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Experience A dating coach, specializing in "second time around" dating for men and women re-entering the dating scene after divorce. Also an online dating profile writer for e-cyrano.com for two years working with men and women across the country and around the world with excellent results. "The profile Leslie wrote for me was wonderful, and I really enjoyed speaking with her on the phone. I'm looking forward now to lots more fun in the future with all the dates I get!" -- Robyn, Sydney, Australia.
Sex is a primary, basic human instinct. Both men and women were designed with sexual desire at the beginning of time in order to promote the continuation of the human species. It ensured that procreation would continue for thousands of years. And apparently it has been working well, because the world population is now 7 billion people.
So my question is this - why does modern society prohibit women from expressing their sexual desires? ALL humans are sexual people. Granted there is MUCH MUCH more to us than just that of course. Sex is NOT everything, and it is not the most important thing (obviously the most important is what kind of human being you are, how you treat others, are you kind, dependable, respectable, mature, etc) but sex is ONE of the aspects of human beings.
Why are women not allowed to express this? I'm not saying in a slutty way...I'm saying women should be allowed to express their sexuality in a healthy way.
Why do you think modern society has placed these kinds of limits on us ladies?
thanks
Ana
Answer Ana,
These restrictions have been around far longer than our modern society, and are tied to traditional male/female roles. Women have made some progress.
The double standard is still a prevalent perspective, which can be unfortunate for normal, healthy women. Once an exclusive relationship is established, a woman should be able to express all of her desires. Her partner should respond in kind. If this is not possible within the relationship, it's time to move on. Intimacy is critical.
We must take some of the responsibility for perpetuating the innocent, must-be-captured myth. Until women feel more comfortable with their own sexuality and don't use it as a tool for manipulation, change will not happen.
