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Expert: Leslie Meredith Date: 5/25/2008 Subject: dating
Question Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the world? This has nothing to do with who the guy is. It could be a boyfriend/husband, or it could be just any guy, brother, friend, father etc. Even lesbians have told me that when a man holds them they feel awesome. What is it about women that crave this feeling?
Second question -
I am a 26 year old woman. I like a guy who is 39 years old and he seems to like me a lot. We are both in medical school together and we are both going to become doctors. He was in the army for 10 years prior to coming to med school. he has been through A LOT in the army.
He seems lonely and kind of horny too. But I can tell he's basically a good guy and has been hurt by women in the past so I'm willing to give him a chance. I like him a lot.
Despite his age, experience, and his good looks, he seems very simple and also seems to have no clue as to how to move things forward with a woman. I find this odd considering how many long term girlfriends he's had.
Ok so what can you tell me. I've never dated a guy older than me, all the guys I've dated are young 19-24 range.
So maybe it will be nice to date a real man for a change ... instead of training a boy... or changing diapers (just kidding)
Can you tell me any problems you see with our age difference?
He's almost 15 years my senior
thanks
~ jaci ~
Answer Jaci,
Yes, being held by a man, particularly by one you like and trust, is comforting. An instant feeling of security ... if momentary. Must be biology.
Now to your new interest. All men, regardless of age, know how to proceed with a woman who interests them. Frankly, age is not the critical factor, but attitude and personality, character and upbringing. His military experiences may have more of an impact on his relationships with people than anything else.
It's great you two have your careers in common. I'd let him pace the relationship, but make it clear what behavior is acceptable to you and what is not. If he calls at the last minute, you may not be available. If he is in a bad mood, you do not have to suffer along with him if you don't want to: Let him know you'd like to get together when he feels better ... in a pleasant way. Do not indulge bad behavior or you'll simple see it more and more frequently.
