Question When I was 8 years old, I was involved in a sexual game with a younger cousin who was just over 2 years old. We are both females. The game involved touching genitals and that was it, it only happened a couple of times as far as I can remember. I'm now 18 years old and completely guilt ridden over this. I knew of nothing sexual when this happened and I can't believe I let it happen. I don't remember how it even started but I know it was never forced or anything like that and I don't remember telling my cousin to keep it a secret. My cousin and I still remained close after this and we still are pretty close now at the ages or 18 and 13. My cousin seems perfect fine and happy and never had any issues or problems. But I just can't get over this, I feel so guilty, I can't eat or think about anything else. I don't think my cousin remembers that this happened but I'm terrified that I could of ruined her life. I just don't know what to do. I feel like committing suicide. I know that 5 years is a big age difference, but it didn't have anything to do with her being younger, I didn't use that to an advantage or anything.. It just happened. Do you think I molested/abused her? I really hope I haven't and I hope I haven't ruined her life.
Answer No you did not abuse or molest her. You were only 8 years old and sexually curious. What would you say to another person in your situation? The shame and guilt are normal emotions because they are intended to create normal sexual boundaries. Let it go, and understand it as a normal and common childhood experience.
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