You are here:

Crowded House (Neil Finn)/not the girl you think you are

Advertisement


Loula wrote at 2007-12-15 00:35:45
I have a different interpretation. I see this as a bitter song from the singer towards a lover  who is seeing another man and is trying to forget her feelings for the singer.



The line 'you're not the girl you think you are' describes his feeling that the woman is trying to make herself believe and act like she is someone else to please this other man and hiding her true self.



The line 'they're not his shoes under your bed' indicate that the singer is the one that her heart belongs to and is maybe married to i.e. sharing a bed with'.



The new man is obviously wealthy and takes her to nice places she 'won't forget'. However, the singer reminds her that her friends may be impressed with the image of her driving past in an expensive car but that they will not be able to recognise her because she is pretending to be someone else.



The singer then says 'he won't decieve you or tell you the truth'. He wont lie to her, however he will not tell her the truth as a true lover would (i.e. the singer as he does in this very song).



He says 'he'll be no trouble' and 'wont write letters full of excuses' i.e. he will be fine and polite but he will lack the passion and feeling that those letters (implicitly those of the singer) convey. It is implied that the singer and the woman have had a turbulent relationship and that he has let her down a lot in the past.



The singer then says 'come on, believe you have one in a million'..a sarcastic encouragement as he clearly thinks that this substitute with a rich but not passionate man is no comparison to the love between himself and the woman. He thinks she is trying to convince herself although she knows it is untrue.



He says the mirror makes her look tall but it's in her head. Quite a nasty line...the woman believes she looks empowered and that she is over the singer however, inside she knows it's not true.



In the final verse..the word 'one' (in a million) changes to 'won' (believe you have won). This is again a sarcastic message as if to say...go on..believe you are over me...beleive you have won this argument...both I and you know that really it is not true!



The melancholic and wistful tune fits with this explanation and Neil Finn's songs are often in a similar melancholic and bitter vein.



I have listed the lyrics below so you can read them with my explanation in mind:





You're not the girl you think you are

they're not his shoes under your bed

they take you places in his car

but you won't forget

And all the people that you know

will turn their heads as you go by

but you'll be hard to recognize

with the top down and the wind blowing, blowing



He won't deceive you or tell you the truth

woman, he'll be no trouble

he won't write you letters

full of excuses

come on, believe you have one in a million



You're not the girl you think you are

someone's standing in your place

the bathroom mirror makes you look tall

but it's all in your head, in your head



He won't deceive you or tell you the truth

woman, he'll be no trouble

he won't write you letters

full of excuses

come on, believe you have one in a million



He won't deceive you or tell you the truth

come on, believe you have won

you're not the girl you think you are

believe you have won

you're not the girl you think you are

believe you have won

you're not the girl you think you are





From the Recurring Dream collection





Lyrics Copyright 1996 Neil Finn (Roundhead Music).




hel wrote at 2010-01-01 01:12:52
I think its about an older wealthier woman who has a young but flighty boyfriend. He adds excitement to her life but in fact she realises that it is not the lasting relationship she wants. I have thought a lot about this song but these are the only lyrics that dont seem contradictory to me.


Njjj wrote at 2013-06-10 19:20:32
I googled for this as I felt that the lyrics could be interpreted so many ways I couldn't work it out. Every line seemed to change my mind, yet somehow this all works.



What a great lyricist!!!!


bobobo wrote at 2016-11-28 03:06:03
 The song is simply saying that " your not who you think you are".  Furthermore it is saying that the person who you think you want is only a product of not knowing who you are. P.


Crowded House (Neil Finn)

All Answers


Ask Experts

Volunteer


C.A. Smith

Expertise

I can answer almost anything about the band--particularly about Neil Finn. I have constructed a time-line that outlines every important event throughout Split Enz / Crowded House / Finn brothers history. I know the lyrics to virtually every song recorded by Split Enz or either of the Finn brothers. I have met the Finn brothers more than once, as well as Paul Hester, Mark Hart, and Nick Seymour. I lived in Australia close to where Crowded House memmbers formerly lived.

Experience

I am a musician and studied and played their music. I have met the band on more than one occasion. I have constructed a time line, discography, and catalog of lyrics for everything this band has ever done.

Organizations
CH fan club, Tim Finn fan club

©2016 About.com. All rights reserved.