AboutPam Dyson, MA, PLPC Expertise I specialize in working with children and families. I can address issues and problematic behaviors related to anxiety, depression, grief, abandonment, divorce, blended families, abuse, ADHD, peer difficulties, bullying, aggression and low self-esteem.
Experience I am a provisional licensed professional counselor with extensive training in play therapy.
Organizations American Mental Health Counselors Association, Board Eligible National Certified Counselor, Association for Play Therapy, Chi Sigma Iota,(Counseling Academic & Professional Honor Society International).
Education/Credentials BS in Family and Child Development, MA in Professional Counseling, Provisional Licensed Professional Counselor (PLPC)
About 6 years ago when my wife and I were still dating, we got pregnant and it was not planned. My wife took a test and when she told me, I was really happy. Unfortunately, we were still in school and she felt it was not the right time to have a child and we had the abortion. I tried to say something, but I thought it was her decision to make. A couple of years ago we had another child and went through the pregnancy. one night I tried to bring up the topic to see if she ever thought about it but she didn't want to talk about it. The problem is that I can't stop thinking about what could have been. Every day for the past 6 years I thought about it at least once and even more so now that we're pregnant again. I don't have anyone I feel I can talk to. I think I made a huge mistake not saying anything when my wife got the abortion. I think about it so much I feel like I'm going crazy and I just go and do some errands to keep my mind off it. I just keep thinking that I should have 2 kids not 1 and what would it be like. I can't imagine life without my daughter now, so what I am missing with what could have been keeps bothering me. I want to stop thinking about that. What do I need to do?
Answer Hi Raul,
What you're feeling is a very common reaction of men after an abortion. I'm going to recommend you spend some time on these web sites that offer help to men in your situation.
