AboutTerri Matheis Expertise I have been divorced twice and have dated extensively! I can answer any question on the subject of dating.
Experience I have been divorced twice and have dated extensively! I don't think that there is a male personality type that I have not encountered at one point or another. I am also the founder of the Sassy Pink Peppers, a nationwide social group for divorced and separated women, thus I have a very good handle on mid-life dating from a woman's point of view through the stories I have been told.
Expert: Terri Matheis Date: 6/1/2008 Subject: dating in 2008
Question Hi,
I have noticed lately that when I meet a man, I have to do all the work. Such as asking him for his phone number, suggesting we get together for lunch, picking the place, where to go, what to do, and when and how to take it to the next level.
I don't mind doing this from time to time, and I like giving men quite a few chances.
However, as of late, it seems like many men don't know how to move things forward.
I don't mind doing this at all for men in their 20s.
But this situation is occuring even in men in their 30s and 40s! It's almost like I have to hold their hands and baby them and change their diapers.
Even after we get into a relaitonship, it seems like they don't know what to do.
And they seem very immature sexually.
ON the flip side, there are many men who DO know how to move things forward, and ARE mature enough to move things forward both relatoinship wise and sexually as well.
So no not all men are like one way or the other, there are individual cases.
I am just noticing that a HUGE proprotion of "older, experienced" men don't know what to do.
You would think that by this late age, with all the decades of dating they've done, they would know how to move things forward. But they don't. And can't.
Answer My impression is that you are a very strong women who tends to take charge. Some men like that and some men don't. Some are intimidated and some are not.
I would stick with the men who DO know how to make things move forward without your help. The pickings might be fewer, but those men are stronger than you and do not find you intimidating. You will appreciate their ability to take charge even more so down the road if you should get into a oommitted relationship. In a marriage, they will be men in whom you will feel confidence.
