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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| coaching | 11/18/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: can you tell me about getting a life coaching certificate. what does it entail, how much does it ... A: David. First, I need to be upfront that my field is counseling and therapy and I don't practice as ... | ||
| Am I holding my roommate back? | 11/13/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I am an 18 year old Female in my first year at a large state university. Recently my roommate, who ... A: First, a reality check. We do not control others and others cannot control us. We can react to how ... | ||
| Dealing with change | 11/9/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: My family got a great dog yesterday, after months of planning and preparing. All family members ... A: No matter what you understand you have in the way of mental problems, you still have feelings, and ... | ||
| What is this called? | 11/5/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am looking for a technical name for what I do emotionally. I can go through major crisis (i.e. ... A: It is often a symptom of having survived early-childhood trauma and developing a protectively ... | ||
| LEGAL HIGHS | 11/5/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I stopped my meds about a week ago - my doctor gave me it for psychosis - but I don't think I have ... A: Every body's bodies are different. You don't know how they are going to react to drugs. Some drugs ... | ||
| A disgusting porn addiction | 11/1/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I am an eighteen year old female with a very twisted problem: a porn addiction. It started when I ... A: Sexual arousal is very susceptible to habit in relation to the source of stimulation. To stop porn ... | ||
| my mother | 10/29/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: My mother passed away three years ago from cancer. She was the only person who truly loved me and ... A: I am sorry to hear about your depress and anxiety, and also how you feel about yourself. You are ... | ||
| Cutting ties with a toxic mother | 10/28/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: Almost 2 years ago I cut ties with my mother after long and deep thought on my part. Growing up our ... A: It is wise to ignore them because they do not know how it feels to be in your position. They do not ... | ||
| Cutting ties with a toxic mother | 10/26/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: Almost 2 years ago I cut ties with my mother after long and deep thought on my part. Growing up our ... A: You have been doing the right thing by cutting ties from a very sick woman who will not get help. ... | ||
| have a question. | 10/15/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: i want to know what can i do to not lye to my wife i just need help. A: If you tell me what makes it unsafe to be honest with your wife, maybe I can offer a useful ... | ||
| Fear of losing my girlfriend | 10/15/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: My story has three girls. When I was young, I used to be a very jovial fearless boy. I had my first ... A: Here is the system I have shared with many people. If you are serious and follow it, you will ... | ||
| Fear of losing my girlfriend | 10/10/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: My story has three girls. When I was young, I used to be a very jovial fearless boy. I had my first ... A: Let’s start here. Feelings motivate behavior. Take a moment and think of a situation where you ... | ||
| My sister | 10/7/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I am 61 my sister is 60 recently there was a birthday party for her in arizona which our younger ... A: Fran, I agree. It's better to focus on what works rather than beat your head against the wall. ... | ||
| I know I need help but Im not sure what to do. | 10/5/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I'm a 33 year old female.Im married to a wonderful man and have much to be grateful for.Ive been in ... A: I am sorry you have been through so much in your childhood and young adult years. Also, I feel you ... | ||
| coping with guilt | 10/3/2011 | Marc Storr |
| Q: My 89 yr old mother had a serious accident last March in England,where my family are, I live in the ... A: The accident sounds serious and it must have been a stressful time for everyone. You present a very ... | ||
| My sister | 10/2/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I am 61 my sister is 60 recently there was a birthday party for her in arizona which our younger ... A: Fran. To begin with, it makes perfect sense to me that you feel the way that you do. Obviously you ... | ||
| attachments | 9/28/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I have a very silly problem that I'm hoping you can help me with. I seem to become very strongly ... A: Your question is not ridiculous. You are not a bad parent. There are a couple of things to think ... | ||
| Sister-in-law with drinking issues affecting the life of my husband an I ! | 9/15/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: My husband and I are both young only 25, we have been together since we were 16 and have two little ... A: You can never change someone else. You can only change yourself. It looks like your husband's ... | ||
| Two annoying problems | 9/12/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I’ve got two problems but I don’t know why this is happening. Physical contact makes me feel ... A: I suspect you are a normal "Grown Wounded Child" (GWC) - and your mother is also. The spankings ... | ||
| Domestic Violence | 9/10/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I am 14 years of age. I have a little brother that's 1. I have more siblings but he's the only one ... A: It takes many times for a woman to return to the abuser before she finally leaves. Tell her the ... | ||
| please guide me | 9/9/2011 | Marc Storr |
| Q: my husband(age:29) and i(age:25) live in a small room,he dont have job,he is trying for it,i ... A: I hope you and your husband are having a good day. From what you write it sounds like you're both ... | ||
| Decision problem | 9/6/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I don't have anyone to talk about my problem so here is it. First let me tell you about my family: ... A: Here is the reality. You cannot change other person. You can only change yourself. If things are ... | ||
| Please help me to help my wife: Narcissistic parents abuse, Rape Trauma, and now abusive relationship and Anti-social Personality Disorder | 9/6/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: Please extend your expertise and any further information you may offer me as a very concerned ... A: If she has no remorse and lies, how do you know she was actually raped by the neighbor? Anti-socials ... | ||
| Counseling | 9/4/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: I'm 19, often anxious and extremely insecure. How do I know if my problems are deep enough that I ... A: Emily, First of all, I'm not sure what "deep" means. Unfortunately in the field of ... | ||
| I want 2 get out of my relationship | 8/26/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I am joe.I am 19 years old. This is my first time having a girlfrend. We have just started dating.we ... A: If you marry a virgin, she will not be a virgin after you consummate. Then the question of virginity ... | ||
| Sibling problems | 8/20/2011 | Graig Yarbrough |
| Q: I have just read your answer to another question with interest. The question was about a sibling who ... A: If we examine it, the truth is we only control ourselves. That is why I wrote what I did for that ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: When a person has low self-esteem they may also have a negative body image. You can help her by ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: She is self-critical possibly because her parent was also. She needs to be able to give herself the ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: You can help by encouraging her to go to counseling with someone who specializes in domestic ... | ||
| Girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: I suspect Mel's shame started well before Jess, during early-childhood trauma: ... | ||
| Partner has a fetish | 8/15/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: I met a new man six months ago and we have formed a great relationship. We get along really well, ... A: Okay, to be honest, I don't think that this is something that can be fixed. Obviously this man ... | ||
| not sure what to do... | 8/14/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I am a teacher at a university and I run a discussion board for the students where they are able to ... A: I wonder if it would be appropriate to invite some group problem-solving - i.e. ask the students to ... | ||
| Partner has a fetish | 8/13/2011 | Laura Giles, MSW |
| Q: I met a new man six months ago and we have formed a great relationship. We get along really well, ... A: I am not really clear on what the problem is. Is it that you haven't actually had sex? Or that he is ... | ||
| Motivation | 8/10/2011 | Lavinia Albescu |
| Q: My parents have never shown any interest in my life especially when it comes to education. Whenever ... A: Since you seem to be very willing and motivated to change, the best way to approach this situation ... | ||
| How to answer child | 8/10/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I could use your input on how to best deal with my child appropriately in this situation. I grew up ... A: Use a structured approach with your mother. Limit the time to a short visit. If she becomes bullying ... | ||
| Was I abused? | 8/4/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I was wondering if I was abused or of I am just making something out of nothing. ? When I was in ... A: What you describe is not sexual abuse but normal childhood exploration. However, if you have been ... | ||
| What is my problem? | 8/2/2011 | Daniel Keeran |
| Q: I wasn't sure who to ask this question but you seemed best suited for it, if I have to wrong ... A: You seem to have strong need for the approval of others. It is very important as one matures to ... | ||
| Husband still in love with ex | 7/29/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help us. We are a middle-aged couple - hubby (58) and me (54). We have been ... A: I fear your options are limited. Here are some: 1) show your husband the articles I referred you to ... | ||
| how to handle an angry depressed son | 7/29/2011 | Joel Simon |
| Q: My husband and I had to legally commit our 22 year old son to a mood disorders ward. Yesterday he ... A: Kathy, first of all, why wouldn't it have a major affect on you? He is your son. In fact, I would ... | ||
| Husband still in love with "ex" | 7/25/2011 | Peter Gerlach, MSW |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help us. We are a middle-aged couple - hubby (58) and me (54). We have been ... A: From what you wrote, I suspect your husband is a "Grown Wounded Child" (GWC)- i.e. a survivor of ... | ||
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Daniel Keeran
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Expertise
I am able to answer personal questions about relationships, parent, child, self-help, marriage, counseling, depression, sexual abuse, rape trauma, bereavement, grief, death of loved one, child abduction, conflict at work, separation, divorce, break-up, fear of remaining single, infertility, childlessness, anger management, verbal abuse, family violence, repeating unhealthy relationships, substance abuse, addiction, childhood abuse, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, loneliness, co-dependency, porn addiction, religious alienation, bi-polar disorder, homelessness, anti-social personality, foster care, borderline personality disorder, psychology, mental health, adoption, bankruptcy, insomnia, agoraphobia, social anxiety
Experience
I have been a counselor for over 30 years in private practice and hospital settings. For deeper understanding and healing childhood experiences affecting adult life and relationships with self and others see the reader-friendly source http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442177993
Organizations
College of Professional Counseling and Therapy at http://www.counseling-skills.com
College of Mental Health Counseling at http://www.collegemhc.com
Publications
author,
"Effective Counseling Skills" at http://tinyurl.com/yen574x and
"Loss and Grief Counseling Skills" at http://tinyurl.com/35da8ov
Education/Credentials
MSW in psychiatric clinical social work
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