| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Family Stress | 9/26/2008 |
Q: I am a happily married woman, hoping to have children in the very near future. I have not worked for ...
A: No one can make you feel guilty without your permission. You already spend time with your ...
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| Depressed Mother | 9/25/2008 |
Q: I am writing to you regarding my mother. I am a 25 year old female, only child. My mother and father ...
A: I think it would be very helpful for you to see a counselor. You are harboring a lot of anger toward ...
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| I need help | 9/22/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 12 years old her biological father died when she was a year and a half and my current ...
A: Your daughter is nearly a teenager and what you described is very typical of preteens. It's also not ...
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| how to cope with meeting a half sibling | 9/12/2008 |
Q: Three days ago my father received a visitor at his house and she claimed she was his daughter. Her ...
A: You have been dealt a big shock and the strong feelings that you have are normal. This potential ...
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| Sibling relations | 9/11/2008 |
Q: I am 33 and my sister is 35. We come from a divorced family. I was 10 and she was 12 when our mom ...
A: I'm not sure what your question is so I am going to give you some general information. It could be ...
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| giving the counsellor names? | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I phoned a counselor sometime back to ask if I might make an appointment to come in for counseling. ...
A: When someone contacts a counselor via phone it's not unusual for the counselor to ask for some ...
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| Bedtime Power Struggles | 8/18/2008 |
Q: My eight year old daughter has had a major problem going to bed for the past several years. It ...
A: The first thing I would do is take her to her pediatrician for a complete physical. It's always best ...
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| Overly controllung mother | 8/17/2008 |
Q: I grew up with a very controlling mother paranoid mother. Growing up I was never allowed to do ...
A: You certainly had an unhappy childhood and it is effecting you now as a 24 year old adult. Why your ...
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| Teen age girl and my boyfriend | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I have a 13 yr. old girl and a 3 yr.old girl. Two different dads. I am still with the 3 yr. old's ...
A: It sounds like your life has been an emotional roller coaster the past few years. No wonder you are ...
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| manipulating adult child | 8/12/2008 |
Q: I have a 21 year old child that is extremely manipulative. He's very persuasive and has hurt my ...
A: You're doing the right thing. Your son is an adult and he needs to be responsible for himself. It's ...
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| Depressed | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am not sure where to begin, other than the fact that I am feeling very down. It could be a number ...
A: No wonder you are feeling depressed. You sound very confused. My first question to you is does your ...
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| husband wife relationship | 8/1/2008 |
Q: my husband and I have been mariage for about 1 yr and a half now. We meet at work and soon fell in ...
A: It's not uncommon for couples in your situation to unintentionally put their marriage and the time ...
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| hello | 7/31/2008 |
Q: i m Haitham from syria i woul like to ask u about the influence of the divorce proplems to the ...
A: Divorce is never easy for children. They're a part of both parents and when their parents no longer ...
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| Family in law | 7/24/2008 |
Q: I have been married to the most wonderful man on earth for just over a year and we are expecting our ...
A: It helps me get a better picture of your situation. First of all, I'm glad that in the past you and ...
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| aggression | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I am a first time foster parent of a three year old little girl. I also have two children of my own ...
A: First of all, I applaud you for taking a foster child into your home. That's a big commitment ...
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| 18yr Old Son | 7/17/2008 |
Q: Where do I start? My son is 18yrs old and recently graduated from High School. He has a history of ...
A: It sounds like you and your wife have tried everything to help your son. In response to your ...
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| still experiencing culture shock | 7/8/2008 |
Q: I apologise for any mistakes in my message as I'm not an English native speaker. I'm from Russia, ...
A: Stress and anxiety can certainly be the cause of dermatitis but there is no research that I am aware ...
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| finding therapist/psychologist/etc. | 7/2/2008 |
Q: How do you find the right therapist or psychologist who would be the most helpful? I know you can ...
A: This is an excellent question. Word of mouth is usually the best way to find a therapist. I suggest ...
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| Emotional turmoil | 7/2/2008 |
Q: i am currently in my final month of pregnancy,i hv been havin problems with my boyfriend whom i was ...
A: First of all, try and take care of yourself physically for the sake of your baby. Once he/she is ...
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| Change | 6/25/2008 |
Q: I am a child of divorced parents I was given custody to my mother who neglects me emotionally. As a ...
A: Being a child caught in the middle of a divorce can be very frustrating. How old are you? It's ...
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| Therapy | 6/21/2008 |
Q: I am 17 years old and I will turn 18 in September. Once I turn 18, I plan to look for a therapist. ...
A: Quite often therapists work with both adolescents and adults so that may be what would work the best ...
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| bad short term memory | 6/6/2008 |
Q: is there anything i can do to get better with short term memory? i can remember VERY well things ...
A: Memory loss occurs naturally as we age but since you didn't say how old you are I can't say whether ...
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| adulty sibling jealousy | 6/3/2008 |
Q: I really don’t know where to begin. I have 3 grown children, 37, 35, 30. I am experiencing middle ...
A: Your relationships with your children sounds very frustrating. I can see why you are at your wits ...
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| Thinking of divorce | 5/30/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 11 years. We got married after a whirlwind romance....we went on our first ...
A: Deciding whether or not to end a marriage is never an easy decision. Have you and your husband tried ...
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| hi | 5/29/2008 |
Q: I know a 30 you. girl who converted to Judaism , she told me her father lived in the same home with ...
A: It appears to me that you want a close relationship with someone who is not currently able to offer ...
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| secret | 5/15/2008 |
Q: I have never told her that the father who brought her up is not her biological dad. Her bio dad ...
A: Paula, Your last statement says a lot: Telling her seems sometimes more like confession than ...
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| secret | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I have never told her that the father who brought her up is not her biological dad. Her bio dad ...
A: I am wondering why you now feel, after forty years, that your daughter needs to know the truth about ...
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| grieving fiance | 5/11/2008 |
Q: My fiance experienced finding his mother (shot in the head) dead, by her estranged husband(he also ...
A: Christy, Your fiance is fortunate that you are concerned about him. Grieving the loss of a parent, ...
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| Establishing a Relationship with son | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I currently have a son that is seven years old. He lives in Michigan with his mother and I live in ...
A: Since his mother has already explained to your son that you are his biological father, I suggest ...
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| the age of noticing boys! | 4/27/2008 |
Q: I moved 300 miles away and bought a new home that I am renovating. My daughter (now 15) stayed ...
A: Parenting a teenager is never easy and I applaud you for wanting some help. I think it was ...
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| Legal Guardianship | 4/27/2008 |
Q: My husband & I just became legal guardians of our 2 nephews ages 14 & 16. Their mother passed away ...
A: Stacey, You're doing the right thing by not saying anything negative to the boys about their ...
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| Legal Guardianship | 4/26/2008 |
Q: My husband & I just became legal guardians of our 2 nephews ages 14 & 16. Their mother passed away ...
A: You and your husband are legal guardians of your nephews and are under no legal obligations to give ...
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| too much counseling | 4/23/2008 |
Q: Can counseling ever be a bad thing, or is there an age in which it is just not appropriate? I have ...
A: Kevin, In the life of a child anything can be tragic. Many children I work with see me because they ...
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| too much counseling | 4/23/2008 |
Q: Can counseling ever be a bad thing, or is there an age in which it is just not appropriate? I have ...
A: Children as young as three can benefit from counseling but traditional talk therapy is not ...
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| When is the right time to tell my daughter that her daddy is not her biological father? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: When is the right time to tell my daughter that her daddy is not her biological father? My daughter ...
A: The longer you put off telling her the truth the more difficult it will be for her to process all of ...
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| my grandkids | 4/16/2008 |
Q: my daughter was killed and left her 4 kids which i am trying to care for but my 7 year old ...
A: My condolences to you on the loss of your daughter. It can be very challenging to parent your ...
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| Rehabilitation counseling | 3/13/2008 |
Q: I have recently becomed a certified rehabilitation counselor in NYC and wanted to know if one can ...
A: I do not practice in New York, so I am not familiar with your states regulations, and job ...
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| father being released from prison | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I will try to make this short as possible. I have a child with a man who went to federal prison. He ...
A: Rachael, Thanks for filling in the missing pieces. No wonder your son is anxious; there are many ...
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| father being released from prison | 3/11/2008 |
Q: I will try to make this short as possible. I have a child with a man who went to federal prison. He ...
A: I can sense the concern in your words. This is not an easy situation and I applaud you for wanting ...
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| anxiety issue | 3/9/2008 |
Q: Pam, Can you give me your opinion on this problem? I have severe PTSD and for the past 5 years have ...
A: Are you in therapy or on medication for your PTSD? There is help available so you don't have to face ...
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| can you help. | 3/7/2008 |
Q: I know I'm young and I have a whole life ahead of me, in fact I'm really excited that my birthday is ...
A: I'm glad to hear you're in counseling and getting the help you need to deal with your urges to cut ...
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| When is it time to get out? | 2/26/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years and before that we were co-workers for 3 years. ...
A: I can feel the frustration in your words. When you say there is no intimacy between you, do you mean ...
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| please help..i am obsessed | 2/20/2008 |
Q: I am 17 years old and a senior in hs. in grade 8 I started to develope this thinking that everyone ...
A: It must be very frustrating when people tell you that you are imagining things when what you are ...
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| telling my daughter about her biological father | 2/18/2008 |
Q: My question is about my 8 year old daughter. Her biological father signed his rights away when she ...
A: I agree that you shouldn't hide information from your daughter about her biological father. I can ...
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| Back to Therapy | 2/9/2008 |
Q: I have a really hard time opening up to people and discussing things I want/should discuss. This is ...
A: You've already decided that you want to start seeing the therapist again. The fact that it's been ...
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| 17 year old daughter | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I have too many to ask? In short, our daughter has ran away 3 times, miscarried a baby, got ...
A: How old is the boyfriend? Have you considered filing assault charges against him? As her parents ...
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| Interaction Advice Needed | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I'm a 30 year old male dating a 23 year old female for 10 months fantastic months. The relationship ...
A: Stan, I suggest you ask her if breaking up would be helpful. I'm glad to hear that you listen to ...
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| Interaction Advice Needed | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I'm a 30 year old male dating a 23 year old female for 10 months fantastic months. The relationship ...
A: No need to apologize. Your girlfriend is wanting to come to terms with her past decisions and make ...
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| Should I tell my six year old of fathers abuse? | 1/13/2008 |
Q: I have a question in regards to my six year old daughter, she has asked why her father and I are not ...
A: Your daughter is exposed to a non-violent relationship between you and your fiancee, so she is ...
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| Counseling Statistics/Demographics/Demand | 1/9/2008 |
Q: I have been thinking of working towards a Masters Degree in Counseling or Counseling Psychology. The ...
A: I applaud you for looking at the potential of a career in professional counseling. I find it to be ...
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| anger,violence and rage among youths | 12/22/2007 |
Q: how do you control anger and violence,does divorce affect the peformance of students,if so,which ...
A: You have asked many questions. Without you giving me more information it's difficult for me to ...
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| Adult Child | 12/13/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have an adult son, 27 years of age who has now lost his wife, his home and his job. ...
A: I can sense the hurt and frustration in your words. It's difficult for a parent to watch a child who ...
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| Abortion | 12/12/2007 |
Q: About 6 years ago when my wife and I were still dating, we got pregnant and it was not planned. My ...
A: What you're feeling is a very common reaction of men after an abortion. I'm going to recommend you ...
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| Rehashing | 12/10/2007 |
Q: Can you suggest a technique to help me stop mentally rehashing something? On Jan 4 2007 I suffered ...
A: If it's only been a year since you experienced a tragic event it's possible that you have not yet ...
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| secret baby | 12/9/2007 |
Q: I have a 4 month old son who i never ever want to hurt, but i know i am doing wrong by him already I ...
A: It's wise of you to be thinking now of what the future might hold for your son because he will one ...
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| 3 really young kids...on the verge of insanity! | 12/6/2007 |
Q: Ok, so maybe I'm not exactly going insane...but I bet it's close. Let me explain. I am 30 years ...
A: The frustration you're describing is certainly normal for a mother with three young children. You ...
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| Did I do Something wrong? | 12/3/2007 |
Q: I just caught my 6 year old daughter touching herself tonight after I put her to bed. I have ...
A: Young children are curious about their sexuality and they will experiment. That is developmentally ...
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| 5 year old daughter | 11/29/2007 |
Q: My daughter started kindergarten this year. She seems to love it and loves going. About a month ...
A: The stress that surrounds the holidays can cause tension during family gatherings. You're wise to ...
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| 5 year old daughter | 11/28/2007 |
Q: My daughter started kindergarten this year. She seems to love it and loves going. About a month ...
A: I can see how frustrated you are. I'm glad that you spoke to your daughters school and that the ...
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| Daughter's boyfriend | 11/17/2007 |
Q: My 18-yr-old daughter is pregnant by her 25-yr-old boyfriend. They have been living together since ...
A: This is a difficult position for you to be in. You love your daughter and don't want to see her get ...
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| Family's acceptance of disability | 11/8/2007 |
Q: I have recently been awarded SSDI for my agoraphobia. My mother and sister are extremely resentful ...
A: Is there someone in your family who understands and accepts your situation? You can depend on these ...
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| emergency help[ | 11/7/2007 |
Q: and I hope you are able to help me. This morning, my sister told me that she has noticed that her ...
A: I can see that you are frightened and concerned about your sister and this situation with her ...
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| Adolescent counseling theories | 10/27/2007 |
Q: Can you give me a quick overview of different adolescent counseling theories?
A: The theories for counseling adolescents are the same as those used for counseling adults. What's ...
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| long lost son | 10/19/2007 |
Q: We found out recently that my husband is the father of an 18 year old son. He had a general idea for ...
A: I applaud your ability to be accepting and supportive of your husband and his son. Not every spouse ...
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| Case management | 10/17/2007 |
Q: What can case managers do to optimize maintaining hard to handle patients in board-and-care ...
A: Let me ask you some questions. Are you being realistic in the expectations you have for your ...
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| my mom. | 10/17/2007 |
Q: ever since i turned 10, my mom made me and my sister clean every sunday. 2 years ago she started ...
A: You certainly have a lot of things to deal with. I can tell you are frustrated. It's not easy to ask ...
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| i feel bad and need someone to talk to... | 10/12/2007 |
Q: i am constantly feeling bad because this is my situation. i am 27, i live with my mom, my father has ...
A: You certainly have a lot on your mind. You're trying to sort things out and put your life in order ...
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| lifelong mental, social problems | 10/11/2007 |
Q: being 29, i just started to realize that i now have depression, social anxiety, learning and overall ...
A: I'm glad you met with a psychiatrist. His diagnosis fits the symptoms you had described. I encourage ...
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| lifelong mental, social problems | 10/10/2007 |
Q: being 29, i just started to realize that i now have depression, social anxiety, learning and overall ...
A: You have had a lot of disappointments in your life that have caused you great pain and you are still ...
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| friend question | 9/30/2007 |
Q: a good friend of mine came to my house for the first time. she was not being "abusive" to my dog, ...
A: Not all people feel comfortable with dogs jumping up on them. You know your dog and you know that ...
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| I met my biological dad | 9/26/2007 |
Q: This is a very complicated situation, I hope you can help. I am 28 years old and I found out my dad ...
A: I'm glad to read that finding your birth father has helped you connect to a part of your life you've ...
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| No drive? | 9/19/2007 |
Q: I'm 17, a senior in high school, and preparing for college. My problem is that I feel like I have no ...
A: Being a teenager can be very stressful, especially during the senior year of high school when ...
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| 16 yr old daughter in crisis | 9/13/2007 |
Q: My 16 year old daughter has had problems with school for a number of years. She is in the Juvenile ...
A: Rebecca, Thank you for elaborating about your relationship with your daughter. It helps me paint a ...
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| 16 yr old daughter in crisis | 9/12/2007 |
Q: My 16 year old daughter has had problems with school for a number of years. She is in the Juvenile ...
A: I can tell you love your daughter and are very concerned about her. I'd like to suggest you spend ...
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| ADHD 12 year old's unsociability | 9/10/2007 |
Q: I worry about my 12 year old son. He has ADHD and is on Concerta, which really helps with the ...
A: Making friends does not come easily to children with ADHD. Children with ADHD often have trouble ...
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| swallowing | 8/30/2007 |
Q: When I was in grade 12, we always went to church on sunday. It was half an hour trip and I would ...
A: I think you are on the right track in thinking that this is related to low self-esteem. When your ...
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