AboutValerie Expertise My answers are to women only! The truth is, Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars! A woman will not get the same answer from a man as she will from another woman. Life is totally different for the "Baby Boomers" of today and dating is not what it was 30 years ago.
Experience Being a woman over 50 and facing a new life challenge of being single and dating for the first time in over 36 years was an eye-opening experience! I made it a "Quest" to research, "Dating"! After interviewing hundreds of both men and women in the "New Age of Dating" after 50, I have complied my study data into a systemized plan of "Finding Mr. Right". If you're over 50 and dating---I have the answers to your questions. I promise, my plan will help you make better choices in the men you date and eventually find Mr. Right.
I've noticed something. I've seen that very very sexy men, such as those guys that are typically 'players' or 'womanizers' have tons of experience with women. They are incredibly intelligent and are extremely clever and cunning as to how to deal with the ladies, and tell women exactly what they want to hear so that girls fall madly in love with them. These men are always high profile and high powered. They are doctors, lawyers, CEOs, actors, famous musicians, etc. Since they are so incredibly good looking and so suave and smooth, they go to a bar and get laid every single night. Or at least they come back with tons of numbers of willing women. So they bed tons of amazing hot sexy girls.
But I have noticed something. When they go for a serious relationship, the women they date tend to be very plain. They are boring, naive, too happy and trusting, not too bright, very average, not terribly career oriented, content with being a 'housewife' type, not making much money, and not having a whole lot to offer.
It seems strange to me that these men, who can get ANY gorgeous, intelligent, amazing woman they desire, end up settling down with Plain Jane.
Why is that?
Also...the other thing is...when they marry the 'Plain Jane' they always keep on cheating on her for the rest of their life with the hot, sexy girls from before. They never stop. They always have several women to bang on the side.
I dont understand it. If Plain Jane does not satisfy them sexually and bores them emotionally/intellectually, then why do they bother marrying these girls? why didn't they go for the amazing hot smart fun girl they could have easily had? is it because she is too smart and will have figured him out?
Why is that? Can you explain this phenomenon?
thank you :)
ANSWER: Ana,
I am not an authority on this subject, but I can give you my honest opinion and see if you agree or disagree!
These macho, beautiful men are very shallow characters. They tend to date these very attractive, intelligent women and use them as "Show-pieces". They love to show off their "prize" to other men, especially in public.
But when it comes to marriage, they know that it is the "Plain Jane" who will make the best wife. She will stay at home and cook and clean and even bare children for him. These women don't have the looks or even the desire to go off and cheat on him, so they are a safe bet!
You can say, that these type of men "have their cake and eat it too"!
After they get their Plain Jane to be the loving, stay at home wife, they can again go out and show off to their buddies that they can still have the gorgeous mistress on the side.
These type of men have NO MORALES, NO LIFE VALUES and above all NO DECENCY. In my opinion, try to stay far away from any of these men. Go and find yourself a trusty, hardworking, average looking man, who will make a great husband and father.
Good Luck,
Valerie
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QUESTION: I'm a very beautiful woman (I look like Eva Longoria from Desperate Housewives) and I am going to become a doctor. I am debating whether to become a surgeon or not. But either way, I am going to be an attractive, intelligent, high income, high powered woman.
I am actually a very laid back person, but just happen to be going into that kind of career.
In your experience, what is the best type of man for me to marry. What works out the best for women like me?
thanks
Answer Ana,
You need to make a list of values that you want in a man. It may sound ridiculous, but even the smallest things like having good teeth, being affectionate, putting on Cologne aftershave can be items on your list.
Then get serious about the values you want - honesty, trustworthy, romantic, sexy, etc. etc. you get the idea!
The chemistry has to be there and the sparks do need to fly. Build a relationship and take your time in getting to really know the person. Take up to a year to spend time together before making any commitments.
Make sure Mr. Right has all the same interests as you do...if you like reading and traveling, then he should like doing those things too. If you "settle" for someone who you feel is almost RIGHT and you think that you will have the opportunity to change the little things about him that you don't like - forget it! It just doesn't work that way. If there is something you don't like, then find someone else.
"Trust your Heart - but use your head!" That's my advice.
