the celebrities,be so popular, give speech in big programs have most beautiful gf and lots of things..i am truly speaking...before 2-3 years i am not that kind of i dont know why i thought this kind of things..i am so much talkative in my when i go outside i become quiet..i can not find what i should i think at that time i am saying and be the main speaker of them..i expect too much..what can i do now? i am not satisfied with this...i want to concentrate in my study...i want to read..i am so brilliant before 2 now i am not..i am thinking about sex a lot of time..i want to come back..i am so much addicted in seeing porn..what can i do? i want more friends.. i want to have fun and gossiping with them..i feel lonely... plz help..

Hello Rahul - the symptoms you describe suggest that you may have inherited psychological wounds from your early-childhood adults. To learn more about this and reduce your wounds [and increase your concentration and focus], patiently study online "lesson 1" at

Here are several samples:

If you have questions about these, please ask - Pete


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Peter Gerlach, MSW


I can answer questions about mood disorders, depression, suicide, relationships, communication skills, problem solving, clear thinking, bonding disorders, trauma recovery, addiction management, grieving, shame, guilt, fear, reality distortion, and trust disorders; courtship, family functioning, "problem kids," mediation, (re)marriage, divorce, stepfamilies, stepparenting, boundaries, self-neglect, abuse, parental neglect, personality subselves, ("parts work"). I cannot answer legal or medical questions.


I maintained a private therapy practice near Chicago for 27 years, and have worked with over 1,000 men, women, couples, and families on a wide range of personal and family problems. I have been in personal recovery from growing up in an alcoholic family since 1986, and have worked with five therapists to heal my own psychological wounds. I maintained a "warm (phone) line" for callers on the topics above for 20 years, and have taught over 200 seminars and classes in midwestern universities, churches, support groups, and schools since 1981. I have practiced internal-family therapy ("parts work") with trauma-recoverers since 1991.

National Stepfamily Resource Center (NSRC) Experts Council; Compassion and Choices, and Final Exit Network

# Several hundred articles in my non-profit "Break the Cycle!" Web site at These articles are augmented by over 150 educational YouTube videos .

# six books on childhood-trauma recovery, effective communication, and stepfamily courtship, coparenting, and management.

A bachelors degree in mechanical engineering (BSME, 1959) from Stanford University, a Masters degree in clinical Social Work, (MSW, 1981), and over 500 hours of post-grad training in the topics above - including clinical hypnosis, spirituality, codependence, addicrtion-management, and guided imagery. My post-grad traning includes two 9-month internships on doing internal-family therapy at the University of Illinois.

Awards and Honors
Hundreds of grateful emails and comments from students and clients all over the world.

Past/Present Clients
Over 1,000 average Midwestern-US women, men, couples, and families. A physical disability limits me to doing telephone and Skype counseling now.

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