| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Family Stress | 9/26/2008 |
Q: I am a happily married woman, hoping to have children in the very near future. I have not worked for ...
A: I think sometimes you just have to be firm with those you love. You have a life too and they must ...
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| nurse who made a cruel remark | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I had a nurse make a cruel remark to me insinuating that I didn't care if my husband had cancer ...
A: Most of us grow up thinking that certain things are not suppose to happen. When they do, we get very ...
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| All alone and I don't know why | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I will try to keep this as short as possible, but it may be difficult. I don't even know what I hope ...
A: You have a couple of dynamics working in your life right now. Being threatened by someone is the ...
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| How do I get rid of this habit? | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I am 26 yr. old housewife, who is very much into watching porn. Previously, it was only for the sake ...
A: You’ve created a very simple trap for yourself and you are not aware of it. First, a bit of ...
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| My controlling mother | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I grew up with a very controlling mother paranoid mother. Growing up I was never allowed to do ...
A: You want to practice this system. You will find it does work. Here is some more information. If ...
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| My controlling mother | 8/24/2008 |
Q: I grew up with a very controlling mother paranoid mother. Growing up I was never allowed to do ...
A: It is a bit hard to think of draining the swamp when you are up to your neck in alligators. However, ...
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| My controlling mother | 8/17/2008 |
Q: I grew up with a very controlling mother paranoid mother. Growing up I was never allowed to do ...
A: Wow, your mother has a lot of problems. To go into that here, we would probably not have enough ...
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| stuff.... | 8/9/2008 |
Q: i think my main problem is that I'm a really positive person, I've always been. I always try and see ...
A: I mentioned that you are feeling this fear. What you are really saying is that you want to happen ...
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| Questions | 8/9/2008 |
Q: I had asked what type of information you would need about myself in order to answer the questions ...
A: Oh, ok, I understand now. You need only share what you are comfortable with. Most of the time, ...
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| Depressed | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am not sure where to begin, other than the fact that I am feeling very down. It could be a number ...
A: Depression is not a something. It is behavior we do. We depress. Most of the time we depress to ...
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| Naked mama | 8/5/2008 |
Q: My mother walks around the house naked constantly. I have asked her to please not do it where i can ...
A: This is her house. She has the right to walk around naked is she chooses. It is a bit insensitive ...
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| School counseling | 8/4/2008 |
Q: could you please explain in academic terms how school counseling differs from clinical counseling? ...
A: I am by no means an expert in this field. I’ll share what I understand. Counseling is really ...
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| stuff.... | 8/2/2008 |
Q: i think my main problem is that I'm a really positive person, I've always been. I always try and see ...
A: Yes I do understand. Now listen to me carefully. Fear is just a feeling. It is a special kind of ...
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| Father Making Comments About My Weight | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My problem lies with my father making regular, hurtful comments about my weight. Here's the ...
A: From what you wrote to me, it appears that you are very self accepting. You know what you want and ...
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| Mental Health | 7/21/2008 |
Q: "How does a managed care approach in mental health care? How does a managed care model of mental ...
A: I am by no means an expert in this field. I would think that with managed care, you are spreading ...
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| Run Away maids life style in Saudi Arabia | 7/10/2008 |
Q: Run Away maids life style in Saudi Arabia Many women from under developing and third world ...
A: From what you have written me, it seems that these women have created a sub-culture that is helping ...
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| Please, answer! | 7/8/2008 |
Q: I apologise for any mistakes in my message as I'm not an English native speaker. I'm from Russia, ...
A: Reading what you wrote reminded me of why this country was founded in the first place; freedom. ...
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| hello | 6/20/2008 |
Q: okay i graduated from high school a year ago, and the last 2 years of high school my friends and i ...
A: I’ll begin here. Feelings are the body’s reaction to thoughts. It usually takes many thoughts of a ...
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| Childhood..... | 6/10/2008 |
Q: this question is more related to sports psychology, but i hope u can solve my problem anyway. I ...
A: I meant that sometimes when we are growing up, we are told or we pick up from some significant ...
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| Childhood..... | 6/9/2008 |
Q: this question is more related to sports psychology, but i hope u can solve my problem anyway. I ...
A: When you were picked on, as a child, you developed some feelings. Instead of experiencing those ...
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| ref | 6/8/2008 |
Q: Good day, What are some phrases, words etc.. that one can use to get respect from others and let ...
A: People can “pickup” on your attitude from your mannerisms and your speech. If you want to show ...
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| for a novel I am in the middle of writing | 5/29/2008 |
Q: I have asked questions at AllExperts.com but never come into the "couseling" category before now. ...
A: I do not know the answer to that question. You would have to check with the State of California to ...
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| Follow up question | 5/16/2008 |
Q: I have been using your Release technique, along with EFT to help with my expression of ...
A: Depression is not something we have. It is something we do. We depress. We depress to avoid ...
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| emotions | 5/3/2008 |
Q: I am a 37 Y/O male.I have been in 3 or 4 relationships where I got along with the person just fine, ...
A: First, you must accept full responsibility for these feelings. You created them and placed them in ...
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| emotions | 5/2/2008 |
Q: I am a 37 Y/O male.I have been in 3 or 4 relationships where I got along with the person just fine, ...
A: We are all capable of deep feelings of love and affection. At that core in us, free from all the ...
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| ref | 4/29/2008 |
Q: Good day, What are some of the phrases, techniques and ways used to counsel someone. Was wondering ...
A: Here are a few. Begin by encouraging the person to talk about themself. If they want to talk about ...
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| ref | 4/25/2008 |
Q: Good day, What are some of the phrases, techniques and ways used to counsel someone. Was wondering ...
A: Counseling is simply a way for you to help someone look at themselves. Anything you do in that ...
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| Not Sure | 4/23/2008 |
Q: I was diagnosed with OCD nearly 2 years ago, I was seeing a psychiatric nurse and she said t would ...
A: You have a core characterized by peace, courage, and acceptance. Like all of us, you have layered ...
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| I don't know....i think thats the problem | 4/23/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure what's wrong. I've been diagnosed with depression, but I think I just feel like I'm ...
A: Depression is not something you have. It is something you do. You depress. You do this to avoid ...
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| Back after a breakup that his family caused.. | 4/16/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have together for 3 years.. Last September we decided to move in together, get ...
A: Many parents have the problem you described. They do not know how to let go. They are afraid if they ...
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| help!! | 3/30/2008 |
Q: Everytime a guy likes me i freak out and get bad anxiety. I think i have to marry them or something ...
A: What you are experiencing is common to most of us. I will explain what it is and then give you a ...
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| Role and management of emotions | 3/18/2008 |
Q: Im having trouble finding rescourses, so i was wondering if you could help me out at all, with what ...
A: I'm going to recommend a couple of books to you. The first is Eckhart Tolle's new book, A New ...
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| Big Changes? | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I'm 22, I've been living with my boyfriend and his daughter for 2 years. I moved from family, ...
A: From what I can tell, it doesn’t look like you have much of a commitment. Of course, you have been ...
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| Feeling Nothing | 2/16/2008 |
Q: I have recently started counseling (eight one hour sessions) with the NHS. It has occurred to me, ...
A: You have a very intriguing situation here. Let’s start with this. The fact that you want more ...
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| Childless agony | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I can't get over not being able to have children. Seeing a commercial with a baby in it can still ...
A: I can tell from your note to me that this is very important to you. While I obviously can’t change ...
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| Back to thereapy | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I have a really hard time opening up to people and discussing things I want/should discuss. This is ...
A: The truth is that each of us creates our own world. The place where that happens is in the ...
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| me? | 12/29/2007 |
Q: i red one of your previous answers to a girl called sarah who thought she had no direction in life. ...
A: You sound frustrated and confused. I sense that life had gone wrong and you do not know why. It ...
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| REhashing | 12/10/2007 |
Q: Can you suggest a technique to help me stop mentally rehashing something? On Jan 4 2007 I suffered ...
A: I believe that most of us, at least once in our lives, experience that feeling of hopelessness. I ...
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| guilt | 11/17/2007 |
Q: Graig, I hope this is not a silly question. I am a musician/songwriter. About 10 years ago I was ...
A: There is no silly questions. You are only requesting information. You probably have strong ...
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| english | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I am a man who wants to help others. Here in Peru I am volunteering as an English teacher for adults ...
A: From what I can gather of your note to me, you choose to teach English to some students for a ...
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| i feel bad and need someone to talk to... | 10/12/2007 |
Q: i am constantly feeling bad because this is my situation. i am 27, i live with my mom, my father has ...
A: I have some good news for you. You have to be willing to accept it. You have to be willing to be ...
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| ayuda | 10/8/2007 |
Q: I was hired by a pharmaceutical plant just for this year, 2007, but I expected to get a long term ...
A: I can tell you know what you want. …And you know what you want. However, you are focusing on what ...
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| mind and heart | 9/27/2007 |
Q: Just a quickHow can we move people when they have a question addressing the mind, to thinking about ...
A: The mind is a polarizing system. It wants to divide everything into its opposites; anger --- not ...
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| hello | 9/26/2007 |
Q: okay, im 18 and a freshman in college. i live at home to save money which is good but yet i feel ...
A: You are in a trap with your emotions. Because of that, you can not see things clearly. I sense ...
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| swallowing | 8/30/2007 |
Q: When I was in grade 12, we always went to church on sunday. It was half an hour trip and I would ...
A: You are stuck in a trap you created by your reaction to your sister’s taunting. It really has ...
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| I don`t understand his behaviour? | 8/23/2007 |
Q: My question is kinda long and complicated. I lived with my B/F for 2 years, he has 2 teens from his ...
A: If I understand you correctly, you want to better understand your behavior in this circumstance. ...
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| how can i increase my concentration | 8/9/2007 |
Q: concentration is my major problem through out my life.I am graduate but want to take farther higher ...
A: We are created as perfect creatures with absolute ability. Over the course of our lives we add ...
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| Meeting biological dad | 8/3/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend who is 22 is considering meeting his real dad for the first time. He left him when he ...
A: In truth we are all connected in a very fundamental way. Sometimes we push others away and form an ...
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| What do we tell our children? | 7/20/2007 |
Q: My Fiance has two children, ages seven and four and a half. Their mother slit her wrists recently ...
A: Children are very sensitive. In my opinion you should not subject them to too much information ...
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| anxiety | 7/11/2007 |
Q: okay im 18 and will be going to college this fall. anyway thats not really the point. i just feel ...
A: What you are feeling is an energy blockage in your body somewhere created by a negative thought. ...
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| bulimic girlfriend | 6/10/2007 |
Q: my girlfriend wrote to you a while ago about our relationship and her bulimia, you may not remember ...
A: I can tell that you really care for her and want the best for her. First, here are some basics. We ...
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| Was it long distance or her age or neither? | 6/7/2007 |
Q: Three and a half years ago, I started dating someone and we instantly became best friends and ...
A: First, thank you for me so forthright with me. Relationships, like most things in this universe, ...
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| at my wits end | 5/24/2007 |
Q: I know your not a MD, but I need to give you just a bit of my health background first. In 2001 I had ...
A: H Lisa, Just from reading your note to me, I can tell that you are driving yourself too hard. It ...
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| hurting and correlations | 5/23/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend (23) was compared disfavorably to other women and cheated on by a series of boyfriends ...
A: First, if she is going to get better, she will have to do the work herself. I know you care for ...
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| lack of confidence | 5/21/2007 |
Q: I underwent a counseling session some time back to over come my lack of confidence. One of the ...
A: Your negative self-talk is coming from your subconscious. You put that negativity there when you ...
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| need help desperate | 5/18/2007 |
Q: My 27 year old son has a severe, untreatable congenital heart condition that not only will shorten ...
A: As I was reading your note to me, I thought about what this boy had endured and about his attitude ...
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| boyfriend | 4/21/2007 |
Q: The problem is i have been suffering from bulimia for the past four years, i have kept this a secret ...
A: Of course you can’t make him forget that he knows because he cares for you and wants the best for ...
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| help! | 4/3/2007 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for a little over 7 years. ABout 5 years ago, he seemed to have an ...
A: The reality is that each of us creates our own lives by our choices and our intentions. The ...
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| Whats wrong with me? | 3/21/2007 |
Q: I am 5''10 and my weight is 55kg. My reason in writing to you is because I need some help now before ...
A: We will start with the basics. Life is a mirror or our inner condition. What we see on the outside ...
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| Questions | 3/14/2007 |
Q: I have a couple of parts to my question. First, could you please define the difference, if any, ...
A: Psychiatry is really medicine in psychology. Psychiatrists are medical doctors and can dispense ...
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| adult sibling issues | 3/7/2007 |
Q: I am the oldest (37) of 3 children; my sister is 36 and my brother is 32. My parents are both ...
A: I’ve going to say something to you that may sound very strange. You seem to me to be a very ...
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| relationship | 2/19/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if you can help me to learn more about relationship addiction, sex addiction and ...
A: Sex is an expression of love. As love grows between two people, they naturally want to express it ...
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| Spilled Milk | 2/1/2007 |
Q: Why do I get so upset when I spill a glass of liquid? It happened this morning. I had gotten ...
A: I’m wondering. Can you be the kind of person that makes mistakes? One of my favorite definitions ...
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| How can I help myself | 1/28/2007 |
Q: Now I know I was so wrong. Your words really helped me understand a bit more about what is going on ...
A: I’m glad that you have decided to help yourself. I would not ever charge you for what I have to ...
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| Relationships | 1/27/2007 |
Q: I would like to learn how to stop thinking about the negative things that "may" come from a ...
A: As I read your explanation to me, I sensed you have this ability to look into life and see how the ...
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| How can I help myself | 1/24/2007 |
Q: I'm in emotional turmoil and don't know how to get help. I have been a relationship for 8 years and ...
A: First of all, you are not a failure. Good relationships are hard to establish and sometimes we ...
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| advice | 1/22/2007 |
Q: I am 30 years old single male from Detroit, MI. I live with my 2 siblings and our mother. I make ...
A: You would have to check the housing market for your area and find out the average cost of renting in ...
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| question | 1/4/2007 |
Q: I understand my question does not have one answer and so am really looking for your imput. This has ...
A: I can tell that you really care for your friend. As you mentioned we are all adults and make our ...
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| I need Direction | 1/4/2007 |
Q: I've recently graduated college and am now working for my dad until a job I like comes along. The ...
A: I think you have reached a point in your life where you at the beginning of a new plateau. You ...
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| Seemingly stupid arguements | 1/2/2007 |
Q: I am a translator who lives in Japan with my wife and daughter and we have recently returned from ...
A: What you are experiencing is something that women get into from time to time. It is really more ...
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| Adult relationships | 12/16/2006 |
Q: I am 25 yrs old guy and am having trouble figuring out how to relate with people. What i have ...
A: You may have some unrealistic expectation about how others behave. If you expect too much or some ...
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| Motivation | 12/11/2006 |
Q: I need a hand keeping motivation string for my advanced certification exam. After doing it for many ...
A: I have always found it very difficult to just sit and study something that I am not that interested ...
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| Finding a partner | 12/9/2006 |
Q: I am 25 yrs old guy and have been having difficulty finding the girl i want in life. Everytime i ...
A: I can tell by your post to me that your problem is with fear. It is a very powerful motivator and ...
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| Stress | 12/2/2006 |
Q: Here's the situation: I have recently been suffering from stress (currently off work). Symptoms: ...
A: First a bit of info. Stress it not what is happening to you. It is your reaction to what is ...
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| Asking forgiveness | 11/30/2006 |
Q: I’m a journalist writing an article, “The Right Words Do Matter,” for an online preview magazine, ...
A: What a fascinating subject! I would say the best words to use are “I was wrong about that.” It ...
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| Depressed Dad | 10/10/2006 |
Q: I hope you might be able to give me some advice. I am a healthy male aged 33. I am happily married ...
A: I am going to share something with you that may blow your mind. Then again it might not. You may ...
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| personality disorders | 10/2/2006 |
Q: What are the chances of someone 'healing' from Histrionic Personality Disorder? Her daughter (3 ...
A: What you have described to me is just a lot of compensatory behavior. She does not know how to act ...
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| how do i know w | 10/2/2006 |
Q: how do i give a clue to my boyriend that i wanna hold his hand? he's a shy guy and a bit slow..
A: Azianah, The best way to handle this is to just gently take his hand. Depending on your culture, ...
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| Two Questions. | 9/29/2006 |
Q: I believe there is a solution to every problem. Hopefully you can help me find the solutions. ...
A: I agree with you. Problems are not really what we think they are. Actually they are just situations ...
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| preventing abuse | 9/22/2006 |
Q: I have recently heard of women who have abandoned their children for ongoing periods of time. One ...
A: I do not know of any writings you described although I am sure there are some. You could search the ...
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| I pick men who will never love me back | 9/5/2006 |
Q: I think I have a fear of abandonment coupled with a fear of commitment. I am terrified of being ...
A: I sense this pain and confusion that you feel over what is going on in your life. I can help if you ...
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| re: confusions | 8/21/2006 |
Q: I left my ex-boyfriend in NJ and moved here to florida. Reasons because a lot of drama was going on ...
A: This may seem a bit strange to you but you are the most important person in any relationship. That ...
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| Expressing Interest in a Person When They Have | 8/21/2006 |
Q: There's a guy I met a while back while playing music. I'm a singer and songwriter. He approached ...
A: Remember, you are the most important person in any relationship. That is because you can’t give what ...
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| thanks ahead of time | 8/20/2006 |
Q: how are you? i am good however i need your help figuring something out. i have cerebral palsy and ...
A: The first step you take when dealing with your own self-esteem is to fully understand that you ...
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| Overcoming Porn and a Fetish We Don't Share | 8/20/2006 |
Q: Several weeks ago, I hit the "history" button on the computer my boyfriend and I share, looking for ...
A: In a marriage, men and women have certain needs. There are different for men and women. Often times ...
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| reality therapy | 8/19/2006 |
Q: how does reality therapy helpful to clients?
A: William Glasser, the originator of Reality Therapy, understood that you can only control the ...
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| fear of success rememdy | 8/8/2006 |
Q: I have been diagnosed bipolar for about ten years. I am doing well except for one problem. i am ...
A: Lets approach this problem in this way. Your mind thinks only in positives. When you say to ...
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| Should I stay in this relationship? | 7/29/2006 |
Q: I am a recently divorced mother of 3 kids. The youngest is my 8-yr-old autistic son. He has ...
A: I am going to approach your problem in a different way than you may expect. I do not discount ...
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| marriage | 6/18/2006 |
Q: my name is Stephanie, I'm 35 yr old, married now for 16 years. My husband & do not have kids. The ...
A: Marriage is a relationship between two people. Those two people are totally autonomous. Each is a ...
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| resistance every little step | 6/15/2006 |
Q: Sometimes, beyond trying to help the other person, the mistake they may make can become a costly ...
A: As I mentioned in my first note to you, you cannot change others no matter how much you want. That ...
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| Relationship Issues! | 5/27/2006 |
Q: Whether in personal life or at work, i find it hard to maintain relationships. The problem is i ...
A: Life really does work. At your core, you are perfectly capable of deciding and having, being, and ...
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| Relationship with father | 4/25/2006 |
Q: My father and I used to have a very close relationship. One day he just didn't want anything to do ...
A: It is impossible to get inside your father's head if he does not want to divulge himself. Certainly ...
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| releive uneasiness | 2/22/2006 |
Q: i am of age 21 i like a person i don't know whether he likes me or not we stay in diffrent cities ...
A: In reading your note to me, I could tell there is much unrest in your life. This is what you can ...
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| Family Realtions need help | 10/18/2005 |
Q: I guess I'm trying to figure out how to start coping with my family. Let me explain my situation. ...
A: You seem to be having a great deal of trouble relating to those around you; namely your family. I ...
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| help | 9/29/2005 |
Q: I am a man (42) living Venezuela and suffering the crisis of a country who goes to a ...
A: What I would like for you to do to begin with is to put aside for a moment the labels you have told ...
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| hi | 8/4/2005 |
Q: i feel like he likes me very much but i also feel that im distant. he used to call me all the time ...
A: There is nothing like being up front and straight with a person you are in relationship with even if ...
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| hello dear
It's been a long... | 6/24/2005 |
Q: It's been a long time that I have had a problem trying to solve but I have not been able to omit it ...
A: I apologize deeply for not getting to this sooner. I just did not know how to answer you. I want ...
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| Depressed and may be divorced | 6/24/2005 |
Q: I am a former cocaine addict who has recovered and been sober for 2 years. I was admitted into an ...
A: I have been thinking about your letter to me for a couple of days. First, I really care about you. ...
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| help. | 6/7/2005 |
Q: I am 45 years old and am truly suffering. I've been married since 1985 to my college sweetheart and ...
A: I do not believe in coincidences. You have been looking for some answers and I have been here ...
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| direction | 5/25/2005 |
Q: i'm looking for some kind of direction. i don't know if you can help me but i'm “at witt's end” and ...
A: First, I want to thank you for placing a small part of your life here in my hands. I anticipate ...
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| I appear to have abnormally low social skills | 3/17/2005 |
Q: Obviously I wouldn't be writing this if I didn't have some problems I'd like help solving; ...
A: Please forgive me for not getting back with you sooner. I wasn't quite ready to answer you: now I ...
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| thinking about divorce | 11/29/2004 |
Q: I am a 31-year-old woman. I have been married almost 8 years, although I have been living with my ...
A: I apologize for taking so long. I wanted to give you an intelligent and useful answer. It appears ...
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| abuse | 9/23/2004 |
Q: Whats the very best way to deal with an abusive co-worker or bullies in general? Im a nice guy but I ...
A: Very good observations. Actually a “bully” is someone who is very afraid and is ...
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| abuse | 9/18/2004 |
Q: Whats the very best way to deal with an abusive co-worker or bullies in general? Im a nice guy but I ...
A: First, thanks for the opportunity to share what I know about these things. I will start off with ...
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| in-law problem | 8/23/2004 |
Q: First, thank you so much for answering my concern with such powerful insight. I needed to hear ...
A: I am so pleased to hear that this is helping you. I love helping people especially when it is ...
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| Sister-in-law causes family problems | 3/23/2004 |
Q: My sister-in-law (her husband and my husband are brothers) is driving our family crazy! They have ...
A: First, you don't ever have to apologize for needing to vent. I completely understand. I am going to ...
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| Doubt | 3/11/2004 |
Q: than your for your time. My question is this, i'm 25, very healthy, my gf and i are together for ...
A: First, thank you for the opportunity to help you with this problem. Also, please forgive me for not ...
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