AboutValerie Expertise My answers are to women only! The truth is, Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars! A woman will not get the same answer from a man as she will from another woman. Life is totally different for the "Baby Boomers" of today and dating is not what it was 30 years ago.
Experience Being a woman over 50 and facing a new life challenge of being single and dating for the first time in over 36 years was an eye-opening experience! I made it a "Quest" to research, "Dating"! After interviewing hundreds of both men and women in the "New Age of Dating" after 50, I have complied my study data into a systemized plan of "Finding Mr. Right". If you're over 50 and dating---I have the answers to your questions. I promise, my plan will help you make better choices in the men you date and eventually find Mr. Right.
Question Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the world? This has nothing to do with who the guy is. It could be a boyfriend/husband, or it could be just any guy, brother, friend, father etc. Even lesbians have told me that when a man holds them they feel awesome. What is it about women that crave this feeling?
Second question -
I am a 26 year old woman. I like a guy who is 39 years old and he seems to like me a lot. We are both in medical school together and we are both going to become doctors. He was in the army for 10 years prior to coming to med school. he has been through A LOT in the army.
He seems lonely and kind of horny too. But I can tell he's basically a good guy and has been hurt by women in the past so I'm willing to give him a chance. I like him a lot.
Despite his age, experience, and his good looks, he seems very simple and also seems to have no clue as to how to move things forward with a woman. I find this odd considering how many long term girlfriends he's had.
Ok so what can you tell me. I've never dated a guy older than me, all the guys I've dated are young 19-24 range.
So maybe it will be nice to date a real man for a change ... instead of training a boy... or changing diapers (just kidding)
Can you tell me any problems you see with our age difference?
He's almost 15 years my senior
thanks
~ jaci ~
Answer Jaci,
Although I usually answer questions from older women who are in the dating scene, I will try to give my own opinions regarding your relationship.
First, I believe the caressing and the comfort we receive from being held is a natural instinctive feeling that we all have from birth. It is the comforting feeling that we receive from our Mothers from the time of birth. Even men receive much comfort from being held by a woman, even though they are too macho to admit it.
Secondly,
My daughter had always liked dating older guys...when she was in high school even senior boys were not mature enough for her. When she went to college the same scenario occurred. I thought she would never find the right guy and get married. Then one day she brought Tom over to watch the Super Bowl at our house. While he sat in the living room with the rest of the guests, she came quietly into the kitchen to ask me about dating Tom. Tom is 11 years older than she and yet he is a "young" boy at heart. He was in the Army Reserves and was a complete gentleman, he was witty and charming and handsome. I told her that maybe he was just what she was looking for in a man. And I gave her my blessings!
To make a long story short, they dated, they lived together for a year and then they got married. They are married now and have a 4 year old fantastic son (the love of my life, my grandson).
Tom is now 41 years old. Although he is the Greatest Dad, they have decided that he is too old to have another child and to have the pleasure of sharing active years with his child. So my daughter who is only now turning 30, is still young enough to have another child, will have to be happy with only one.
So there are a lot of detailed items to get ironed out before you make a commitment. I think about the future of my daughter. When Tom is 70 years old, my daughter will only be 59. Knowing my daughter, she will want to be extremely active and I'm not sure how Tom will be able to keep up with her!
Take all things into consideration with your relationship! Love is a strange thing! It has no age limitations.
