AboutTerri Matheis Expertise I have been divorced twice and have dated extensively! I can answer any question on the subject of dating.
Experience I have been divorced twice and have dated extensively! I don't think that there is a male personality type that I have not encountered at one point or another. I am also the founder of the Sassy Pink Peppers, a nationwide social group for divorced and separated women, thus I have a very good handle on mid-life dating from a woman's point of view through the stories I have been told.
Expert: Terri Matheis Date: 5/25/2008 Subject: dating
Question Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the world? This has nothing to do with who the guy is. It could be a boyfriend/husband, or it could be just any guy, brother, friend, father etc. Even lesbians have told me that when a man holds them they feel awesome. What is it about women that crave this feeling?
Second question -
I am a 26 year old woman. I like a guy who is 39 years old and he seems to like me a lot. We are both in medical school together and we are both going to become doctors. He was in the army for 10 years prior to coming to med school. he has been through A LOT in the army.
He seems lonely and kind of horny too. But I can tell he's basically a good guy and has been hurt by women in the past so I'm willing to give him a chance. I like him a lot.
Despite his age, experience, and his good looks, he seems very simple and also seems to have no clue as to how to move things forward with a woman. I find this odd considering how many long term girlfriends he's had.
Ok so what can you tell me. I've never dated a guy older than me, all the guys I've dated are young 19-24 range.
So maybe it will be nice to date a real man for a change ... instead of training a boy... or changing diapers (just kidding)
Can you tell me any problems you see with our age difference?
He's almost 15 years my senior
thanks
~ jaci ~
Answer It sounds to me like he has not made any moves towards you which makes you think that he doesn't "have a clue". Perhaps.
My advice is to sit still and let him figure it out. If he is interested in you, don't you want a MAN who can come forward without you doing all of the work? Who wants to hold the hand of a 39 year old man and help him understand women and dating? You might as well continue to change diapers!!
As to the problems with a man who is 15 years older...
He's only 39 and you are 26. You are both in the prime years and look really good. He's got about 11 years left and then he's going to start aging and you are only going to be 37. THAT is a problem. Not for the man...but you are still going to have energy and a desire to get out and about. He is going to want to start taking it easy. You will be the stereotypical bird in the gilded cage.
My advice is to stick with men your own age range. There is a vast selection available to you!!
